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Do You Ever Just Make Out Anymore?

I assume that since you are a Dear Sugar reader, you have a few relationships under your belt. I'm sure we've all gotten through the awkward and exciting experience of going from first base to all the way to home.

While going all the way is great, it seems like after you've done the deed for the first time, every time you get intimate after that it always leads to sex. You start off kissing and move onto other acts of foreplay, but it always ends up the same way. While I'd be happy with that outcome most of the time, whatever happened to good-old makeout sessions? I have such fond memories of French kissing on a guy's couch for hours and leaving it at that. It was so much fun, so exciting, and so innocent.

So I was wondering if you guys ever just make out anymore? Do you think it's possible to stick to first base after you've already hit a home run in the relationship? Or do you think that kissing always leads sex?


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Ruthiroo Ruthiroo 9 years
Sadly, my dh has lots of health issues and he never feels like making out or anything else. Wish he'd take better care of himself so he could get off the meds that are making him lacking in the libido. When I ask him to make out with me, he always says no cuz I might end up wanting something more and he doesn't want to feel bad if it doesn't happen.
amborsita amborsita 9 years
I'm pretty blessed with a wonderful man who spends a good chunk of time making out, but one of us usually initiates it to go further...I can't not want that after 20 minutes of heavy smooching :-)
Ginger19 Ginger19 9 years
The best way to make sure that it is just making out is when your on a time frame or period or don't have protection or something...just make sure you are both responsible.
Cher412 Cher412 9 years
Making out precedes intimacy. Once a couple has been intimate, the long passionate kisses for the sake of kissing diminishes.
mustepullo mustepullo 9 years
We do it quite some.. :) It's fun and a good way to spend time. :D
Jacinthe Jacinthe 9 years
'Course we do. It's fun. Especially if you're someplace you either shouldn't be at all or shouldn't be playing. ;)
DianeBaby DianeBaby 9 years
I remember those days, making out on the couch, being able to say "no" to more and have it respected. I miss "making out" for what it was, a very enjoyable experience that had boundaries. I remember making out with my new boyfriend, in his 4x4, in front of my apartment building, with the truck running, in the winter with snow outside - for 3 hours! THAT was so hot. We were so caught up in the enjoyment of it that we didnt want to ruin it by going inside. My current boyfriend, however, if I even TOUCH him or show the slightest bit of affection he thinks its ok to jump my bones and have instant sex. I gotta tell you, it's unwelcome and quite a turnoff. Yes, I'm actively getting out of this relationship, no romance, no fun, NO MAKING OUT. Sigh!
valleydancer04 valleydancer04 9 years
i totally miss the days of making out just for the sake of making out... not because its foreplay or out of obligation!
the-makeup-blogette the-makeup-blogette 9 years
i miss just making out but hardly these days...cos he gets too excited and want to eventually go all the way
MsPrettyLady MsPrettyLady 9 years
I miss making out as well! We hardly ever do that anymore beacause it gets him too excited. He always says "babe please, lets not kiss so hard anymore because Im gonna want to have sex and I know you probably won't want to."
prinzes3006 prinzes3006 9 years
omg! I'm not alone here. lol! I swear, I've been thinking about this a lot lately. It's so sad. I miss those days, of just kissing and no more. *long sigh* lol! I wish there was a way for my man to know and understand this. ha ha ha! How can I tell him this????
tendency tendency 9 years
yeah, we do. it's great :)
starbright14 starbright14 9 years
I love love making out. I haven't seen my man in almost 2 weeks... so there will be some making out tonight!!
poizenisxkandee poizenisxkandee 9 years
oh my god my boyfriend was being all romantic and cute the other day saying that he misses just kissing and stuff. its hard with the distance; like when we see each other we kinda just wanna get it on; but we both do agree we miss just laying together and that other connection we get when we just make out. hes coming home tomorrow and i am way excited!
millarci millarci 9 years
I absolutely love making out! I wish it wouldn't always lead to more. It makes me miss the days of when the relationship is fresh and we're just 'making out'.
Muirnea Muirnea 9 years
yeah I do like it to end at kissing sometimes too!!!!!! But of course, Like a lot of people, I'm not saying I don't like it to keep going, but sometimes its nice to just kiss and be innocent. :)
1cigarrette 1cigarrette 9 years
haha I asked my boyfriend of 3 years once this exact same question. Unfortunately his answer was pretty much... "why would I want to torture myself and leave it at that, it hurts"? Of course we can "just kiss" sometimes, but not one of those teenager-makeout sessions. ::sigh::
elizabethgracef elizabethgracef 9 years
I wish making out didnt end up with sex all the time...I just like to kiss sometimes.
chicaparati17 chicaparati17 9 years
Hmm..I will try this "making out thing" but I dont think its gonna work! :)
blackjade blackjade 9 years
yup and we've been together for 8 years (married for almost 2).
iamangiepooh iamangiepooh 9 years
i have no one to make out with right now :( *pout* but with my ex, it usually led to more..
easternjunkie easternjunkie 9 years
i really wish i could just makeout and not go for home run period...i love makingout...
red4bonez red4bonez 9 years
out my boyfriend and I been together for over 4 years. When we started going out OMG we would make out for so long and it was so much fun and I love it. Now we do not make out at all =( and I miss it. Now when we make out it always leads to sex. But its still a lot of fun. ;-) and I love it!!!
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