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Do You Agree With Bristol Palin That Abstinence Is Unrealistic?

When Sarah Palin was running for vice president, it was all over the news that her daughter, Bristol Palin, only 17 years old, was pregnant and engaged to marry her high school boyfriend. Now 18 and a new mom, she's speaking out in hopes of preventing other young teens from becoming parents. In an interview with Greta Van Susteren on a recent FOX News segment, Bristol said she wants to be an advocate against teen pregnancy, and encourages all teens to wait 10 years until they're married, living in their own home, and stable in their career before starting a family.

Even though her mother is a staunch "right to life" advocate, Bristol believes that in this day and age, her mother's view on abstinence is "not realistic at all." So what do you think? Do you agree that sex is acceptable at a younger age now and pregnancy prevention is what should be the main focus in schools? Or should educators still try to push teens to be abstinent?

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N4RPS N4RPS 5 years
This 'abstinence is unrealistic' viewpoint is a lie from hell. Both Bristol AND Levi get this notion from Sarah. It is something that anyone who thinks of voting for her should consider before doing so. I'm here to tell you that abstinence until marriage IS realistic! To close, so much for the 'high moral ground' of the GOP. What it IS is hypocrisy. No, I'm not a Democrat, either. I vote with my conscience.
inlove23 inlove23 7 years
I think teaching just abstinence is teaching ignorance because if someone does not know the facts then they will not realize how to protect theirselves when the time does come. A lot of young girls are pressured into having sex, and they need ready tools (wear a condom, birth control, how to prevent against STDS, etc), to have when the moment comes. A teenage girl does not need the world telling her no because teenagers love to rebel.
sparklestar sparklestar 8 years
I work with teen mothers who are homeless/facing homelessness. You know what would wake up some of these kids who leave high school and think they can get pregnant for a comfortable life?? VISITING A MOTHER AND BABY UNIT. You DO NOT want to end up in one of those. The girls I work with are typically uneducated and of lower classes - Bristol is a real "anomaly"... I guess she can thank her overbearing mother for giving her enough confidence issues to need to have sex young. Seriously.
Colleeninator Colleeninator 8 years
I think it's unrealistic to expect everyone to abstain simply because people that don't want to, won't. Here we go, CP: You say the people that think it's not realistic have no control. Well, if they have no control... then it's not realistic to expect those people to abstain, is it? And if some people can't remain abstinent, then it's not realistic for the whole population. And I think the more important question is not whether people CAN remain abstinent, but whether people will choose to remain abstinent. Plenty of people will hear "Don't have sex!" and think "Okay, why?" and then do it anyways, and get pregnant and acquire all kinds of nasty STDs because no one ever told them how to use a condom.
CaterpillarGirl CaterpillarGirl 8 years
the people who do not think its realistic, have no control
MrsRachel MrsRachel 8 years
Good grief! I hate it when people don't believe that abstinence is realistic. I dated my husband for over three years, was engaged for a little less than one, and we were both virgins on our wedding night (at age 22). Many of my friends were "able" to do this as well. We the age of the "Fast Food Syndrome". I want X and I want it now. I will not wait. I will not be patient. Give me X. Let me tell you, waiting wasn't always easy, but it also wasn't always hard. And I am so glad that I did.
Jinx Jinx 8 years
I agree. Abstinence is unrealistic.
pioneers pioneers 8 years
I'm sorry, but the main issue here is that she is saying that teens should "wait ten years to have sex" and then that "abstinence is not realistic." ...didn't you just say that people should abstain?
sundaygreen sundaygreen 8 years
The fact of the matter is that the concept of 'this day and age' isn't applicable. Teens are going to bone eachother no matter what - and it doesn't matter what year you're living in! Do you think teens weren't fucking when Sarah Palin was growing up? It's about teaching safe sex. The minute you tell someone they're not supposed to do something - they want to do it.
Autumns_Elegy Autumns_Elegy 8 years
I think that both contraceptives and abstinence should be taught equally and treated as a personal choice, not something that is forced on anyone. In Aus both are taught and it seems to do most people a world of good. I don't think abstinence is unrealistic, I just think that it should be treated as a personal choice, and those that choose it are making a decision based upon facts and personal beliefs instead of doing it cause someone else told them to.
cotedazur cotedazur 8 years
Why does abstinence need to be "taught"? What is there to teach? Proper use of contraception, on the other hand, requires information, education, knowledge... and that's why schools should teach sex ed. It's completely unreasonable to expect that an entire class will wait until marriage to have sex.
starbucks2 starbucks2 8 years
I find it very strange to teach abstinence...Kids are ready when they're ready. Might be with 14, might be with 24. But when they do have sex, they need to know all about std's and birth control.
0fashionqueen 0fashionqueen 8 years
Yes I do because sex is a very tricky thing to avoid in today's society and if you are a drinker you can lose control. So you never know what is going on around you.
macchiatolove macchiatolove 8 years
I completely agree with sourcherry. Abstinence itself is not unrealistic, but as many other posters have said, abstinence only education IS. It's dangerous to prevent teens from getting the information they need to make their own informed decision. Abstinence is fine, but A. It should not be pushed on anyone, and B. it should be the choice of the individuals involved, not their parents, friends, teachers or anyone else. I once dated a guy who had been taught sex education in a religious, Pro-Abstinence environment, and he'd somehow got the idea that women were pregnant for 11 months! If he couldn't even figure gestation periods out, how much did he know about how to properly use condoms or other birth control, their effectiveness, and the danger of STDs, not to mention how best to detect and/or prevent them! I say, teens should be given the opportunity to make the best choice for THEM. whatever that may be, as well as access to condoms and/or other forms of contraceptive.
