I have been in a relationship with the same guy for almost 2 years now, and before we moved in together we were having sex like crazy. Now we hardly ever have sex. We are getting married May 12, 2007, and I'm afraid he's getting sex outside of our relationship. When I ask him, he says that nothing is going on. I know that he has no time to cheat so I am wondering - how can I make our sex lives more fun? Trouble in the Bedroom
Dear Trouble in the Bedroom
I am sorry to be the one to break the news to you about the honeymoon phase. It happens to the best of us, so don't think you are alone. Sex is erotic and exciting when it's new - it's like you can not get enough of it - and then when you fall in love with that person it becomes even hotter. It feels like it will last forever ... but it doesn't. Couples become comfortable; you both know the sex isn't going anywhere and you move from humping like primates to more civilized and infrequent encounters. But there are PLENTY of things you can do to keep things spicy in the sack. Find out what turns your soon-to-be husband on and surprise him with it. Also remember that it's just as important to talk about sex as it is to talk about your goals, where you are going to live and how many kids you want. Keep those lines of communication open! It's the best advice I can offer.