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Do You Use Flattery to Break the Ice?

A few months ago I asked you all if you return a compliment when given one, and 71 percent of you said no. I also mentioned that flattering someone is a nice thing to do when breaking the ice, but now I want to pose a similar question in a different way: Do you ever compliment someone just to appease them, almost out of nervousness? Some of us do it as second nature because we know it feels good when people do it to us, but others aren't as forthcoming with accolades, especially to other women. So ladies, what I want to know is, do you offer up compliments as a way of breaking the ice, or do you leave that job to others?

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GlowingMoon GlowingMoon 8 years
I'm with Juicylove and JaimeLeah526. I only do it when I have a sincere, honest compliment. It breaks the ice because I'm being genuine, and the other person senses that. Sometimes, I compliment something they did, rather than something about their appearance. If somenone made me a nice cocktail, I would say something like,"This is delicious. You're good at this!" And if her husband is nearby, I would tell him,"You're a lucky man!" :)
GlowingMoon GlowingMoon 8 years
I'm with Juicylove and JaimeLeah526. I only do it when I have a sincere, honest compliment. It breaks the ice because I'm being genuine, and the other person senses that.Sometimes, I compliment something they did, rather than something about their appearance. If somenone made me a nice cocktail, I would say something like,"This is delicious. You're good at this!" And if her husband is nearby, I would tell him,"You're a lucky man!" :)
aimeeb aimeeb 8 years
Maybe if it was VERY awkward otherwise I'll only flatter someone if I mean it.
Bisque Bisque 8 years
Yep.
Bisque Bisque 8 years
Yep.
JaimeLeah526 JaimeLeah526 8 years
Oh yeah. It's really easy to do. I always make sure I'm sincere though.
ninjastarlett ninjastarlett 8 years
I have done it, yes. It doesn't always work but sometimes it really does break the ice.
Le-Luxe Le-Luxe 8 years
Flattery will get you everywhere.
juicylove juicylove 8 years
if its an honest compliment then yes, if not then i dont think so.
Hannah426 Hannah426 8 years
Yes, I practically always compliment someone I dont feel 100% comfortable around. If I approach a girl that I know but dont REALLY know, then I'll always try to break the ice by saying "Your shirt is so cute. Where did you get it?" That way, I can start a conversation without things being awkward.
AujahAcorn AujahAcorn 8 years
i don't like when i do this. I try to call myself out on it and think before i speak. my nervousness gets the best of me sometimes. its always an honest compliment but in my eyes so obviously a nervous complement.
AujahAcorn AujahAcorn 8 years
i don't like when i do this. I try to call myself out on it and think before i speak. my nervousness gets the best of me sometimes. its always an honest compliment but in my eyes so obviously a nervous complement.
Sydney-C Sydney-C 8 years
I do! If someone looks cute/ has something cute, I make sure to tell them!!
pink-elephant pink-elephant 8 years
some of the time, yes.
pink-elephant pink-elephant 8 years
some of the time, yes.
crackaddict crackaddict 8 years
I do if I'm like in an awkward position or I feel shy but at work I would not do that.
skigurl skigurl 8 years
i don't think i do this, but i could definitely see it happening, so maybe i do and don't notice i have a good friend who compliments you when she feels uncomfortable though...and it's always over the top...if she is forced to hang out with a girl she doesn't like, she will be so nice and compliment everything about her, gushing over every aspect...and if she HATES the way something looks, and is so uncomfortable to have to lie and pretend she likes it (like a new hair cut or an article of clothing) she will gush over how nice it is...if she compliments you for too long, you know she doesn't like it
skigurl skigurl 8 years
i don't think i do this, but i could definitely see it happening, so maybe i do and don't noticei have a good friend who compliments you when she feels uncomfortable though...and it's always over the top...if she is forced to hang out with a girl she doesn't like, she will be so nice and compliment everything about her, gushing over every aspect...and if she HATES the way something looks, and is so uncomfortable to have to lie and pretend she likes it (like a new hair cut or an article of clothing) she will gush over how nice it is...if she compliments you for too long, you know she doesn't like it
almost-famous almost-famous 8 years
Well you have to admit DearSugar, some people like to recieve than to give... So, I picked yes! It's nice to hear a compliment every once in a while!
mnp mnp 8 years
I noticed that I only do it to females because we are more adorned and easier to compliment. i.e. I love your earrings/hair/dress/sunglasses/shoes/bag/etc.
nrmunch55 nrmunch55 8 years
Yes.
nrmunch55 nrmunch55 8 years
Yes.
KathleenxCouture KathleenxCouture 8 years
Sure, if the situation is awkward at first or something I will (honestly) use flattery to break the ice if need be.
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