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Empowering Breakups

How Has a Breakup Empowered You?

Standing up for yourself is empowering. My friend just ended things with the guy she's been dating for a month or so, and she couldn't feel better.

He was an immature 30. Last-minute plans — squeezing her in between band practice and friends — and Sunday was the last straw. He met her for lunch, 15 minutes late, and his friends showed up 20 minutes into lunch to pick him up to see Inception. They didn't even have their food yet!

She ditched her planned speech, which cited previous (yet similar) acts of rudeness, to call him out on his current behavior.


"I think I deserve more than a half hour of your time," she said. He, knowing he was in the wrong, apologized.
"People are different."
"Yes, but there are universal rules of etiquette."
"I can agree with that."

"Well," she said, "this doesn't have to be awkward."

It did. He invited her to the movie, but she decided it was too much of an afterthought and told him so. Though she was shaken from the confrontation, she felt better about herself afterward — a hard thing to come by in the dating world.

Have you felt better about yourself after a breakup?

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RoseraDesigns RoseraDesigns 6 years
I always feel better after a breakup because there is a reason why it didn't last. That's the best part about dating. It gives you the opportunity to really list the qualities you find attractive in someone, and qualities you'd rather do without. I used to be sad about breakups, but every lesson learned molds you into a greater person. No one should ever settle for someone without knowing what they really want.
Ami858 Ami858 6 years
I got out of dating someone over a month ago by saying we were taking 'a break', but the truth was that he was getting distant and he's rude behavior (ie: checking out other girls while on dates, not introducing me when around his friends when we were out, and the kicker-forgetting he invited me to a concert then asked later at a party if I was going?!) Look, it's ultimately what we individually decide what we will tolerate or not. Besides, I told him I wanted to 'find my soul-mate' and no soul-mate would disrepect anyone to that degree.
McRiguez McRiguez 6 years
I broke up with my ex of 5 years about a year and a half ago. Even though I was terrified, obviously in the end, I survived. It gave me so much power to know that no matter how hard it is, no matter how much the truth hurts, in the end, its so much better to be true to yourself and I'm in a much better place. We're still friends too.
ForeverEva ForeverEva 6 years
I broke up with a guy just after my birthday in April..I was sad, but I also realized life is not JUST going to happen, I have to make things happen, and breaking up was the last straw..I had relied to much on fate and expecting things to magically work themselves out...I decided to go after one of dreams which was to travel to Italy, and now I am, going in October when I had originally planned to move away to be with this guy!!! Things happen for a reason :)
Beauty Beauty 6 years
That dude sounds like a dud. Don't understand grown adults who don't know how to be polite and decent! My most recent ex is an immature, narcissistic, manipulative jerk who tried to play me against another woman. I couldn't figure out why he was being that way, and finally I realized that I was letting him get away with it. Kicked him out of my life and have been so much happier ever since.
omigosh omigosh 6 years
My ex and I broke up 3 months ago. It's taken me a while, but I finally feel better about it. Since the break up I have been able to make plans for myself without considering him, so the next year I am going to travel and work in places all around the world. In that sense a break up has empowered me to do the things I want to do for myself, and I am so excited for the future! :-)
jadenirvana jadenirvana 6 years
I think you always feel better in the moment but then quickly get depressed, no matter how much of a loser the guy was. I'd be keeping your girl on Breakup Watch for the next few weeks, Tres!
French-Kiss French-Kiss 6 years
Yes, for my last break up. He was so nice, i couldn't bare it anymore, he had nothing else but his care for me. We were'nt even equal, he put me on a pedestal. We lost complicity, he lost his humour. I left after 2 weeks.
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