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Do You Believe in the Idea of a Soul Mate?

The very concept of a soul mate sounds hopelessly hippie and '60s. But for some romantics, there is one person out there and they won't settle for less. Perhaps they imagine when The One shows up, a rainbow will suddenly appear and a unicorn will jump over it holding a bouquet of roses. (Or something like that.)

Even the rather dry philosopher Plato imagined that at one point, people might have been divided in two and that they spend the rest of their lives looking for their other half.

There are pragmatics who believe you should, in the words of Crosby Stills Nash & Young, "Love the one you're with," and then there are the hopeless romantics who may pass up perfectly wonderful prospects in order to see that unicorn jumping over the rainbow. Do you believe in the idea of a soul mate? Or do you think it's corny and unrealistic?


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dikke-kus dikke-kus 8 years
Soul mates? It's my sister. My twin sister. She is like my other half. I never found another relationship so close as that. I don't care to talk to anyone sometimes except for her. Maybe I didn't need so much to fill some empty void. However I still felt the need for a man just as any healthy woman wants. As for my husband. I have a good story. I had something really odd happen when I was thinking of ending things with him before we were ever married. I opened up a gigantic 800 page phone book to his name. His name is unusual, and it is only listed on one page of the phone book here. At the time I opened it I was thinking of ending things. It was complicated since he lived in another country. After it happened I booked a ticket to see him immediately. Are there some outer forces we all don't understand? Well, who knows. Maybe if you recognize a sign you might just find that person....
XtCy XtCy 8 years
I Found my soul mate at 18. I might be young but the saying that goes " if you love it let it go and if it comes back it was meant to be and if it never returns it was never meant for you" applies to me and my husband very much. we separated for 2 months and tried dating other people and it never worked. We are in the process of getting our relationship under control and im loving every minute of it :)
LittleMzFit LittleMzFit 8 years
I understand what you are saying Lisa, but it's a two way street & sometimes you have to let go of them no matter how painful it may be. If they come back, then it's meant to be. Then, you'll know that the person was truly a soulmate. If not, then consider yourself blessed that you at least knew/loved them for that moment in time. I don't think that means that you cannot move on. But, it sure makes it difficult.
hypnoticmix hypnoticmix 8 years
I don’t believe in the concept of (a) soul mate but I believe that there are several if not thousands of candidates out there who can fill the job quite nicely. But even with those odds it’s still quite a daunting task trying to find one of them. I managed to find one when I was 21 the moment our eyes met for the first time it was unlike any of the thousands of times I’ve looked into other people’s eyes. There was a connection I could not explain. As our friendship progressed we would call each other in the evening and sometimes we’d find the sun had caught us in the morning on the same phone call. Hours would go by and we never ran out of things to talk about or noticed the time. Over the first six months of our friendship I came to realize that I was profoundly in love with her. You’d think we’d have got married and lived happily ever after, there was one problem though, I’m Gay. Although our friendship never reached physical intimacy we share a bond so deep it can be described as nothing less than Soul Mate. One thing I think is proof of that is back in 2002 eleven years into our friendship I was visiting friends in San Francisco hundreds of miles away from home and I hadn’t spoken to Shelli in a few months. I dropped a friend off at work and was driving back to their place happy as a lark in the glen with the radio on singing my favorite song and couldn’t have been happier. Suddenly I was struck with a profound feeling of grief out of the blue. I said to my self what am I bi-polar now? Tears began to roll and I was absolutely perplexed as to the reason. When I arrived at the house without conscious thought I went straight inside opened my phone book to Shelli called her and when she answered I heard the tears on the other end of the phone. She was sitting in her car with all of her possessions no where to go alone and upset. If this isn’t proof of Soul Mate I don’t know what is.
smaine07 smaine07 8 years
I do.. I think there are science factors as well- I agree with those who said that there could be many that we are compatible with.. BUT I also believe that there is one person that is meant for you.. I was compatible with a few of the people I dated (and one that I was married to), but no one has ever had my heart and soul like my boyfriend now. Its so hard to explain, but it is just right.
