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Good Idea or Bad Idea: Cutting Your Hair After a Breakup

If you've ever gone through a bad breakup, and I'm sure most of you have, then you know change is sometimes the best cure. Since packing your bags and running away from your problems isn't always possible or practical, a quick fix will usually do the trick. And a change that isn't too brash but will make a difference is, of course, getting a haircut! According to Glamour magazine, 31 percent of women polled admitted to chopping their hair after a breakup. While I've definitely had the urge to do so myself, luckily my hairdresser has always talked me down off the ledge. Sure, cutting your hair is a great way to let go of the past, and a great way to feel light and refreshed, but tell me, do you think it's a good idea or a bad idea to make a drastic change to your appearance when you're in such a fragile state?


Urdesire Urdesire 8 years
I gave my heart entirely to my ex-boyfriend only to have it broken in the end. It was devastating to me that he could treat me so cruel after giving me so much love and attention to begin with. We had a long distant relationship but we managed to get together every few weeks. Anyway although he won't admit it I think cheating had a great deal to do with his changes. So after we broke up I made some promises to myself and decided to chop off 28 inches of my hair to signify my new change. Also he didn't want me to cut my hair so once he was gone I surely did what I wanted. However once he caught wind he said he had planned to get back with me and that I had now ruined that chance.... HA HA HA! Games are for the weak and I am still happy with my look.
queenbee18 queenbee18 8 years
I've done this! I think it was my way of kind of saying, look at me I'm beautiful I'm doing great and you screwed up by letting me go. I don't know. But I know I've done that, more than once ! =P
RockAndRepublic RockAndRepublic 9 years
Hell no! I love my hair.
CoMMember13630786602261 CoMMember13630786602261 9 years
Kia-I also got a tattoo after my bad break up. I was with my ex off and on for 5 years. At the time I had 4 tattoos and he told me I shouldnt get anymore because I was starting to look like a "biker chick" He also told me that I shouldnt cut my hair short. So I listened to him and kept my hair long and didnt get anymore tattoos. (PUKE!) After I moved out of our duplex I chopped all my hair off and got a huge new rib piece and havnt looked back since. I dont regret either one of those decisions. It is incredibly liberating. After I did it, I couldnt believe that I actually let him tell me what to do! At the time I thought I was doing it because I loved him and wanted him to be happy. But now Im in a new relationship and hes nothing like my ex, (he doesnt care what I do with my hair, he thinks my tattoos are sexy, etc) And now I see that it was his way of controlling me. To quote Rilo Kileys song "oooo it feels good to be free" haha. :)
brutalcupcake brutalcupcake 9 years
I think it's a good idea. Hair always grows back, just like a heart always heals.
Missy-Prissy Missy-Prissy 9 years
its a great idea. its the best way to start anew in my opinion. A single hair cut can change your attitude and self image dramatically.
kia kia 9 years
I once got a pixie cut after a boyfriend severely pissed me off and I was about to dump him. Other than that I had one excruciatingly painful break-up and took about 2 years to really get over it... I got a crazy awesome tattoo to celebrate when I finally felt liberated.
elizabethsosewn elizabethsosewn 9 years
I did this after I finally broke up with a boyfriend who was going nowhere, and I felt liberated. I've LOVED my hair cut, and I've only made it shorter and more fitting to me.
kathili kathili 9 years
As long as it doesn't turn out horridly, why not? Hair grows back after all, and you can also always re-dye it.
lilwildone1202 lilwildone1202 9 years
i wouldnt want to be the judge of someones elses life but i have cut my hair after every break up. after my one ex told me he loved my long hair--i cut it as short as i could after i found he cheated on me cause i couldnt stand the thought that he liked anything about me i hated him so much but im not saying you *should* do it but i have :)
neonbee neonbee 9 years
I've done it twice. I don't really think it's a bad idea, just as long as you don't go too far.
bethiesny bethiesny 9 years
Been there, did that, haven't looked back since! I have no regrets. In fact, I've never gotten so many compliments on my hair. Cliche? Maybe so, but I love it!
apothecary06 apothecary06 9 years
I think that it depends on the emotional place that you're coming from. If you prefer your hair short and you were only keeping it long because of your SO's preferences, then it can be a good, liberating thing. However, if you usually prefer it long and are thinking about cutting it just to do something drastic, that's when you might need to wait it out until you're feeling more rational. If you're in a huge amount of emotional pain, you might not be thinking clearly. And even though it does grow back, it can take a long time and until it does, it may serve as a reminder of the pain that led you to that rash step. The bottom line is that it depends on who you are - with or without the relationship. At the end of the day, it's about going out in the world looking and feeling like the best version of yourself - and only you can determine who that is.
Sun_Sun Sun_Sun 9 years
i'd probably dye it. the other day i was telling hubby how i just CANT cut my hair, i cant. id cry so much. it'd probably be a nice change, but i cant. just cant. cant elaborate either. :P
Seka21 Seka21 9 years
Its therapy. I cling to the idea that longer hair is feminine and i never want to admit it just suits me to be a mid length. I was listening to a Serbian song which says 'i cut my hair and re-did my make up' and i took the kitchen scissors and chopped off 8 inches. I gave myself the best cut and layer of my life (it was still long enough to classify as mid-long) and im now engaged to the man i met as a result of wanting to show off my transformation
cmill38 cmill38 9 years
I've done it twice. I liked my hair so it was fine but it didn't help with the break up at all. If it helped at all it wasn't the physical act of cutting my hair but the sort of therapy I get from David(the guy who does my hair).
bbkf bbkf 9 years
Great idea in my experience. After I broke up of my boyfriend of 4 years, I cut 24 inches off my hair. It used to be down to my tailbone and my boyfriend loved it. When I dumped him I chopped it to my chin and then I loved it :-) Kept it short ever since.
TidalWave TidalWave 9 years
i guess i did this without thinking about it. but i tend to let my hair grow for a while then just randomly cut it without caring too much about it. i do think that, in general, change is good after a breakup. Anything to make you feel refreshed and new and better.
AmberElizabeth AmberElizabeth 9 years
i say yes! i did it, and i bought a purse i probably didn't need and shoes and new make up! those things made me feel good at the time because i wanted to look better than EVER :) and they did make me feel good, and more confident. i knew i looked good and wanted my ex to miss me!
pippins_halfling pippins_halfling 9 years
I did this once... but only because I wouldn't have had the nerve to change my hair otherwise! I had been thinking of a certain cut for a long time, but I never had the guts to change it... Then the breakup happened, and I went all crazy and got it done. And I loved it.
k8-rckstr k8-rckstr 9 years
lol wow...
chatondeneige chatondeneige 9 years
I think the issue people took is that you said "you always regret it," taking their experiences into your own, so people are eager to show you that no, we don't always regret it! When you make a blanket, untrue statement like that, people are going to have reactions of some sort!
k8-rckstr k8-rckstr 9 years
Im glad for you seriously people... Im stating MY don't have to keep bringing me into yours... Im speaking from MY experience... If you changed your hair and are happy, more power to you and Im glad you don't have the regrets that Ive seen from other people in my life.
chatondeneige chatondeneige 9 years
k8rckstr, cutting my hair after my first big breakup was the best thing I could have possibly done! It looked so cute, and I kept the cut for years.
bengalspice bengalspice 9 years
I always cut my hair after a break-up. I have even cut my hair again once I've recovered from really bad break-ups. I also chopped my hair off when I was at really low points in my life and relationship, and that I needed to start being more and not the long-haired beauty my mom wishes I was.
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