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Getting Noisy in the Bedroom

A recent post on's Sexuality Blog considers the moans we make when we're getting it on. The post specifically recalls a study completed by Dr. Roy Levin, a sexologist, who determined that there were many reasons to make noise while in the throws of passion. According to the post, Levin's list of common motives include:

  • Conveying information to our partner about our arousal levels, what we like, and what we don’t.
  • Increasing our sexual arousal levels and/or that of our partner(s).
  • Enhancing the experience of pleasure (referred to as “hedonic amplification”).
  • Facilitating other arousal systems.

Adding to Levin's findings, the blog also mentions physical exertion as a possible and more basic explanation for noise during intercourse, likening sexy moans to the grunts of tennis players. Whatever the case may be, there's something extremely intimate about the noises of lovemaking that most people either find incredibly sexy or uncomfortable and awkward. I think it can be a bit of both depending on who it's coming from!

So ladies, what are your thoughts on being verbal during sex? Do you tend to be noisy? Or, are you as quiet as possible? And which do you prefer your partner be?


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Janine22 Janine22 8 years
Umm well, we live in a basement suite and our landlords bedroom is right above ours, so I pretty much have to be really quiet. It kind of sucks, because sometimes I want to be loud.
JaimeLeah526 JaimeLeah526 8 years
I used to be overly loud and then I realized that it's too much work. Now I just make the sounds that I feel like. Some nights I'm silent and other nights the neighbors better watch out.
zombielove zombielove 8 years
the ex use to get uber turned on when he'd hear me moan. other than that i prefer no noise, which is why i just turn up the stereo when im getting it on :D
Meike Meike 8 years
Yes. Kind of hard to stifle, anyway.
italianblonde italianblonde 8 years
That list of why people make noises is completely obvious..didn't need to be written as 'findings', just my opinion. But I like it when we both make lots of noises...I wanna know how he likes it too!
ajennilynrushhh ajennilynrushhh 8 years
i'm loud, noise is good ;) my boyfriend loves it ;)
jessie jessie 8 years
Omg...seriously??? I was just thinking of writing "Dear Sugar" about how I can open up to making noises during sex. Good timing! I'll just ask for tips here.. :) I am sooo quiet, I want to make noises, but for some reason I can't. Hubby would just LOVE if I would. Any ideas ladies on how I can open myself up to doing that? Any help much appreciated!
Blackwood Blackwood 8 years
I'm a virgin (and when I indulge myself I'm seriously dead-silent... like I am in all the rest of things in life), but I really have no problem with people making all sorts of sounds when having sex. I mean, I know a lot of people are quiet, but a lot of other people aren't, and that's natural, and it's okay. Sometimes it turns me on, sometimes it doesn't do anything for me and I ignore it, but the only time I really loathe it it's when it comes from my parents' bedroom... I mean, I'm all for them still finding each other hot after all these years, but come on... I don't need to know it with so much precision! :S Too bad my room is right next to theirs...
allinavhcnerf allinavhcnerf 8 years
i'm louddddd and i love it and so does he! the louder, the better :)
bransugar79 bransugar79 8 years
I tend to be pretty noisy which is usually ok with my husband. Sometimes if we have people over it's reallyhard to keep quiet so we usually just won't do it. I am pretty sure there have been times the neighbors have heard and afterwards I feel shy about it but during I totally don't care
drhotie92 drhotie92 8 years
hmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm... good question??
brittanyk brittanyk 8 years
I tend to be pretty noisy, but we can't go crazy because we have neighbors on both sides of us :P
Frank-y-Ava Frank-y-Ava 8 years
I'm not really a noisy person, I hardly make any sounds. But my partner does, it funny!
MeggyPoodles MeggyPoodles 8 years
yes yees yeeeeeesssss. ahem. hehe lol
yaliyah yaliyah 8 years
my guy told me that i curse like a sailor in bed. i had no idea... but he doesn't have any complaints. he said he wished he had a tape recording of me when i'm excited.
RocknBabe RocknBabe 8 years
I'm pretty natural... I don't fake any noises and what comes out of my mouth is usually on the quiet side. Every now and then I surprise myself and say something FILTHY!!
lauraxtc lauraxtc 8 years
I like to express myself. When we have visitors of course I am quiet or I just breathe hard. My son is in the next room so I don't go crazy either. Every now and then we get a room and have a night to ourselves. During that time, if it hurts, or feels extra good, I say it with my moans. It makes me and my partner feel wild.
I am LOUD! I wish he would make more noises, it turns me on when he does them once in a blue moon hehe
LadyAngel89 LadyAngel89 8 years
I love being noisy! I'm just not happy unless I think the neighbors heard haha!
Sporky Sporky 8 years
Yes we're noisy but we have VERY noisy neighbors so I don't care, LOL!
pinkprincess1101 pinkprincess1101 8 years
i have no shame letting him known how i feel in bed he knows how to work it so he deserves to know how he makes me feel, that is the best gift for a guy in bed to let him know he is doing a wonderful job
bbkf bbkf 8 years
Noisy is good; talkative is not! I can get the point across without using words :-)
cmd0610 cmd0610 8 years
I feel totally comfortable and confident making noise but I'm not that in to being actually verbal i.e. saying sentances or words- i think that's two totally different types of "release" but for me noise making is sufficient and sexy!
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