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Do You Talk About Sex With Your Parents Now?

When you were little, I'm sure you probably had that oh-so-embarrassing and uncomfortable sex talk with one or both of your parents. I remember feeling so squirmy and disgusted, and I actually didn't believe what my mom was telling me until I heard it again at school.

Now that I'm older, and obviously sexually active, every once in a while my mother tries to bring up something about sex, but I just can't bring myself to talk about it with her! Our opinions about sex and relationships are just so generationally different that talking about such intimate things is just too weird. Plus, it's really not fair to the guy I'm with to share those kinds of details, or gripe about my sexual frustrations when she views him as a possible future son-in-law. So what about you? Maybe your relationships are different. How do you feel about sex talk with your parents now that you're an adult?


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starinajar starinajar 9 years
Absolutely not! My mom is the very traditional type, the one who always implies that sex before marriage is wrong. I'm the complete opposite, so I choose not to go down the path where I tell her.
ayuninur ayuninur 9 years
god no!
Silverlining10 Silverlining10 9 years
My mom is a Christian and wants me to wait until marriage. As a matter of fact, I promised her I was still a virgin. My boyfriend always jokes that he'll "slip up" and mention how much of a great lay I am or something to get me in trouble.
JaimeLeah526 JaimeLeah526 9 years
No not at all. That is just weird. Maybe if we'd both been on the dating scene at the same time. Her and my Dad got divorced right at the same time I met my future husband so we didn't exactly have a chance to compare. I think it would have been kinda fun to hang out together and meet men lol but I'm sure she'd get more men than I.
nopenope nopenope 9 years
I never had a sex talk when I was younger. I did, however, overhear my sister getting it (she's 4.5 years older than me) when she was around 16/17 and I remember thinking both "HAH! and "eww.." She got her sex talk while she was dating her first and only boyfriend (and now husband). I never had a serious-seeming boyfriend when I was her age, so I never had a sex talk. I did wait to have sex until my current boyfriend when I was 20, though. I've been serious with my boyfriend for over 2.5 years now (at almost 23) and my mom skipped over sex talk and instead jokes about how I wouldn't have to change my initials, since the boy's last name begins with F and so does mine, heh. I do talk sex with another family member; my cousin, as she's also my best friend.
injustica injustica 9 years
While my mother and I don't necessarily talk about it -- at least not totally directly -- we don't really avoid it either. We allude to it, and I'm not at all uncomfortable thinking about her and my father having sex. Their relationship is so strained right now because of work and finances and paying for two children to go to university that they don't have any sort of chemistry anymore. I'm sure that once I'm married and it's more acceptable to my mother that I'm having sex, I'll talk to her about it if I have issues, problems, or whatever.
Brooklynbee Brooklynbee 9 years
I was talking to an older friend of mine once who has a college-aged daughter and she said that her daughter told her when she lost her virginity. I said, "I'm married and my mother still doesn't know I've lost my virginity" and my friend cracked up. :)
heineken67 heineken67 9 years
My mom tries to talk sometimes, but that's one topic I refuse to discuss. Worse was when I was talking to my grandmother about being married for 50+ years and she brought up things I didn't want to think about. My family is waaaaay too open for me.
RustyAngel73 RustyAngel73 9 years
I'm only 19 and I've never had a serious boyfriend, so it'd shock my parents (I think) if they found out I have indeed lost my virginity.
tweet-hotpants tweet-hotpants 9 years
ElizabethRae- that is EXACTLY how it is with my mom. We both waited too. You put my thoughts into perfect words. :)
pink_magnetism pink_magnetism 9 years
Never. Actually, when one of my friends got married, her mother decided to suddenly try to act like a friend, and would constantly try to start conversations with me about my sex life and oral sex.... very bizarre!
thegiraffe thegiraffe 9 years
We have talked about sex philosophically, as in Darling, sex is something special between two people, and it's a beautiful thing, but not something to throw around and only to be shared with someone you care about. I know she pretty much assumes/hopes no sex before marriage. But details? No. Eeuw. Talk with dad. NO. double eeuw.
Meike Meike 9 years
I've talk with my mom about it occasionally. My dad, no way. Even if he's already envisioning grandchildren from my husband and I, the topic of sex is off limits with him.
shernic82 shernic82 9 years
That's a big ol' hell no, lol. Even though I am 25, my parents are very conservative and believe that sex should be saved for marriage. Actually, my mom never brings it up, so I wonder if she knows I have but just doesn't want me to confirm it...
RockAndRepublic RockAndRepublic 9 years
Serves no point in talking about that with her.
luvofashion luvofashion 9 years
oh lawd no!!!!!!!!!
SugarKim4203 SugarKim4203 9 years
I was once at a department store cash register with my mom and we were acting the fool with each other. The cashier said "wow, it looks like you guys are really close." My mom said "yeah, we talk about almost everything, except when I have sex with my husband (my dad...gross right)." I turned to her and said "well do you want me to talk about when I have sex with MY husband?" She looked at me and shut up instantly. :)
smp7328 smp7328 9 years
Hellz no! Never had "the talk" growing up. And never will talk about it.
Lambsauce Lambsauce 9 years
Nope. Nooo way. I AM still a teenager, though, and I'm pretty sure she knows (we've been together for 2 years, he's visited me at school several times this year, where it's pretty obvious we both smooshed into my twin bed together, she accidentally found a condom wrapper in my drawer once... she never mentioned seeing it at all, but there's no way she could have missed it), but we both pretend like she doesn't and I like it that way. I think she's trying to make our relationship "grow up", as she's been swearing around me and telling me dirty jokes lately. But I don't think I'll ever want to discuss that particular aspect of life with her. My boyfriend's mom has talked to me about my sex life with her son, though. Now that was awkward.
Greentea1203 Greentea1203 9 years
god no. My mom is cool and everything and we joke about lots of inappropriate things and stuff, but I don't want her to know details of my sex life. She knows I have it and that's as much as I want her to know.
Merlin713 Merlin713 9 years
No. Never even had "the talk" when I was younger.
ella1978 ella1978 9 years
Nope, I never had the talk with my mom either. She is a strict Catholic... well as much as a divorced person could be a strict Catholic, and was probably a little disappointed when I moved in with my BF, but we never even hint at the conversation. I watched the 40-yr old virgin with her, and it was totally awkward.. I think I was 27 years old at the time too. Just not a topic we EVER chat about.
indielove indielove 9 years
My mom gave me the sex talk when I was about 10. It didn't make me uncomfortable. I don't talk to my mom about sex but we have before in the general sense, nothing super personal. There's things that should always remain private.
I have never had the talk ever. She knows I am having sex, as during a pregnancy scare I cried and told her I was scared...haven't talked about it since, haha.
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