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Do Women Get "Blue Balls" Too?

Do Women Get "Blue Balls" Too?

A couple weeks ago I posted about whether blue balls were a real condition: When a guy becomes aroused, blood rushes to his nether regions and an erection is born. If he doesn't have an orgasm, many guys claim they're left with an unbearable feeling below the waist known as "blue balls."

So is there some equivalent condition for women? To find out


Yes, women can experience the same thing. This feeling is both physically irritating and emotionally frustrating. It's a type of vasocongestion, which basically means swelling of tissues due to increased blood flow. For women, there's no specific term for this issue. I think it has to do with the fact that scientifically speaking, it's no big deal for a woman not to have an orgasm since the purpose of sex is to have babies. A female orgasm doesn't make that happen, but a guy's does, so that's why his orgasm may be considered more important. I also think that it's become socially acceptable for a guy to climax every time he has sex. Maybe men thought that if they came up with a name for this condition, we'd feel more obligated to "cure" the problem, but puleeze — women deserve to orgasm just as often as men!

The good news is that although it may be tough to fall asleep with your mind on sex, the physical aching quickly subsides as soon as the blood flow to the area decreases. With both men and women, you don't have to worry about this feeling causing any harm to your privates. If you're experiencing "blue balls," there's no reason why you can't just take matters into your own hands, if you know what I mean!


cynofmen cynofmen 8 years
So ladies you will be happy to know that me and my friends named this condition... we are calling it "Blue Beaver" or if you prefer "Angry Beaver"... so you make sure your men cure it... there not the only ones who need to get off... take care and try to stay satisfied.
Autumns_Elegy Autumns_Elegy 8 years
I get this all too often. The sad thing is, I've learned to live with it. I don't bitch or whine, I just deal. My partner however is the complete opposite, he'll whine about he's now limited to his hand and how frustrating, annoying and disappointing it is.
sparklestar sparklestar 8 years
Oh, I just tell him he's not done yet. :D None of this problem for me thanks.
RaCheer RaCheer 8 years
I've experienced an aching kind of throb when I want it and can't have it!
Veronix Veronix 8 years
I hate that feeling. I always get angry at my boyfriend when he comes to quickly and is too tired to continue with me (in some other way ofcourse) but when I come before him, he starts to complain like crazy "it huuuuurts" until I do something about it. That's just stupid.
OrangeSugar OrangeSugar 8 years
Women get stopped right before orgasm ALL THE FREAKING TIME (helloooo premature ejaculation!) but we don't make such a fuss about it like men do. They moan and groan and generally carry on about how blue balls are sooooo awful...whatever. Spare me the whining. Although I must admit, being thisclose and not getting to orgasm brings an unholy rage from this lady. Thank god I have some *ahem* toys....or I might turn into the next Lorena Bobbitt!! Hahaha!! :-D
adorKablefae adorKablefae 8 years
Oh my gooddddd... So, let's just say my guy and I play a lot of games, and he /really/ likes to tease me- Well. It got really bad last weekend. It was exactly like Karlotta said- hyena in heat and all that. So aggravating!!
Tech-Babe Tech-Babe 8 years
More like pink balls.
DCStar DCStar 8 years
Karlotta - I love your description of a hyena clinging to the drapes! Very funny and yes I know the feeling too! It's like a swelling, pulsing feeling.
queenlizzie queenlizzie 8 years
It happens. It happened to me lastnight. Ugh.
it's okay if neither of us get off. but if he comes inside me, and i don't get to...i feel agitated physically and mentally. it takes hours for my clit to stop feeling irritated. (and girls, you know how you're wet all day because you didn't get off AND his cum is was in there!) i feel angry and the only thing that fixes it is a really good orgasm. not because i'm turned on, just because i need the release. i know that's really revealing, but that's my answer!
princess_eab princess_eab 8 years
Interestingly, though, a woman having an orgasm does increase the likelihood of conception. So female orgasms DO serve some reproductive purpose - they help things along even if they're not strictly necessary...
lauraxtc lauraxtc 8 years
Yes, I hate it when they leave me hanging. I get irritated and frustrated so I go and take a long bath with candles on. I like to orgasm every time I have sex. and If I dont get it, I do get upset. lol. But I got some new toys so yay!
karlotta karlotta 8 years
I know the feeling. When my BF and I first started dating, I was like a hyena in heat, and he had the same "normal" sex drive he has today, so I spent many nights wanting to cling to the drapes screaming at the top of my lungs. The good thing is that his libido hasn't wavered one bit, but mine has come back to human proportions, so this never happens anymore. But boy was it something! Never thought just looking at a skinny geeky guy with glasses from across the room could set me on fire this way. Oh boy. Talking about it... I hope he comes home soon!
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