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Emily Gould Interview With Millionaire Matchmaker

Say What? Matchmaker Says to Invest in Our "Man Future"

"Think of that $200 every six weeks (to highlight hair) as, like, an investment in your man future . . . you should always have a little fund that you play with, on the side, and you say, I am not going to spend this weekend buying five drinks at the bar this weekend at $15 a pop. You can always get men to buy you drinks."

Or you could just go to a cheaper bar? Millionaire Matchmaker's Patti Stanger tells Daily Beast writer Emily Gould (an apparent "six" sans highlights) that she can't just roll out of bed in the morning and expect a gorgeous guy to look at her. After all, Stanger says, "An eight can be with a 10, but that 10 isn't going to be with a six."

Source: Bravo TV

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CaterpillarGirl CaterpillarGirl 7 years
it doesnt surprise me that Tres would see that quote as anti women, since this site is so anti men. There is nothing wrong with what patty said. nothing.
postmodernsleaze postmodernsleaze 7 years
I don't need no designer tag to make my men want me. Or, um, $200 highlights ;) We can all look hot on a budget.
inlove23 inlove23 7 years
I agree with xxstardust. I have long hair too, but I guess thats what rich people do. Waste 200 on their hair. But, I agree with the quote, what guy wants to pick up a frumpy looking chick? None. The looks are what get them in the door.
xxstardust xxstardust 7 years
I want to know where the hell this lady's going to that she's paying $200 for highlights! I dye my whole head, and cut it too, for $75 .. and that's *with* a tip! I'm in the NYC suburbs, too, where it's known for being overpriced ..
reesiecup reesiecup 7 years
I wouldn't necessarily go out of my way to "invest" in my man future, but that's just me. Women should do whatever they want to feel comfortable with themselves. I feel that our society puts so much pressure on appearances. It's a sad reality.
Pistil Pistil 7 years
Right on, Girl Jen. Beauty-wise I'm low maintenance. That's not to say I don't care about my appearance, but I'm able to leave the house happy (and have already attracted a suitable man), sans $200 highlights.
Girl-Jen Girl-Jen 7 years
SKG: "Surely, though, as an editor of a site about beauty you would agree that looking your best is important? I really do believe that most women spend time primping primarily because it makes us feel good about ourselves. " That makes sense. I think the controversy here is coming from the fact that one woman's idea of "necessary grooming" is another woman's idea of "excessive vanity." For some women, who look much better than I do ;), highlights and gel nails are something they feel is necessary to look and feel their best. For some women, those things are luxuries.
genesisrocks genesisrocks 7 years
Agree Bella. But I have other problems with the Millionaire Matchmaker. The stuff she says about curly and red hair is offensive and not even true! I have wavy/curly hair and cannot count the number of times men have told me it's sexy. So really she's not the person to get beauty advice from.
chloe-bella chloe-bella 7 years
SKG - I agree. Her advice is directed specifically towards women who are trying to find a boyfriend. I'm sure we've all known women who whine incessantly about how horrible it is to be single but who don't really do anything to increase their chances of finding a boyfriend. I know the PC thing is to say that you should "find someone who loves you for who you are on the inside," and that's definitely true. But, brutal honesty, you're probably going to find that person a whole lot quicker if you put some effort into your appearance.
weffie weffie 7 years
Maybe that 10 wouldn't be with a 6, but this 6 wouldn't take beauty advice from a browless fake-tan-grease-covered 2. Seriously, that woman is scary!
cupcakers cupcakers 7 years
agree with BellaSugar
Beauty Beauty 7 years
I'm facepalming over the quote. If you want to get highlights, do it because you like to do it. But the idea that you have to constantly primp to "get a man" is so passé. For what it's worth, the most gorgeous man I have ever dated — seriously, women would stop us and ask to take his picture, which was awkward — usually winds up dating regular-pretty women. Supermodels we are not. He likes smart, kinda nerdy girls who aren't all about their looks. So the 10s don't always go with the 10s, or even the 8s. Just saying. Do looks matter in dating? Yeah, of course, but it's easy to get free drinks or attract a lot of attention. Finding someone who loves you no matter how you look? More work, but infinitely more rewarding.
pink-elephant pink-elephant 7 years
I agree Girl Jen! Brilliant!!
skigurl skigurl 7 years
Girl Jen: But I'd rather just go to a cheaper bar, look like a put-together 7, and get together with another 7 who makes me laugh so hard that those cheap drinks come out my nose. WELL SAID LOL
mix-tape mix-tape 7 years
My idea of a 10 isn't a man who wants a woman that spends $200 on highlights, but a man that can see through those nonsensical things and see who I really am. Hey, maybe I'm only a 1 but to another 1 maybe I'm a 10. This whole dating thing is a very shallow game.
Girl-Jen Girl-Jen 7 years
On one hand, grooming is important. On the other, the thought of spending $200 every six weeks for highlights (or $30 every couple weeks for nails, or whatever waxing costs) just to look like an 8 instead of a 6 makes me laugh. I just do not have that kind of money. It literally isn't there. I do pay attention to my appearance; I work out, I wear clothing that fits well, I keep my hair trimmed and my brows plucked, and I wear sensible makeup. But I'd rather just go to a cheaper bar, look like a put-together 7, and get together with another 7 who makes me laugh so hard that those cheap drinks come out my nose.
Pistil Pistil 7 years
I can't tell you how many guys passed me up because I had bad cuticles.
mamasitamalita mamasitamalita 7 years
Beautifully said, SKG. Would you show up to a job interview wearing what you'd wear on Casual Friday in the office? I think you should put the same kind of effort into your social and dating life -- first impressions are all, and if you are put-together and attractive you're more approachable. Period. And like SKG said -- if you feel pretty, you're going to act like it, which is alluring.
skigurl skigurl 7 years
hilarious...i honestly don't find the comment that's important to groom...a lot of my slush fund goes towards grooming (waxing, mani/pedi, hair, and even a gym membership etc.) and i think girls without proper grooming don't find suitable mates as one wants someone with misshapen eyebrows and hangnails... furthermore, i think if you're in your twenties and you are looking for a boyfriend, take a good look in the mirror...long hair is very sexy to men, makeup makes you look better, no one likes a muffin's common sense...i know it's what's inside that matters but your exterior is what draws people to you in the first place
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