cherryblossom cherryblossom 8 years
I met my soulmate the summer before i turned 17, I'm now 21 and were still together, when were apart we both feel wrong, like somethings missing. We are each others best friend, and can confide in each other about anything and the other will understand because chances are the other feels that way to. we can sense eachothers emotions and moods, and finish eachothers sentences. I truly do believe in soul mates, just with the urban lifestyle that most of you live thesedays most people are looking for the wrong things in a mate, most people make the mistake of actually actively pursuing a relationship my first rule of relatioships, is stop looking for someone perfect and theyll find you when you least expect it.
emilynotail emilynotail 8 years
No, listen to Tim Minchin's song on the subject on youtube called "If I didn't have you", It's funny!
Love-and-Sex Love-and-Sex 8 years
I love that idea, mix tape. It's true — sometimes the closest we get to soul mates are the friends we have who really know us, and with whom we have no conventional romantic relationship.
LittleMzFit LittleMzFit 8 years
Sometimes I like to think that this exists. It has not been confirmed yet. I don't really need someone to complete me, just someone to understand me & we'll respect and love eachother.
totygoliguez totygoliguez 8 years
No. I believe to the day to day love. It last as long as you nurture it and take care of it. sure you can be with someone the rest of your life if you work on it. #33 I liked what you said.
AmandaKrups AmandaKrups 8 years
wackydeli, you say you wouldn't want to have a soul mate because life is too short to only experience one person. How sad that you don't want to find that one person who can make you smile and laugh even when you are feeling miserable, who can sense what you are thinking just because they know you so well, who makes you feel like nothing bad can happen when you are with them, who makes you feel like the most loved, amazing, beautiful person in the world. I dated other guys and hated it. I just wanted to be with my one true love, and when I found him, I didn't let go and neither did he. I do "experience" other people as you say...I just call them my friends.
mix-tape mix-tape 8 years
I believe in soul mates, but they don't necessarily have to be your romantic partner. Most of us have best friends that complete us and many of them can be the person we marry or just friends. It's ideal in my mind to find that soul mate and be happy ever after in love with him. Realistically I could just be satisfied being myself and knowing that when I find true love it's to compliment me not complete me.
Rose-Cullen Rose-Cullen 8 years
well there is certainly a big divide of opinions. I personally believe in soul mates. I mean there may not be any logical evidence behind the idea but it's a nice feeling to know that while you are searching for your soul mate they are searching for you. And sure you could have tons of great relationships with tons of different people but to me a soul mate would that one relationship that could last through anything. No amount of fighting or the like would seperate you two because you couldn't feel complete without them and they couldn't feel complete without you. They would be the one person that with still be in love with you even if completely change your apperance because they would love who you are not your looks. Sorry for the long rant
tlsgirl tlsgirl 8 years
Well then, stumble right back off and we'll go back to wasting each others' time. Bye now!
kurniakasih kurniakasih 8 years
I believe in soul mateS and of either gender. And soul mates for me don't always have to be a 'lover' too, you know, it can be a really good friend you won't give up on for the rest of your life.
Jinx Jinx 8 years
Yes I do. Its almost scary how in sync you can be with someone.
kiwitwist kiwitwist 8 years
I do believe but I don't necessarily believe that it is just one person and that it has to be a romantic soul mate. I think some ppl can find friends that 'complete' them and that they would do anything for.
bleached bleached 8 years
Normally I would say no, but when I look at my parents, the answer is yes.
JudieN JudieN 8 years
I don't believe it. I think you are compatible with some people more than others, and there is more than one person you could feel connected to. But one person you were separated from that will complete you? It really is almost insulting, just the idea of someone "completing" you is something I don't buy into. I love my boyfriend dearly, and I am very excited to spend the rest of my life with him and build a family together. I don't feel we complete each other, I do feel we add to one another's lives in very positive ways. I don't believe we are "soul mates" brought together by some cosmic pull.
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