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Falling Without Losing Yourself

Here's a post from OnSugar blog BBZ Love.

Falling in love is such a blessing. "It makes the world go round," as people say. But how much is too much? I say everything in excess is bad for you, alcohol, excercise, work, and yes even love. There comes a point where we sometimes fall inlove so deeply that we lose ourselves in this idea to where it almost becomes an obsession. We begin to eat, breath and live for the person we fall inlove with forgeting all about ourselves.

Once your in deep, its hard to step out and find yourself. Falling inlove should never be an obsession, it should be a beautiful, possitive lifeststyle, in which both people adapt to each other's lives without completely giving up one's life to live the other persons life. Giving up friends, family, alone time and things you like doing such as gym, hobbies, etc. When a person gives these things up to be with their lover, it's only a recipe for disaster. So how can we manage?

It starts from the beginning, when you've just met. You already have a routine day, your own friends, your job. Everything in your life is controlled by you, then you meet someone and you start getting serious. Your whole world may change, but you must maintain control over your life. Slowly let this person become part of your everyday activities and keep them going. It is so important that you don't lose that control and become caged in a relationship. Don't lose yourself in love and let it become an obsession and an unhealthy relationship. Everyone needs some alone time. We are humans and we were born to love, but also to love ourselves. Alone time also allows you both to miss each other and makes the time you spend together even more special. It is always important to maintain solid relationships with friends and family. It is possible to make this significant other a priority in your life and still keep alive the things that were important to you before this person came into your life. Remember, you can have multiple priorities not just one.


So happy loving friends and stay true to yourself!

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BBZ BBZ 7 years
The best lessons learned are from past experiences. That is something no one can ever take away from you. And its nice to be able to say "I know exactly what that feels like". You gain so much with the worst experiences. You become that much wiser ; )
popgoestheworld popgoestheworld 7 years
We all learn lessons of love the hard way. It's good for us.
Girl-Jen Girl-Jen 7 years
I have to admit, that reminded me of me when I was a teenager! Good lesson to learn. Too bad I had to learn it the hard way.
agneseza agneseza 7 years
When to know it’s just warm or…too hot to get involved..? Does it depend on our perception? Is it better to see the sign first than to get surprised by the hotness? And why do we even need signs at the first place, when we are supposed to know that the coffee, we usually take on the way, is always hot. Do we need warnings every time we get into something? Should there be sign “Caution contents hot” to all relationships we start, although, we still know they won’t always be so “cool” and we might burn. Read All This & More @
Bettye-Wayne Bettye-Wayne 7 years
"We are humans and we were born to love, but also to love ourselves." What a great line. You can't love anyone before you love yourself; I always knew it but I truly learned it the hard way. I feel like after ten years of having sex and dating (I'm 25) I'm just now starting at square one.
Victory2 Victory2 7 years
I liked that little piece of advice a lot. I think as women we are more prone to give up our life and devote ourselves to the other (at least I am) but it's damaging to oneself and the relationship over time. It's something you learn over time. Missing somebody and wanting to spend time with him is different from completely giving up your life. The balance is different in every relationship, though. It takes time to find it!
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