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Good Idea or Bad Idea: Coed Parties

Although I love the traditional female-only showers and bachelorette parties, I think there’s something really fun about the concept of sharing those special occasions with the man in your life. Then again, before taking the plunge, some serious girl time is definitely in order. Plus sometimes throwing guys into the mix only makes things more complicated and less fun; there's really nothing like just being with the girls! So ladies, what do you think, are co-ed prewedding parties a good idea or a bad idea?


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ladyjulianna ladyjulianna 9 years
When my best friend got married, we girls worried her hubby-to-be wasn't in on all the fun showers & good times. As a way for the two of them to show off their new house & have a night to enjoy their friends of both sexes, we threw a stock the bar party. Everyone brings a bottle to stock the bar. Of course, we provided our own liquor for the evening so they wouldn't have to dig into their gifts...minus a bottle or two of Jaeger! Great fun for everyone!
Silverlining10 Silverlining10 9 years
I'm a bit old-fashioned. I think bachelorette parties would be soo much more fun with just girls!
Allyson-N-Jason Allyson-N-Jason 9 years
Hmmmm...not sure here. My finance is not the typical guy. He's always had more female friends than male and he's a bit eccentric in this regard. He has male friends but his idea of hanging out with the guys doesn't involve strippers, sex talk or anything like that. If anything he'd be interested in talking about movies, seeing them, discussing music, comic books, novels, games, art, travel and forth. I guess he'd be OK with whatever. He certainly feels comfortable around women and wouldn't mind at all if the party was co-ed. That would be kind of interesting actually. On the other hand, it is nice to have time with female friends. I guess that's a novelty to me because I've never had a load of female friends or a few CLOSE females friends to begin with. I definitely appreciate the opportunity to cultivate friendships and bond with other women. It's not something that happens often at all for me. My ideas for a bachelorette party would be zany, fun, unique and very stimulating involving great food and intriguing drinks too. No boring and mundane stuff. Fun all the way.
KimBurnett KimBurnett 9 years
Me too, emalove, I wish I'd had Jack n'Jill too. These are events, marriage and parenthood, in which you'll really need your spouses full participation. Train these men how to listen and empathize from the beginning. Bored?! They should be there.
emalove emalove 9 years
Oh, and Jack n' Jill showers are so much funner than traditional, all-female bridal showers too. They have more of a party-like atmosphere and are generally more casual. I had a traditional, all-female bridal shower, but I wish I had a Jack n' Jill.
emalove emalove 9 years
This is EXACTLY what I did instead of a bachelorette husband and I wanted all our friends together, male and female. I had an absolute blast.
kikidawn kikidawn 9 years
I think that the shower should perhaps be only female. But I can possibly see the bachelor and bachelorette parties joining up and having a big bash at the end of the night.
sfbutterfly24 sfbutterfly24 9 years
I would have to have co-ed as my guy friends would have a fit if they missed out. Also I dont really like "showers" and the games.
aimeeb aimeeb 9 years
I don't see why not...
Kimpossible Kimpossible 9 years
I think it depends on the couple.
erinridgeway erinridgeway 9 years
I don't know what's traditional in the rest of the country, but I'm from South Carolina and I've never known a bride who had just one shower, so can't you have a little of both? A co-ed engagement party or a shower both halves of the couple can get into, like a stock-the-bar or an entertainment shower, is always fun, but there's something to be said for a girly lingerie shower or tea and a girls-only night out or spa date.
misslauren misslauren 9 years
I don't really care if my showers are co-ed or not, but I have a feeling most of my male friends would be a little bored with them. Having a joint/co-ed bachelorette party would be a different story though.
javsmav javsmav 9 years
I can't imagine anything worse than sitting around with a bunch of women opening household items...except maybe wearing a big white dress and having people stare at me while I walk down an aisle. If I get married, nothing will be traditional. I don't want a shower, but if someone held a gun to me and threatened to pull the trigger unless I agreed to a shower it would be co-ed. And gifts would be prohibited. And there would be lots of drinking. And no "shower games." So basically it would just be a party.
cubadog cubadog 9 years
I can't stand showers and I would not want it to be co-ed. I would love a weekend co-ed trip to Amsterdam for the last party.
thatsjoanna thatsjoanna 9 years
I have been to one with both guy and girls and it was not as much fun b/c the girls didn't feel as FREE to go CRAZY.
sugarbritches sugarbritches 9 years
Popgoestheworld I always love reading your posts! I've thrown a co-ed baby shower that was a blast! I personally don't like many of the traditional games so we kept the games to a minimum and absolutely no tasting ANYTHING except the great food I made for dinner. The guys really had fun and the girls were super relaxed too. It was a win-win. My brother had his bachelor party the same night his now wife had her bachelorette. We both went out and hit the town and partied it up separately. But later we all ended up at the same house and the parties kinda combined into one hell of a bash. Have to say it was the best bachelorette party I've been to.
linb linb 9 years
I think it is important to have a girls-only event, but I think you could also have a separate co-ed party. Perhaps the friends (girls) can throw a shower, and the co-ed shower could be more for family members. I really don't think my 20-something friends want to hang out with my grandparents, so I would prefer two separate showers.
mnp mnp 9 years
I would actually do something like popgoestheworld. I think I'd do one venue and two separate rooms and at the end of the night, we'll do something a group.
popgoestheworld popgoestheworld 9 years
My dream "pre-wedding" party would be coed. It involves an ultimate frisbee game followed by swimming in a lake. Then we grill. Then we play poker. I'm actually not kidding, which is a little sad.
Shopaholichunny Shopaholichunny 9 years
I agree. My guy would be bored and I personally want my girl time.
Lovely_1 Lovely_1 9 years
Yea I am with jopperma. My man would be bored half to death!
jopperma jopperma 9 years
I guess if the shower was less traditional it would work... But I am imagining my fiancé and his buddies sitting around watching me open a bunch of house stuff with my bridesmaids and grandmother and I don't think he would be too thrilled about that. I am guess that unless you have it in a bar... most men aren't going to really enjoy a bridal shower.
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