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Etiquette Past vs. Present: Talking Loudly

I've always been a loud person — people tell me I'm missing the indoor voice gene — but according to Emily Post, booming pipes in public places isn't the most polite thing:

"Keep your voice to a reasonable volume. Public places are noisy by nature, but don't add to the din by talking louder than you must. Think of keeping your voice volume down as a personal form of public service."

This is easier said than done, especially when you're having fun with friends or family at a common place, but tell me, are you conscious of how loud you are when socializing?


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Miss-Senorita Miss-Senorita 8 years
It really depends on where you're at and the situations. I am a loud person by nature too.
aimeeb aimeeb 8 years
Dear I'm in your boat. I don't think I'm being loud but I guess on occasion I can be...oops.
robinlh912 robinlh912 8 years
People that are unnecessarily loud are on the top of my list of pet peeves.
jennjennnbubba jennjennnbubba 8 years
something else: I'm usually mindful unless I have had a few :cocktail:'s
Anne26 Anne26 8 years
I'm soo soft-spoken that I would be the one you can't hear at a dinner event or party. :-)
snowbunny11 snowbunny11 8 years
I'm pretty mindful, but I have a friend who is incredibly loud, and I love her all the more for it. Sometimes I feel like I try too hard to please others, and it's nice to be with someone who can just let go. That being said, I hate people who have poor cell phone etiquette. If you are speaking loudly on your phone, it drives me crazy, and if you are talking at all on your phone at the gym, it's war.
HoneyBrown1976 HoneyBrown1976 8 years
I'm always mindful. I try not to talk loudly in public (unless I'm teaching at school, lol) and I really can't stand when others do talk loudly in public since it's not necessary.
thepradaprincess thepradaprincess 8 years
I'm usually careful in public but I'm generally pretty loud. I think it has something to do with the fact that I'm so small
Pallas-Athena Pallas-Athena 8 years
I talk loud especially at home (I say it is because I'm like my eldest sister who is extremely loud), but I know places where it is okay to talk loud and I do. Other places where I have to be quiet or whisper then I do that, too. I'm respectful, but I hate going on the train and talking with my mom because she swears someone who knows someone we know will be on the train listening so she whispers. I talk regularly and if another person and I are the only ones talking then it will sound loud. It is the NYC train though so you can't really hear anyway.
x3Lorelei x3Lorelei 8 years
It doesn't matter if I'm loud in public or not, because I'm always with friends that are loud and always talking about the most inappropriate topics too.
Jude-C Jude-C 8 years
I'm careful about this. For some reason, loud voices in public really irritate me.
Ac2366 Ac2366 8 years
I'm just a naturally loud person. I try really hard to keep it down and for the most part I am successful but I still get the "omg, shhh" from my friends from time to time.
GScott86 GScott86 8 years
I don't see the need to talk loudly...but I guess it happens at parties...everyone's talking and there's just a clutter of unless we're talking about speaking loudly to one other person...especially when talking to a sales clerk and you're all pissy over something stupid...very embarrassing.
sweetpeabrina sweetpeabrina 8 years
My dad is the loudest person in the family and when we're all together laughing and joking, we can get pretty loud. We try to shush each other but that only works for a minute or two. It's wise to bring our food quickly so we have something to do other than talk. ;)
Myst Myst 8 years
It really depends. If I'm at a sports bar with some of friends, we can get pretty rowdy. But usually I'm mindful of where I'm at
starangel82 starangel82 8 years
I'm mindful. I know there are times when people are going to be loud, but there are times when people should really watch their voice level. Friday night for example. A friend and I went to the movies... right behind us were three women and one of the women was very, very loud. I was just thought I could handle it until the movie started. Apparently she had already seen the movie, because every 5 minutes she would say what was going to happen next to her friends... loud enough the whole theater could hear. There were a couple of 'shhs', but it only helped for a little bit. Finally I turned around and said, "If you've already seen the movie, fine, but quit ruining it for the rest of the theater." She shut up.
rocketgirl rocketgirl 8 years
I inherited a loud voice so I've trained myself to speak more quietly. I don't want to be the person that everyone in a public place is listening to.
skigurl skigurl 8 years
i am pretty loud but it's not like i'm yelling in all public places and have to be told to be quiet....only sometimes.
desidesi desidesi 8 years
i try to be mindful everywhere. there are places where you have to yell, bars with loud music or concerts. but for the most part, people should be mindful to use indoor voices in most situations. i was on a night bus from philadelphia home to nyc last night, and everyone was quiet except for one dude who felt the whole bus should listen to his convo. it comes down to manners sometimes
ThePerfectScore ThePerfectScore 8 years
I've always been loud. That won't change due to the fact that my parents have spent 20 yrs trying ti change it. But it is good never to need a microphone and I'm a natural on stage and public speaking.
genesisrocks genesisrocks 8 years
Always mindful. I'm pretty soft-spoken anyway
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