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Do You Play Games When Texting or Calling Back?

There are so many silly dating games that people play in order not to look too eager or worse, desperate. I knew a married woman who carried her playing hard to get into her marriage! I was shocked when she told me that she never, ever called her husband; she waited for him to call her and took her sweet time getting back to him. (Wow.)

Most of us observe less extreme rules when dating. Your first date may call (or text) you the day after your date (maybe two days) and you may call him or her back in a few hours or even one day later, rather than right away. God forbid actually answering the phone, or texting right back!

I'm only kinda kidding. Do you play games when texting or calling back a date?


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dikke-kus dikke-kus 8 years
It's completely unfair, but there is some truth to waiting for the guy to call first. I know it's game playing nonsense, but old conventions apply even in 2009. My feeling is that men are deep down very traditional. More than they know. If I had a friend who asked, Should I call? Should I call? My answer would be no, wait for him to call you. Wait for him to chase you. Let him approach you. At least in the beginning. I've had experiences in the past where I did call first and usually that didn't pan out. I think if you call first, the guy will make hidden judgements against you. Then later this disapproval could be revealed in many forms during the relationship.
MixedPerfectly MixedPerfectly 8 years
No, I use to when i was a girl in high school. I think the reason for playing games is not to feel to needy or clingy but I have never been that way. The 2-day rule is ridiculous to me. I mean... if you are into someone let them know, if your an adult... no one has time for games
Blackwood Blackwood 8 years
that's ridiculous I don't like wasting my time, and I don't like wasting other people's time either. I agree with lickety split though, if someone waited too long to call me, I would not be interested because if he'd be interested in me he'd called sooner. I don't mind calling, but if someone says "I'll call you", then I believe they must keep their word.
fashionplate525 fashionplate525 8 years
It depends on whether or not I feel like talking to them at that moment. If a guy says he will call after he gets off work at five, for example, and then my phone rings at 5:10 and I am not busy, sure I will pick up.
angelinemarie angelinemarie 8 years
i dont text or call first, ever. and ill usually wait awhile to text back
LittleMzFit LittleMzFit 8 years
Simply no!
French-Kiss French-Kiss 8 years
Sometimes rules help to find a good balance btw extremes behaviors ^^ However , I'm so not used to date that i act in a silly way and don't reflect ! lol
Pistil Pistil 8 years
Not regularly... but there are times when I've been expecting a call from my boyfriend and it comes much later than I anticipated. So I'm feeling a little irked. I could have made plans, but I was waiting for him. Instead of calling him to see what's up, I wait for him to call, ignore it, and call him back at my leisure. Not really a game, just me feeling neglected and being immature about it.
leslievanhouten leslievanhouten 8 years
I do this; and I am not proud. Once, I was visiting my family for 2 weeks. I called my bf on Friday. He didn't call me back until Sunday afternoon, when I was out with my mom. Eh, I let it go to VM and told myself to call him back later. I get home, drop my stuff in the guest room and go downstairs for dinner. A few hours later, my brother comes up to me and says "your boyfriend just called me. He's complaining that you didn't call him back". Sheesh, he doesn't call for two days, yet gets upset when I don't call back within a few hours?
lickety-split lickety-split 8 years
when i was single i never called a guy. and if a guy waited to long to call me i didn't call him back (or take his call). i didn't consider it a game though, it was that if someone wasn't very interested in seeing me i didn't want to bother.
totygoliguez totygoliguez 8 years
Well, if someone says they are going to call me I expect them to call me, I won't call my dates, so I guess is a form of playing games.
tlsgirl tlsgirl 8 years
I used to a little bit. I just don't call guys. But, after 6 years, that would be kinda ridiculous, so not anymore.
jennjennnbubba jennjennnbubba 8 years
It depends, I have been known to wait for his call even if I had something I wanted to say to him. But other times I call/text right back.
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