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Do You Date People Who Remind You of Your Parents?

Like Father Like Husband?

My father is a little dorky. He'll admit it, too. He's smart but he doesn't know how to work any techy gadgets. He's funny and stylish, but very old-fashioned. I didn't realize it (until my mother pointed it out), but I'm definitely attracted to guys who are a little bit nerdy, too. That's not all I go for though. My mom has an amazing sense of humor, she's very opinionated but also kind and generous. The guys I like have those personality traits, too. It's weird to think about dating people like your parents, but I guess I'm guilty!

Some of you said you wouldn't date people who lived with their parents, but would you date someone who reminded you of them?

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Phunkometry Phunkometry 9 years
The whole Electra thing kinda creeps me out, but I'd have to say that I'm guilty. My dad is a smart, loud, sociable, no-nonsense kind of guy, who also has a very short fuse, and my boyfriend is very similar. The only difference is that my guy will admit when he's wrong (to me at least), but my father won't. Then again, I'll admit when I'm wrong to my bf but I won't to my dad. The guys I've dated in the past weren't at all like my dad, and it really didn't work out too well (obviously, since I'm not with any of them anymore). I guess it also has to do with having the same values.
emalove emalove 9 years
Oh, I'm sooo guilty of this...my father has always been my role model, he is an amazing person, and in my eyes there's just not many men out there who are as good of a person as he is. My husband reminds me so much of my father...he's a kind-hearted, caring person who goes out of his way to help people, just like my dad. They also have many other traits in common.
Tullia Tullia 9 years
I havent dated anybody like my dad yet, but I know for sure that I'm gonna end up w/someone like him: nerdy, smart, and a car geek. LOL
Jessie-M Jessie-M 9 years
My boyfriend and my dad are like twins! Same sense of humor, same interests, same attitude....they even look alike! Dark hair, athletic build, glasses. The most disturbing part is that on several occasions they have shown up to family events wearing the EXACT same outfit! A little strange the first time, but its happened 4 or 5 times now! Weird, but I love my dad and I love my boyfriend, so I guess it's a good thing :)
Greggie Greggie 9 years
My husband and my dad are EXACTLY alike, which is something I didn't realize until well after I was married. But seeing as how my mom and I are exactly alike, it works well. My parents can both give me great input on how to handle things, as they've likely been through a very close experience.
sass317 sass317 9 years
My mom told me for years to give a geek a chance. I (like my mom) went through a bad boy phase (it just lasted like 10 years and thankfully didnt marry any of them) Then I finally gave a geek a chance- and what do ya know, I married him. I know he is a lot like my dad, I WANTED someone who was smart and responsible and reliable and loving and honest- and as an added bonus he can fix ANYTHING, which is something my dad has never been capable of :)
alethia037 alethia037 9 years
Agree... My husband is a lot like my father. Both are calm, level headed and laid back with wonderful senses of humor and great people skills. They enjoy the same hobbies, and are even the same size (my husband gets a lot of hand-me-down clothes & shoes... he loves it!) My father and I are extremely close, and I respect him a great deal, so it makes sense that they are similar!
SummerBaby SummerBaby 9 years
i have to agree as well... my boyfriend is much like my father, i mean not totally but there are traits that are similar in the two, like the activities they enjoy, its cute cuz they can actually hang out together without me around haha and have a great time! ... soo they have many things in common and the same sense of humor, i think when you grow up with someone, you often find a relationship that is some what similar, cuz its comfortable, feels like you already know it.
miosotis miosotis 9 years
Not true for me... My boyfriend is smart as my parents. And he is stubborn like me, my parents, all my family and his family...:-D
SusanTeufel SusanTeufel 9 years
Mine is MUCH different than my father. Thank god.
karlotta karlotta 9 years
Actually, my boyfriend is totally like my mom. Everything about him that irks me is EXACTLY like everything about HER that drives me nuts. His qualities, though - are just his! He's so special and so rare, I don't know anybody like him.
Sun_Sun Sun_Sun 9 years
nikecold... im glad u dont feel guilty cuz its not our fault our fathers were terrible, we're good ppl =)
clareberrys clareberrys 9 years
My boyfriend has some similar qualities as my dad. They both have the same sense of humor (which I share with them too!) They are both very into politics (my dad works for C-Span and the night I met my bf he was watching C-Span!) They are both extremely logical and caring. Also, they have similar tastes in music and are both very interested in radio. SO yeah, I don't think I did this on purpose, but my dad is a great guy and my boyfriend is too!
nopenope nopenope 9 years
I actually ended up with finding one like my grandfather! The boy and my grandfather are both funny, inventive, forever learning, Jewish, loves gadgets, active, and can pick up any instrument (my grandpa is string and woodwind ones mainly) and play it; including being able to play a song or tune back after hearing it. I absolutely love my grandpa and my boy and him got along grand when they met two years ago. I definitely couldn't have found a better boy. I don't like my father (had a restraining order against him and haven't spoken to him in years) and incidently my love isn't like him one bit, thankfully!
indielove indielove 9 years
So far I haven't dated anyone that's similar to my dad. I'm single now, so you see how that turned out. There's quite a few qualities I really admire about my dad: his family is the most important thing to him, he listens, level-headed, trust-worthy, helpful, won't turn his back on someone in need. I've always though my mom was really lucky to have him, and him her. They have a great marriage and I really look up to them. But yeah, I'd be lucky to find a guy who has 1/2 the amount of good traits my dad has. So far, I haven't met that person yet but hey, there's no rush. :p
nikecold nikecold 9 years
I'm so happy I'm not alone Sun_Sun and Heineken67. =D
leztnerp leztnerp 9 years
The guys who I'm attracted to are a bit like my father. Freud had it right, in my case at least... But not in every way, just some traits, like I like protective guys. Like my mom? I couldn't handle that. I love my mom but she drives me crazy. I read somewhere once that girls are supposed to be subliminally attracted to guys who SMELL like their fathers.
Lizzard214 Lizzard214 9 years
My boyfriend is like my mom, dad, and step dad all in one... plus his own stuff, of course. Why wouldn't I want some of their qualities? They are my favorite people in the world!
GlowingMoon GlowingMoon 9 years
No, my husband is different from my Dad. I don't think I would have romantic feelings towards a man who reminds me of my Dad. That would be weird. ::o:
melizzle melizzle 9 years
My husband's actually a lot like my brother... weird.
Lovely_1 Lovely_1 9 years
I agree, I think it's somewhat true as well. My dad is kind and warm hearted but he is also driven to always make life better for us and be the big boss of everything he does. And I usually like guys who are more take charge and assertive and like to work hard for their money.
heineken67 heineken67 9 years
No way. I'm glad my man is nothing like either of my parents (especially my father).
sarah_bellum sarah_bellum 9 years
I hope I'm lucky enough to end up with a guy like my dad. He's so much fun, and an amazing person.
fadeastride fadeastride 9 years
My boyfriend is soooo different from my dad. The only thing they have in common really is liking history. My boyfriend's geeky, shy, quiet and kind. My dad is loud and brash and the center of attention. My boyfriend is a democrat, my dad's a republican. My boyfriend has no problem showing his emotions, my dad only has 3 emotions (calm, happy, and angry). He's not really like my mom, either. My mom is insane - in the good way! She's really friendly and talkative and outgoing. Soooo yeah. I don't know. I'm strange.
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