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Does It Take the Right Woman to Make a Man Settle Down?

Earlier this week Us Magazine reported the news of Kanye West's breakup with fiancé Alexis Phifer. Although I think he's an amazing performer and I respect the devotion he showed his mother, there's something about his larger-than-life demeanor that always made his long-term relationship somewhat surprising. Truth be told, I'm not all that shocked that he called things off before tying the knot.

I guess I've always wondered if the commitment phobes and players of the world are destined to be 90-year-old bachelors, or if it just takes the right woman to get them to settle down. Obviously for Kanye, the jury's still out, but as for the average guy, what do you think? Does it take the right woman or do you think once a player always a player?


animatedpunk animatedpunk 9 years
i think it takes the right woman. My cousin's husband was a huge player. And when they first started dating she made it very clear that it was ONLY her or nothing. He figured out what he wanted (her), and now they're married with a beautiful baby, another one on the way, and I've never seen a happier or more committed couple. And he's THRILLED to be a dad, it's adorable.
CoronaLove CoronaLove 9 years
to be honest. i think for some of these guys its really an addiction like being an alcoholic. They just can never get enough and will never be satisfied. For others I thinks its just a phase and once they have gone through it the right woman can definitely settle them down.
TFS TFS 9 years
lizadilly lizadilly 9 years
The assumption of this post is that the end-goal for everyone should be settling down, and that players are doing something wrong by not getting with the program. In reality, not everyone is built for marriage or even monogamy, and those that aren't do everyone a favor by not conforming to domestic pressures. I wouldn't want to end up in a commitment with someone itching to break free. So I say, play on, playa!
j2e1n9 j2e1n9 9 years
Nope. Its all about timing ladies. :bcbw:
else411 else411 9 years
No, after speaking to my male friends, which is a bit depressing, they basically said it had nothing really to do with the women, just that they were ready to be married and they were OK with the idea of "settling*". * granted these women were better than they deserve, but my friends from age 28-50, really beleived (hoped) that they were settling with the best person for now, but if opportunity came they would review their life again.
chicaparati17 chicaparati17 9 years
I agree with "greeneyes" or "verdeojos" :) they eventually get tired of the game!
verdeojos verdeojos 9 years
I'm not too sure that "once a player always a player" but I think there comes a point in time when a man (or woman) gets sick of the chase and settles down.
JaimeLeah526 JaimeLeah526 9 years
Certain woman just have that touch and if he loves them than he can easily settle down.
Le-Luxe Le-Luxe 9 years
I personally think that there is one woman that can crack a man. I have for sure seen it happen to plenty of players.
Hannah426 Hannah426 9 years
I think that there's gotta be one woman to make a man settle down. If it is just any ol girl, then he is still gonna be his usual self and end up breaking things off before they got too serious. However, if he falls head over heels in love with a girl, then he will do anything to stay with her and make her happy, even if it means making a serious commitment.
cvandoorn cvandoorn 9 years
It takes the right woman. The guy has to realize: wow, this woman is amazing and I don't want to hurt her. Or something along those lines. Then again, men are weird. One day they're ready for a commitment, the next they're not.
mnp mnp 9 years
I agree with Michelleannette and Fushaa. And, it always seems like a player and another player always cancels either out. One of them is bound to get hurt, and then, they realize that the games they play suck.
Fushaa Fushaa 9 years
I agree with Michelleannette....I think it's completely up to the guy (or the woman in some cases). If it's not something that they really want to do, then they won't do. They have to be mature enough, ready enough and willing enough to commit fully.
michelleannette michelleannette 9 years
i don't think a woman will settle a player down. i think that he'll either do it eventually or not at all.
almost-famous almost-famous 9 years
What I mean is, even though these men play on for so long and decide to get married, doesn't mean they'll stop playing...
almost-famous almost-famous 9 years
I believe it does take the right woman to make a man settle down. Besides Kanye, look at Jay-z. He was a known player and dated around like crazy! Now he's married to Beyonce. However, even their marriage it's perfect i.e.
Greentea1203 Greentea1203 9 years
Well, I came to realize that no woman will ever make my ex settle down. He will be a player for life, and I've come to think this is universal with all players.
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