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What Excuse Do You Use to Avoid Sex?

Three-quarters of French couples report dissatisfaction with their sex lives, according to a new survey, and it's probably because they aren't having any. A third of French women, whose je ne sais quoi is supposed to guarantee they never sleep alone, say they try to get out of making love using headaches, tiredness, or the fact that children were nearby as an excuse.

A sixth of Frenchmen made the same excuses, failing to live up to their global reputation as insatiable lovers. The Telegraph points out the survey contradicts one from six months ago that "found 40 percent of French men thought they were the best lovers, and the most intelligent and the funniest men in Europe."

This overconfidence might be an attempt to compensate for problems in the bedroom, but note these depressing results were funded by a pharmaceutical company hoping to push impotence drugs. Whether or not you believe you're the best, funniest, and most intelligent lover out there, what excuse are you more likely to give when you're not in le mood?

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Bettye-Wayne Bettye-Wayne 6 years
I don't like the wording of this question, 'excuse' and avoid,' you should never avoid sex and if you're not in the mood you don't need to make up excuses! Weffie, you're very right about that headache thing. I haven't had sex in quite a while, I think my most common excuse was tiredness. I agree with bella, sex before bed is sort of impractical. I always liked morning sex, wakes me up, puts me in a good mood and I get to take a shower right away without ruining the moment.
juicebox07 juicebox07 6 years
I just say that I'm not in the mood.
amber512 amber512 6 years
I only avoid it because of the extreme pain it causes me. Health insurance will hopefully be achieved soon and then I can find out WHY!
RoaringSilence RoaringSilence 6 years
I'm never not in the mood. I mean if I'm crying because a relative died, my husband wouldn't approach me with that of course. But in all other cases, all I'll say is "well put me in the mood", and he'll start with a massage or something.
whats-her-name whats-her-name 6 years
Either I'm just not feeling it, or I ask him what comes at the end of a sentence... (.)
bransugar79 bransugar79 6 years
I don't lie about it I just say I'm not feeling it. Sometimes it's because I'm tired and usually I just wait until I've rested. If I'm just not there at the moment I tell my husband and depending on the mood he'll be ok with it or he'll know what to do to get me in the mood. It's the same for him. We don't really need to trick each other we just talk.
bellakaoru bellakaoru 6 years
I've never understood why the social norm is to have sex at the end of the day before sleep. I go to bed because I'm tired!
cotedazur cotedazur 6 years
I'm like weffie... I literally don't think I've ever turned it down, haha!
ladylove004 ladylove004 6 years
I usually say I am tired but that's bc I actually am too tired. After a hard day at work or school all I want to do is sleep, though it really depends on how I am feeling on that particular day.
Ladyseven Ladyseven 6 years
Oh, please! I'm on the receiving end of the excuses. "I don't feel good." "I'm not feeling okay." How lame is that? Not even a specific ailment. Our roles are totally reversed; I could go just about whenever, HE has to be in a specific (read: RARE) mood. Grrrrr.
weffie weffie 6 years
This isn't really an issue for me, I'm usually in the mood haha... But if you're not, you shouldn't need any excuse other than the truth. Who wants to sleep with someone that isn't interested? Oh and the headache thing is way lame, everyone knows that orgasms cure headaches ;)
Pistil Pistil 6 years
Hm, yeah. If I don't feel like it I don't feel like it.
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