le-romantique le-romantique 8 years
Its not for everyone. But it can work, I'm living proof. I'm almost 21 and I'm still a virgin. I believe schools should teach both abstinence and methods of birth control... my school did.
glamourette142 glamourette142 8 years
Sex education should included both choosing to be abstinence and how to protect yourself if you decided not to be and what forms of birth control are out there.
Beaner Beaner 8 years
I think both should be discussed in schools, but discussion of birth control methods is a must. More often than not, teens are going to experiment and choose to have sex than abstain, so they need to know how to protect themselves from STIs and pregnancy.
Rebecca14916991 Rebecca14916991 8 years
I think that it is unrealistic. Sex ed shouldn't be about one extreme or the other, but include both, and also stress that abstinence is a perfectly good choice for boys as well as girls. I knew so many girls in high school who were respected if they wanted to wait, but most guys got totally humiliated if it was found out they were virgins, especially junior and senior year. I think that it should be taught that abstinence in guys is good too, and that they are to be respected for that choice, at the very least because they're looking out for more than just themselves in the long run by making it. Girls and abstinence means not getting themselves pregnant; guys and abstinence means that they won't get a girl pregnant, and by making that choice a guy is taking responsibility for his actions towards women, which I heartily applaud.
omilawd omilawd 8 years
Educators should never push teens to do anything! They should present all sides of the spectrum and let them make their own decisions. And I agree with Bristol; it's so unrealistic to think that everyone's going to be married before they have sex. That barely ever happens anymore. People 15-30 are more sexually open than ever before, and that's another reason why parents and middle/high schools should teach how to be sexually safe.
free-fallin free-fallin 8 years
i think its very unrealistic to expect teens not to have sex. adults make it seem so important and unbelievable, why wouldnt kids want to do it?! teaching birth control and consequences of not using it would be much more affective than saying not to have sex at all. its impossible to expect abstinence from teens who see it everywhere, magazines, TV, books....
GScott86 GScott86 8 years
Well...I wouldn't totally say it's unrealistic, but if you just teach how to wait, and not how to be safe as well as values, what good is that? Not everyone is "smart" some people are so naive that all they will know is "don't do it" and neglect safety when they do end up doing it.
princess_eab princess_eab 8 years
and p.s. I just gained a HUGE amount of respect for Bristol Palin. With the cost of birth control these days, teens are fighting an uphill battle against pregnancy especially if they have strict parents who refuse to give guidance on sex matters. Abstinence is fantastic, and it worked for me for a long time, but I concede that it's definitely not the most effective real-world solution, and I applaud Bristol Palin for actually realizing that.
princess_eab princess_eab 8 years
Look, it's a nice idealistic thing that everybody wants to see, and I was a HUGE abstinence and pro-life advocate as a teen, so I think I have a unique perspective on this. I was a virgin for a very, very long time, but as I've grown up and lived in the "real world" I agree that abstinence is just not realistic as a goal for society. As a goal for yourself, fabulous, I'm all for it. But you can't use abstinence education in public policy - it simply doesn't work, and it makes teen pregnancy rates rise. Big government studies of the past 10 years (studying recently implemented abstinence-only education programs) show that abstinence education makes absolutely zero impact on the amount of teens having sex, and may even damage safe sex practices. As an adult and a pragmatist, my policy goal would be to a) lower health care costs and b) reduce abortions. The only way to lower teen pregnancy rates via public health polivy is with comprehensive sex education and affordable birth control. Otherwise, we are really living in a dream world where lots of women will suffer.
margokhal margokhal 8 years
Like I said when this was posted in CitizenSugar: Forget about what's "realistic" - let's talk about REALITY. In reality, there are people who, for whatever reason, choose to abstain from sex for a certain period of time/until marriage/forever. In reality, there are ALSO people who have sex. BOTH being abstinent and sexually active are REALISTIC in this sense, because they BOTH really happen. I agree that abstinence-only education does a disservice to teens. We should be teaching a comprehensive view of sexual health that includes BOTH sex ed and abstinence. Because, as I said before, BOTH are realistic. A lot of the problem comes from what people EXPECT others to do. We either expect everyone to not have sex until the "appropriate" time, or we expect everyone to have sex now. Neither of these expectations is correct, because everyone is different and DOESN'T ACT the same way. The truth is, everyone has a CHOICE. You can choose to have sex, or you can choose not to. So teach sex ed as though it IS a choice. Place the same emphasis on both ways: if you choose to be abstinent, this is what you will face and how you can deal with it. If you choose to have sex, these are the other issues you will have to face, and this is what you need to do to protect yourself and deal with these other issues. I find that to be pretty simple - but in reality, nothing ever is.
lickety-split lickety-split 8 years
sex should not be taught in schools. are you serious, the schools can't even teach what's on the reports cards now (english, math, science) NOTHING needs to be added to the list of what schools are responsible for.
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