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Do your Rules Change with Age?

In July's issue of O Magazine, the stunning Ellen Barkin dishes about life as a 53 year old woman -- can we all agree that she looks amazing ? She says she feels more comfortable at 53 than she did at 35, admitting that she would rather discover herself at this age than in her earlier years, a feeling many women share.

By following these 10 simple rules, Ellen proves that 50 is the new 40:

  1. Don't wear your hair longer than to your collarbone
  2. No red lipstick, unless you have dark or olive skin. It's aging
  3. No blue jeans to dinner out. (But black jeans are okay)
  4. Don't expose your knees. And cover up. Don't try to compete with 20-year-olds. A woman between 40 and forever looks great because she has style, not because she shows off her body
  5. Don't ever wear anything strapless
  6. But at the beach, if you have a toned body, rock that bikini for as long as you like
  7. No miniskirts. A short skirt is okay with black tights
  8. Don't ever revisit a trend you lived through once before
  9. Don't wear hats, except to keep the sun off your face. A hat makes you look as if you're trying to get noticed
  10. Wear fewer accessories, and keep your look clean

So ladies, as you get more mature and more wise with age, do tell, do you live by a new set of "rules" like Ellen does?


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nicachica nicachica 10 years
maybe Ms. Barkin should also add that she is comfortable in her own skin...too bad all that Botox injected in her face won't allow her mouth to make those motions!
bookgirl bookgirl 10 years
I don't necessarily agree with all her rules for myself, or my future self. But think there are some ladies that should stick with her rules, and like others said, stop dressing like a 20 year old. I'm only 25, but I've noticed there are some things that just won't do now that I would have 3 or 4 years ago, and I'm sure I'll create more rules for myself as I continue to get older.
MrsSchmitt MrsSchmitt 10 years
These rules might work for her but I don't think they would work for everyone! It's funny how these rules are in O Magazine, and I love Oprah with long hair. A "mom" haircut makes you look older, and who else but Ellen can pull off her hair style at 53?
schar schar 10 years
I completely agree with the not wearing a trend that you've previously lived through. I already follow this rule and I'm only in my late 20s. I did the leggings and bubble skirts when I was in junior high and it upsets my stomach to think about wearing that stuff again.
trendyindc trendyindc 10 years
I agree with everything so far, but seriously hair not longer than your collarbone?!?!?! I totally agree about the older women who get the extensions with the bad tans and the short spandex minis who think they look hot, but really when I'm 50 I'm going to keep my beautiful wavy long hair, rules be damned!
blingbling blingbling 10 years
I have totally changed the "rules" as I've gotten a bit older. And I don't know how old you ladies are who say you'll always wear shorts, but lemme tell ya, I thought the SAME THING! But lookie - unless I'm going to the beach, now I will wear bermudas ONLY and have invested in tons of cute skirts and sundresses. The knees just don't look as cute as they used to! And what do you know - it's more comfy (esp. when it's really hot) to wear skirts or dresses. More uh, air circulation. ;-) Nothing is more sad than a woman who tries too hard to compete with 20 year olds. I agree with pretty much all that Ellen has said - other than the strapless thing. That might depend on how you wear it. And I'd keep wearing blue jeans to dinner out into my 40s, if it were still in style. But probably not beyond 40s.
junebrug junebrug 10 years
OMG, Pop, you've got SoCal nabbed. You see these women with long blonde hair in tiny little skirts and a seriously dark tan. From a distance, they could be 20. Then you get up close, and yikes. The skin on the face is pulled, but the hands don't lie. There is nothing more disturbing than a woman who dresses like she's 18, but has the wrinkled, age-spotted hands of a 70 year old.
Marci Marci 10 years
popgoestheworld, you had me laughing out loud! :D There is such a thing as growing old gracefully. There are a lot of women out there who just look so pathetic - not to mention downright silly - in their little outfits that were intended for 20 year old, the blond blond hair and push up bras. Come on! But I'm with lickety and pop; I wear shorts till I'm dead and buried.
popgoestheworld popgoestheworld 10 years
I wish I could walk around Fashion Island in Orange County and hand out those rules to all the bronzed, highlighted, plucked and liposucked 60 year olds decked out gold and diamonds and leopard print spandex with unnaturally large busoms busting out of their little tank tops. Seriously, those women are another species besides human by the time they get up there in years. If youth and beauty is your only currency, I guess you'll do whatever you can to preserve it, but as an outsider, it gets UGLY to watch. My hat's off to Ellen for realizing that youth and beauty aren't always synonymous and that you can age gracefully and beautifully by not clinging to your youth in desperation. That said, I will always wear shorts, bad knees or not.
lickety-split lickety-split 10 years
wow, why would she feel like she needed to limit herself with these rules? another reason i'm glad i'm not famous! don't expose your knees? hello, it's a bit hot in the summer to follow that one don't you think? and when i'm 53 i'm quite sure i'll wear anything i please to dinner. (so yes! my rules do change :KISS: )
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