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Do You Identify as Bisexual?

Woody Allen once joked that being bisexual doubled your chances of getting a date on Saturday night.

Part of the problem bisexuals have is that lots of people (even in the queer community) don't take bisexuality all that seriously. It's a phase, some say; just choose already, command others. What does it mean to choose a sexual identity that is fluid and nonfixed, something that contradicts the idea of identity itself?

According to researcher Lisa Diamond, an associate professor of psychology and gender studies at the University of Utah who followed
79 nonheterosexual women for a decade, a woman's desire for both sexes endures throughout the years. "These findings are therefore more consistent with the model of bisexuality as a stable identity," she argues, "than a transitional stage." (Granted, Diamond had a small pool of research subjects, and they were disproportionately white and middle class.)

There's no question that we're living in a time when young women feel less of a stigma in desiring women or having sex with them, but for some it is just a phase of faux-mosexuality. Do you identify as bisexual? (Notice you don't get a "not sure" option!)


testadura67 testadura67 6 years
I usually just say I'm bisexual because it's easier than explaining the details of my personal preferences. The only people who need those details are the people I'm taking to bed, regardless of gender.
Frenched Frenched 8 years
I identify as heterosexual because I only get crushes and feel attracted to men but I can sure agree that women are lovely to look at! That's about as far as it goes for me, though. I am attracted to guys!
kliis kliis 8 years
I've always been straight, but I suppose some women are "bi-curious"? Strange way to put it, but some girls just desire to have it with other women. It just gets you curious ;)
juicebox07 juicebox07 8 years
I have an attraction towards some women. I could say that I'm "bi-curious", but not "bi-sexual".
Autumns_Elegy Autumns_Elegy 8 years
I identify as Pansexual. In short it means that I am attracted to someone regardless of sex, colour, race, creed or any physical, mental or spiritual disposition. I tell people I'm bisexual, unfortunately most people I talk to don't have a clue what pansexuality is. I dont really prefer one sex over another. Each to their own.
tlsgirl tlsgirl 8 years
Yep. I actually tend to like women more than men, and have been with more women than men, but I definitely enjoy both.
Love-and-Sex Love-and-Sex 8 years
Margokhal, I totally agree that there's a spectrum of desire from lesbian to straight. The question, though, is, "Do you identify as bisexual?"
margokhal margokhal 8 years
There needs to be a "not sure" option. Not from personal experience, but because it's very true that people just don't know. How can you put something that is generally considered a spectrum aspect in boxes? Sexuality has generally been considered on a spectrum, where many people fall in between two extremes. And sexual attraction doesn't have to always involve SEX. Attractions such as beauty and admiration do also factor into sexuality somewhat. As for me, I'm pretty sure I'm not bisexual. I've never been sexually attracted to women like I have men. And I wouldn't have sex with a woman.
RoaringSilence RoaringSilence 8 years
cg130, that is very true. I've gotten a lot of hate from lesbians who call bisexual girls opportunists or are afraid that they're stealing their girls (???). I have realized that people who are very sensual, boys and girls alike, tend to like both genders. Because being intimate feels good, no matter who it's with. By the way, I think that shirt is cool. I once saw one that just had a checkmark which said "other". I'll get that if I find it again :)
cg130 cg130 8 years
I'm not bi, but I have some friends who are, and I always feel badly for them because I feel like there is this general idea that bisexual people are just 'waffling' and should 'choose one', or that they're addicted to sex or something.
simplyfab87 simplyfab87 8 years
Yes. I've had sexual encounters with women but no long term relationships. I've only been in one long term relationship and it's with a man. But if this doesn't work out and a woman was to come along, I would be happy with that too.
Ac2366 Ac2366 8 years
I appreciate beautiful women and I think they are sexy, but I am not bisexual. I love my men in the sack. I don't have the desire to be intimate with a woman even though they sure are pretty to look at.
FaerieBlu FaerieBlu 8 years
I choose the Hell No Option.
sham28 sham28 8 years
sigh. "NOT in the girls-gone-wild, i like to kiss girls at parties to please the guys sense"
cloroxcowgirl cloroxcowgirl 8 years
* meaning I've slept with women but only had long term relationships with men, just to be clear.
cloroxcowgirl cloroxcowgirl 8 years
Yes, sort of. I've known I was attracted to both since a young age, but now I have it sorted out. I am physically attracted to both men and women, but I prefer to have relationships with men. So, on the Kinsey scale I would be a 4.
Kimpossible Kimpossible 8 years
lol spacekat - "two flavors of ice cream" cute!! I personally have never had sex with another woman (kissed, yes), however, I can be sexually aroused by women. But I'm not sure that that alone puts me in the "bisexual" category. If I ever have the opportunity to actually have sex with a woman well then I know what category I'd fall in lol.
poizenisxkandee poizenisxkandee 8 years
spacekat - exactly, kind of like another way i don't discriminate lol.
poizenisxkandee poizenisxkandee 8 years
actually caterpillar, she said she DOESN'T like to do that for attention. read before you post. I've identified as bisexual for a long time. I remember when I was in 2nd grade and titanic came out and i was just as interested in kate winslet as i was leo dicaprio. maybe that was curiosity at that young, but even as i got older i noticed i cut out magazine pictures of women and men, and ive dated and slept with women and men. no doubt i know what i am, and no doubt that it exists.
RoaringSilence RoaringSilence 8 years
I defintitely am, I could never live with just either a guy OR a girl.
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