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Do You Date Younger Men?

Author Candace Bushnell might be married to a man 10 years her junior, but don't call her a cougar. In an op-ed out tomorrow in More Magazine, the Sex and the City writer laments the fact that women who break out of traditional roles are then labeled with a derogatory term. We have "ballbuster" female CEOs, "bitchy" politicians, and alas, "cougars."

Candace believes that people who use the term cougar are simply ignorant of the real appeal of dating younger men. Or maybe they're just jealous. Candace writes:

What I have yet to see is a real woman choose a younger man because he spent six hours a day at the gym trying to sculpt his abs. The fact that a man is open to being with an older woman suggests that he doesn't give a hang what other people think of him. More likely, he's confident, open-minded and willing to make his own rules. All of which just happen to be qualities that, much more than a great six-pack, make for a great relationship.

Do you agree that dating younger makes for a good relationship?

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dikke-kus dikke-kus 8 years
My husband is exactly my age. I like that a lot. We were born the same year. However once in my life I dated someone older. He was 39 and I was 27 at the time. Also once for a short period I dated someone much younger. I was 35 and he was 25. He thought I was 23, and I though he was 30. I almost choked on my drink when he told me. I didn't really like the idea because I think young men don't have much commitment in mind. I find it's a little boring for me to date someone younger as well. It's OK for dating but I think they aren't going to take you home to mother, if you know what I mean.
hills hills 8 years
yea me too snookyx i dont like that i feel that way at all but anyone younger than 18 would be kinda embarrasing for me, but i reckon as we get older age dosn't matter by a few years too much......
genesisrocks genesisrocks 8 years
I really can't go that much younger without getting arrested
Pistil Pistil 8 years
I would date someone younger if we were a good match, sure, but I'm not looking right now, and at my age I couldn't date anyone more than a couple years younger, or they would be straight out of high school.
zabrow zabrow 8 years
my friends used to tease me because i had four boyfriends in a row that were younger than me, anywhere from one year to three years age difference.
mix-tape mix-tape 8 years
I dated someone who was 2 months younger than me, but I wouldn't really consider that an age difference. It depends on the maturity level of BOTH partners. If the women is young at heart maybe a man who is younger will mature and experience things in life at the same rate as her. I feel like I am on the maturity level that a woman in her late 20s would be in and an older guy would suit me better than someone younger.
ella1978 ella1978 8 years
Actually now that you mention it, most of the guys I have dated have been younger. Not TOO drastically, the youngest was 5 years younger. My fiance is about 3 years younger than I am. I'm okay with that. He is wise beyond his years & I have been told that I have an old soul. It works.
mamasitamalita mamasitamalita 8 years
I've dated older and younger. if they're a good guy and a good fit for you, it works; if not, well..
Yogaforlife Yogaforlife 8 years
Dated younger men more often than not. Could be because I started college at 20 rather than 18 so everyone was usually 2 years younger than me.
dox dox 8 years
my boyfriend and i are 4 years apart and we are a perfect match. at first, i wasn't too thrilled about the age difference and being the older woman but there was already a connection. i'm so happy that i didn't give up on that connection just because of age. i don't consider myself a cougar. i'm just a woman in love.
Kimpossible Kimpossible 8 years
Age to me doesn't matter in a relationship, it doesn't make it "better", compatability does. However, I totally agree with Ms. Bushnell about the negative connotations the nicknames that women get for doing the same things that men do.
tlsgirl tlsgirl 8 years
No, hell no. I don't even date guys my own age. They all act like they're still in college.
Gdeeaz Gdeeaz 8 years
once back in high school i dated someone a year younger then me i was 16 he was 15. I'm 19 now so anyone younger then 18 is off limits.
GlowingMoon GlowingMoon 8 years
Generally, no. Every man I dated happen to be older. I never consciously selected older man. I just go by chemistry. My husband was the youngest man I ever dated, and he's two years older than me.
Chrstne Chrstne 8 years
My boyfriend of 2+ years is two years younger. It's not a big age difference, but people are shocked when I tell them how old he is! My mom was even disgusted when I told her, even though he is a wonderful guy and she loves him. It's just not as socially matter what the age difference is.
Ac2366 Ac2366 8 years
I've been with a guy 6 years younger than me for a year. He is the best bf I've ever had. I had perviously dated guys my age and one guy who was 10 years older than me. It didn't intentionally go after a younger guy. My bf and I just get along and I don't know how else to describe it. It just feels right and age was never an issue for us and that's all that matters.
Stephaniemarie87 Stephaniemarie87 8 years
I completely understand with you there 'hills' I wrote an article for this local magazine about how women are still not 100% accepted into society and how it probably will never change. It's in our genetic make-up I guess! Very annoying though being a women in the media industry haha.
hills hills 8 years
i reckon that woman or media are soo harsh on women, why can men be studs if they get a younger girl but women be cradle snatchers, thats so wrong, it def needs to be turned around.
totygoliguez totygoliguez 8 years
Well, if I dated someone that is more than 2 years younger than me it would be illegal. But, I'm all for it. I've being persuading my mom to date younger men. She is 56 but looks very young for her age, she looks 36 and she can perfectly date a 46 to 40 year old man, but she feels "funny" about it. I'm all for doing what makes you happy and if a younger man makes an older woman feel sexier and happy I'm all for it.
Briandiesel Briandiesel 8 years
I never date younger men. :D
fuzzles fuzzles 8 years
Crap crap. Typo!
fuzzles fuzzles 8 years
I had to laugh at the title of this thread. My father always tells people that he is married to a much older older woman. Mom was born the same year as Dad, and mere hours ahead of him!
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