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Not a Fan of Sex Before Bed? Try This

When I posted about the pros and cons of morning and evening sex, many of you commented about how much you love getting it on in the morning, which made me think that a lot of you aren't huge fans of getting busy before you go to bed. Well I'm back with some tips to make sex in the evening more appealing.

  • If you have too much on your mind to feel sexy, write a list of your thoughts in a journal before you get into bed. If you're thinking about tomorrow, make a to-do list —it'll feel like a huge weight has been lifted off your shoulders.
  • Finish dinner at least two hours before you plan on heading into the bedroom. That way you'll have enough time to digest and you can avoid that bloated, full feeling, which can make you not feel like being touched.
  • Make it a quickie. Who said you have to have a two-hour romp session? Remember that even 10 minutes of sex will relieve tension and help you fall asleep faster.

Need some more inspiration? Then


  • Do some yoga or other gentle exercise after dinner. It will help to clear your mind and put you in a relaxed mood.
  • Take a shower together before bed. You'll feel clean and refreshed, and all that nakedness is sure to lead to something!
  • If you're too sleepy once you finally hit the hay, make it a point to get to bed a little earlier. You'll have more energy to give to your loved one, and you won't be worried about staying up too late.
  • If you're a fan of sex before bed but your partner's not, offer to give him a back massage. He won't have to do anything, and in between rubbing his muscles, you can kiss his back and arms. It's sure to put him in the mood!


Join The Conversation
ThePerfectScore ThePerfectScore 9 years
mmmm I love it! And I agree about the eating early... otherwise I'm gona be on the bottom hahaha
chatoyante chatoyante 9 years
The 10 min. thing really varies between women. Quickies are good for me but I know other gals who don't get much out of them, er, so to speak. If it's not for you, of course don't do it...but some of us think they're delightful :)
kikidawn kikidawn 9 years
Janine, I'm like TidalWave... put me on top and I orgasm really fast! lol
TidalWave TidalWave 9 years
@janine, i can easily orgasm on top with my man in 5 minutes :)
glam-sugar glam-sugar 9 years
It's a great way to relax in before bed and wake up in the morning! :P
Janine22 Janine22 9 years
Although I do prefer sex in the evening, I have to say that the thing about having sex for 10 minutes is just b.s.! Most women will not even begin to become aroused in that time, and certainly will not be able to orgasm in 10 minutes. It takes the average woman 20 minutes to orgasm, so sorry but quickies usually are not at all satisfying, tension relieving or relaxing for women. Was this article written by a man?
Karma87 Karma87 9 years
There was a question a while back that asked if you were a homebody or liked going out more. I answered that my husband and I were not just homebodies, but bedbodies. During football season, we're tv bedbodies. We are in the bed at like 7 in the winter (I swear!)and 8 in the summer. In the bed, girls! Morning, evening...weekdays, weekends. We have a lot of time to make up for! Here's to never catching up! We really do keep a clean house and all that non-sex crap, but we're SO there a soon as we can be.
sugarbritches sugarbritches 9 years
The only morning sex I like is Saturday or Sunday morning when I get to sleep a little later! During the week I get up really early so the idea of making time for that, I'd have to get up at 4 probably! No way! I'm definatley more into evening sex, but my secret fav I think would be that half asleep middle of the night romp! Anyone else get into that?
j2e1n9 j2e1n9 9 years
I'm too tired and groggy to have morning sex. I'm an evening person.
Greentea1203 Greentea1203 9 years
I'm with Lovely_1 and Shakira (haha) Whenever!
Shopaholichunny Shopaholichunny 9 years
Yes shower sex is the BEST!!! ;)
TidalWave TidalWave 9 years
Showersex yum!
Lovely_1 Lovely_1 9 years
it doesn't to us! We do it WHENEVER WHTEVER ahahah oh Shakeria!
aimeeb aimeeb 9 years
Does it really matter when... ;)
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