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During Sex, Are You a Talker?

I was once with a guy who was very verbal during sex. He wasn't gross or loud, but he definitely liked to talk while we were making love. It was actually a real turn on. He'd talk about what he was going to do to me, and he'd ask me to do things — in a sweet way of course, never dirty. He even tried to get me to talk, but I'm not much for chatting in between the sheets.

There are definitely times when talking during sex may be necessary, especially if you're with a new partner. You may need to explain what you like and what you want the other person to do (or not do). However, talking can sometimes be a distraction, and having sex with a real chatterbox may end up ruining the moment.

So what do you think about talking and sex? Do you talk, or are you quietly enjoying all the sensations? Do you like it when the person you're with talks, or do you think the experience is better when there are no words involved?


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beachbaby45 beachbaby45 8 years
My lover and I communicate from start to finish. He knows what I like, asks if it feels good, tells me what he wants to do... and how good it feels. He tells me I'm sexy and how much he loves me. We've never made love without talking our way through it. It just adds to the experience... and when things heat up - I talk dirty!
skypoem skypoem 9 years
Eh .. I will talk during sex, but usually I just like to moan and grab around, cuz I freakin' canNOT keep my eyes open! lol My friend that I'm hooking up with likes to talk and crack jokes when he's riding me but I'm not always into it..
caseyjay430 caseyjay430 9 years
i definitely like talking, answering questions, and a little dirty. But i like it when we both talk. Once I slept with this guy and he didn't say a word so I didn't either....AWKward!!!
starbright14 starbright14 9 years
I talk too much! Actually, I've had no complaints about the talking, but I always manage to crack myself up some way or another.
fadeastride fadeastride 9 years
We talk a little bit, but I'm generally fairly quiet.
indielove indielove 9 years
Dirty talk is HOT and can be really fun. I don't think I talked alot but I'm not silent. I won't get loud though, it's just not who I am.
i-am-elle i-am-elle 9 years
Nope.. not much of a talker in between the sheets..
aimeeb aimeeb 9 years
Words are most def exchanged ;)
trish0683 trish0683 9 years
My boyfriend and i are both talkers. I can't imagine not talking at least a little during sex. I like to tell him what I want to him to do to me, and I like to hear him say that he likes what I am doing, or what would make him feel even better.
nikodarling nikodarling 9 years
I'm not a big talker, I say what needs to be said and nothing more. I find it really creepy being with someone who won't shut up. I don't want to have to focus on what someone is saying to me the entire time I'd rather focus on other things.
alltherage alltherage 9 years
i am not a big talker but guys seem to like that i just feel silly though. working on it ;)
Dr_NO Dr_NO 9 years
Not a big talker...don't mind if he is tho. I should take a class or read a book to learn, cause I think I might like to sound like a porn star...
karadisexo karadisexo 9 years
omg i talk too much...but i've come to realize that most guys LOVE it.
Lovely_1 Lovely_1 9 years
I sounds like a porn star too...I don't think the neighbors like it though. So we have to do all the dirty talking with during the day sex ;)
SummerBaby SummerBaby 9 years
dirty talk.. yuppers haha.. i talk lol.. but not ALL the time!.. sometimes i cant get the words out! lol
Lizzard214 Lizzard214 9 years
I'm with you lolabella. And so is my man, so it's all good.
Lovely_1 Lovely_1 9 years
Mmmm I am a talker too, especially when i am really enjoying myself! I lvoe it, and I'm PRETTY sure the boyfriend does too :)
Daisy6264 Daisy6264 9 years
:D No.
pink_magnetism pink_magnetism 9 years
Not big on the talking when having sex.
sparklestar sparklestar 9 years
I had an ex who would talk and it would make me lose my concentration! Terribly non-erotic..
chakra_healer chakra_healer 9 years
My SO is definitely a talker - talk, talk, talk, talk - says all kinds of wild sh*t. I've gotten used to it, tho. Even do a little because I know he enjoys a bit of me answering his questions, telling him when to do stuff, ask for something, or just tell him to finish.
demeter demeter 9 years
fashionhore fashionhore 9 years
There are times when I am very verbal and talk my fair amount, and then there are times when I want to just have sex and get it over with or have it be "making love" sex. I like talking about what I am going to do or what is going to be done to me, it's very sexy.
LadyP LadyP 9 years
I talk too much sometimes, lol. My hubby has to tell me to be quiet sometimes. lol I'm not a dirty talker though! I am awful at that!
lolabella lolabella 9 years
i sound like a porn star every time i have sex. it's almost embarrassing, but i've come to realise that's who i am in bed. the good news is that The Husband is OK with it. he never talks dirty, but i wish he would! ;)
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