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Do You Like Surprises?

Last year, a friend and I planned on making a surprise trip to New York City to visit one of our best friends. We got super excited planning the trip, searching for tickets, and imagining the look on our friend's face when we arrived on her doorstep grinning ear to ear.

That is, until my friend's boyfriend asked us if we were out of our minds. "Think about it," he said. "Maybe she'll have other plans your visit will force her to cancel, maybe her apartment is messy, it's not a good time for her. . .or what if she just doesn't like surprises?"

He harshed our mellow, but I did think about it. I don't like unexpected guests, and as much as I like to think I'm fun — I'm actually not all that spontaneous unless I'm initiating a plan. Are you someone who appreciates surprise birthday parties, friends showing up on your doorstep unannounced, or surprises in general?

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dikke-kus dikke-kus 8 years
I don't like total surprises. I did one for my mom though and it turned out great. I like a hinted surprise or a part surprise, like we're going somewhere but I'm not telling. That can be nice. Or make sure you don't have any plans this weekend hints, or having a few old friends show up at a concert. Those things can be OK.
cristal556 cristal556 8 years
surprises can be a trick you never know how will they turn out, but the economy is bad so going to someone else house, without being invited it could be risky.
tlsgirl tlsgirl 8 years
Not unexpected guests, but other surprises are good.
Talldiva45 Talldiva45 8 years
Surprises are fine - but I better be dressed appropriately for whatever the surprise may be. I would be miserable if there was a party or outting planned and I wasn't dressed the right way...would definately ruin my whole day/evening and make me miserable. I like to be comfortable. It is also imp. to know who to invite and who not to...
Xemena Xemena 8 years
i think i would like surprises , but ive nvr been surprised , i duno why but i always find out the plan b4 it happens.and it sucks having to act surprised when ur not
French-Kiss French-Kiss 8 years
Well i'd say it depends... I had a "surprise visit" once, but it was someone i didn't wanted to see. But if really good friends are making me a surprise why not ! If they come at home, i take 5 minutes to change myself, why not a little shower, and it's okay ! For friends I don't need to be like a princess. For the case of Trèssugar, well it's different. For a complete week-end, actully it's difficult, because as the BF said if I have plans, it won't make it be a good surprise. For for some hours, I answer yes ^^
hottpink hottpink 8 years
I hate surprises!
cheer4veggies cheer4veggies 8 years
typically no. i get too flustered and feel like i have to rush to attend to them. however i always enjoy unannounced gifts :) i like to plan things out and get bored easily with "scheduled free time"
SeaAre86 SeaAre86 8 years
I agree with what most have already said: those kinds of surprises are horrible. Birthday? Different story.. but random visits... no thanks..
GlowingMoon GlowingMoon 8 years
I don't like unannounced guests. I find unannounced guests rude.
LilyLyra LilyLyra 8 years
I don't like surprises. And especially not "announced surprises." :-S No thanks.
nylorac nylorac 8 years
I'd send her something nice thru the mail, and save the trip for a time when you'll be sure she'll enjoy it!
Veka Veka 8 years
+1 to what khameel said. my thoughts exactly.
khameel khameel 8 years
Suprises in the sense of birthday parties or a fun trip, yes. The surprise of an unexpected guest, no.
hiptobesquare hiptobesquare 8 years
I once surprised my sister at college, via arrangements with her boyfriend that they would not have plans for that night. She didn't even think I knew where she lived! It ended up backfiring because I guess she was excited about the prospect of an easy night in with pizza and a movie. My suggestion, don't do it. I've thrown many a successful surprise birthday party, so that seems like a better bet.
sham28 sham28 8 years
Having to deal with people staying at your place when you didn't plan for it and having to cancel all of your plans sounds really really annoying to me. Unless your friend has told you in the past, "if you EVER want to come stay with me, ever, you can do so at any time, I literally have NOTHING going on (ever) and I'm desperately despereately lonely," I'd say to skip surprises that are human beings.
roseate roseate 8 years
The idea of a surprise is nice and exciting, but if it makes me cancel other plans or if I'm not in the mood for it, then I'm not going to enjoy it. A well-orchestrated surprise could be fun. For example, I'd probably be thrilled if a few friends and I planned to go out for my birthday and they had arranged for a bunch of my friends to be at the location. Surprise trips to visit friends are not a good idea, especially if you're spending a lot to do it. Your friend's boyfriend was right on. I had two friends from high school surprise me at college on a weekend night, but I could only spend about half an hour with them because I had a blind date that I couldn't cancel. Luckily they hadn't gone too far out of their way to see me.
Chrstne Chrstne 8 years
If a guest shows up unannounced, I would definitely be upset. However, in general, I hate surprises. Well, actually, I hate pseudo-surprises. Like in December, my boyfriend starts talking about "I have a surprise for you on Christmas" it just irritates the hell out of me. Announced surprises are annoying. I guess the unannounced, real surprises are a little bit better. However, on the whole, I would probably have to say I m not one of those people who like surprises.
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