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Etiquette Past vs. Present: Cussing in Public

Emily Post pretty much set the bar for manners, and last week when I quoted one of her echoes of traditional etiquette, most of you agreed with her and like it when a man walks on the curbside.

Below is one example of what Emily calls "Today's Rudest Behaviors" in her book Etiquette. Now I must admit to being guilty of this from time to time, but I agree with Emily, it's not the most charming way to behave in public.

"Using four-letter words and other obscenities in public without any reservations — especially in the presence of children."

Do you watch your mouth amongst strangers or do you have a potty mouth like me?


HoneyBrown1976 HoneyBrown1976 8 years
I'm human and I slip at times; however, I do my best not to curse around my elders and children.
Talldiva45 Talldiva45 8 years
I REALLy like the point being brought up about certain words being assigned higher meaning than others. In the scheme of things children are very perceptive and probably notice the fact that ppl. do this and then it becomes something cool/rebellious to say - hence they want to swear if course. It is just a fact of life. My mom never shielded me from violence or swearing - she just told me that it was not appropriate to do or whatever. I liked her approach, as like others have said it is something that they will have to live and deal with no matter what...interesting topic!
Talldiva45 Talldiva45 8 years
Mindful, but I do have slippage. I never swear in places where children are present - I try to be very award of that. The only time I swear occassionally at that is at the bar/club. There I feel like it is not a big deal and everone is of age etc. It happens sometimes...
Natalie-Love Natalie-Love 8 years
I never swear anyway, I find it really unnecessary. I can't stand poeple who yell, swear, or draw attention to themselves by speaking really loudly in crowded public areas...
lindssaurussss lindssaurussss 8 years
only when something painful suddenly happens. like i fell over. other than that, over use of cursing is a underuse of grammar. i think people like to show off they curse alot.
genesisrocks genesisrocks 8 years
Can't help it sometimes. I'm a sports fan!
resamac resamac 8 years
It really depends. I used to work on a boat tour with a bunch of guys, so I learned to swear in ways that would make a sailor blush. When working there I had the foulest mouth, and I am surprised people even tolerated me... Since then I've stopped so I have to be incredibly mad though now to swear in public.
LadyAngel89 LadyAngel89 8 years
I curse plenty in public. But never around children.
lauraxtc lauraxtc 8 years
umm it depends how mad I am.
Random2 Random2 8 years
I try to control it when I'm in public or around people I don't really know. But one of my peeves is when I'm around people who swear every second word, just because they can.
myystque myystque 8 years
I do cuss a lot, but not around children (I'm also not around children very much anyway).
moonwater moonwater 8 years
Only when I'm driving. I can't help it. Luckily I am always alone in the car.
divinedebris divinedebris 8 years
True story: My husband lost out at being the best man at a friend's wedding because he swears too much and might accidentally swear at the 200 person wedding.
mondaymoos mondaymoos 8 years
Being ex-navy... there's a reason they call it "Swear like a sailor". ;) I control it when I'm at work, because I tend to work closely with clients, but the second I clock out, it comes tumbling out like I'm playing catch up for the 8 hours I behaved.
starangel82 starangel82 8 years
I try not to, but it slips sometimes. And I try to be especially mindful around kids. My mom has a great story about my first curse word at age 3. She said she was coming down the hall and she heard a crash. She said she started to come running to see what I had done. I had pulled something down off a dresser and was just standing in the middle of the floor with my hands on my hips going, "Well, damn it". My mom said she just laughed but realized I listened a heck of a lot more than she thought!
omigosh omigosh 8 years
Btw...thank goodness I can still see my diamond status on DearSugar. You know how hard I worked for that Sugar?! Please don't take it away from me :(
omigosh omigosh 8 years
I don't like swearing in public, but when I was waiting in the airport security line, totally stressed out, and my brand new macbook fell from the trolley and smashed on the ground, I couldn't help it! I didn't care about what anyone thought of me either. Luckily my laptop wasn't hurt! Phew...
Angela123 Angela123 8 years
I swear a lot, but I'm pretty good about censoring myself in the situations that call for it. Sometimes things slip, but not often.
MegN MegN 8 years
I do swear a lot, it happened once i started working. I barely swore at all through out high school. Now I try to be mindful of children, but I really doubt it matters much, that's just respect for their parents more than anything else. I tend to really go off when some one doesn't do something when it costs them absolutely nothing to do it (I once swore at a bus driver who wouldn't open the doors for me while sitting at a red light when I was about two seconds late to the bus stop.) not proud of it, but not particularly ashamed either.
fancifulfabi fancifulfabi 8 years
I very very rarely curse, only when I'm behind the wheel. In fact many guys I've asked agreed that cursing is very unattractive in women. My bff has a potty mouth and is also super loud so sometimes it's embarrassing to go out with her and have her throw F-bombs all over the place while there are families around.
chow chow 8 years
a few years ago, i was talking to some friends and a few swear words happened to came out at random points in our conversation. i didnt realize until a lot later that a young child had been behind us the entire time. i felt so bad that i stopped swearing all together after that.
Autumns_Elegy Autumns_Elegy 8 years
I tend to run my mouth when I hurt myself of really need to stress something, like when I'm complaining about the weather or how tired I am. I tend to use the dookie word a lot though, instead of saying "you're kidding me" it's "you are s******g me!"
jennjennnbubba jennjennnbubba 8 years
I am really good about biting my tongue around my Godkids and typically in public too
mack2600 mack2600 8 years
i curse like a sailor ... it's a problem. i've probably offended a few people much like yourselves in the process, but i've always had a bad habit of enjoying stepping on other people's toes. i can be immature. i'm not irrational though, if i see a kid anywhere near me i always keep my language in check -- around my family as well.
GlowingMoon GlowingMoon 8 years
I don't like swearing, in general. I don't like vulgar language, and I certainly don't want any coming out of my lips. However, with that said, I do occasionally slip, especially when I'm frustrated. It's always been in private. Sometimes I was alone.
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