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Good Idea or Bad Idea: Going to a Strip Club With Your Man

I was out with friends earlier this week, and one of my buddies couldn't stop talking about all the couples he saw when he went to a strip club for his friend's bachelor party — I guess he was surprised by the number of women there. Though I'm not a fan of strip clubs myself — I just feel so bad for the women that are being objectified — I know many women who enjoy going with their significant others. Perhaps they like to keep tabs on their men, or maybe they genuinely enjoy it — whatever the reason, to each her own! What do you think about visiting a strip bar with your significant other? Do you think it's a good way to understand the male point of view, or do you think some things are meant for guys only?


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Jake2010 Jake2010 6 years
I honestly have never been.... I've thought about it a lot... wondered about it plenty.... but I decided that I would not go in without one of my female friends..... I just think it would feel creepy to walk in alone and sit down by myself..... fortunately I have a friend who is more that willing to escort me.. so now it's just a matter of finding a nice place... it troubles me to hear so many comments about less than attractive dancing girls.... that would just be a total bummer and turn out to be a ruined evening.... any suggestions on how to pick a good spot with good dancers???
RustyAngel73 RustyAngel73 8 years
I'm single but I like strip clubs.
designerel designerel 8 years
my current bf has said that he has no interest in going, but i'd be completely fine if he went, and i'd be cool with tagging along if it wasn't a bachelor party or something. these women shouldn't be a threat-- they are paid to flirt and shake their boobs in guys' faces. any guy who goes there thinking that a stripper totally wants him is deluded. most of these women probably already have a man at home anyway. or are taking the job to pay the bills. it's just a job to them.
sldc sldc 8 years
My money and my husband do not support strippers. Naked women with daddy issues and some bad circumstances do not turn me on.
suyen suyen 8 years
i totally agree with arkana... will be going to vegas in a week with my boyfriend and his friends want to go to a strip club.. and i still dunno if he's going... i couldn't agree more about the ogling. i hate it when I catch my boyfriend ogling.. he doesn't admit it.. or maybe sometimes guys are so used to it that they don't think it's wrong? or that it annoys their girlfriends/wives? anyway, i'd probably be okay going to a strip club if i knew my boyfriend wouldn't be ogling.. but since he does.. hmm.. i probably won't go with him.. or let him go at all. hehe.
Arkana Arkana 8 years
Honestly, I might be bothered by it. It seems I'm the only one on here that would be. How many men do you think would go with their girls to Chippendale's? Not very many. It would only bother me for two reasons: 1. any guy oogling other women (and you know when they're naked there is more oogling lol) right in front of his girlfriend/wife seems like a complete douche to me. Nothing wrong with noticing a pretty girl and looking, but I mean please, have some class. If they're naked, being more subtle about it is near impossible. 2. Money. Noting wrong with a few singles or anything, but men spend a lot more than $5 at those places. My bf and I planned to get married when we have the money. So him sticking money in another woman's g-string would really make me think he wasn't that serious about getting married seeing as he rarely has any money in the first place. To each girl her own though! If you like going with your bf/husband, then more power to you :) Strip clubs is the only thing I've ever brought up to him as being a red line. He can go hang out with his friends, drink, do whatever (can't cheat of course though), so all in all I'm pretty cool. I only ask one thing, that's it.
The-Drunk-Lady The-Drunk-Lady 8 years
My bf doesn't go to strip clubs. I've never been, but would like too. When I go, if I don't like it, I won't go again. I say try every thing once. I never want to miss out on something new. You have to break out of your routine. Push your comfort zone and experience everything in life.
plus_2_kid plus_2_kid 8 years
I've had boyfriends in the past I would have gone to strip clubs with without hesitation -- I think b/c they only went for silly things like bachelor parties, and made all sorts of jokes about it. My husband, however, used to go to strip clubs fairly regularly with his friends. It _really_ bothered me, although I wish it didn't. I don't think I could go to a strip club with him. I could go with other friends who I knew thought it was sort of silly, but the fact that my husband liked going to them, I don't think I could do it. I wish wish wish it didn't bother me. It does.
kikidawn kikidawn 8 years
very good point RockAndRepublic Neither my guy nor I are interested in something like that. Like RM said he'd be happier getting the newest video game ;) gah I Love my guy! and I agree with Sun_Sun too.
a-nonny-mouse a-nonny-mouse 8 years
Mr. Mouse has never visited a strip club; he has zero interest in them. But I'm just about as much woman as he can handle anyway (sometimes more than) -- and he frequently teases that I'm the only woman he'd *like* to handle. (Yes, he was a virgin -- through and through, first kiss and all -- when we got together twelve years ago. I was not nearly as innocent, nor as inexperienced.) It's kinda funny; he's known for his fierce devotion toward me as his one and only, even at his workplace. He requested to be sent to a Computer Geek convention in Vegas and was approved. His Director (who also happens to be a good pal of ours) said that approval was easy, because the Mouse is pretty much the only fella (at the company) that can be trusted *not* to ditch the convention and use the opportunity as a vacation to gamble and take in a bunch of stripper shows.
fabulouslady87 fabulouslady87 8 years
I think it would be fun to go with my boyfriend. I've never been to a strip club, but we're planning a trip to Vegas and we plan to go to one (he said he's buying me a lap dance, we'll see about that one lol). I'm totally straight, but I think women are beautiful, our bodies look good! And you don't have to just stare at the strippers-- there are strip clubs that are more like regular nightclubs, and some even serve food like a real restaurant. If you go to a well known place, like Scores for example, it could be a fun experience. Just don't go to the dimly lit, seedy area of town where all of the "ladies of the night" hang out, you might not have such a good time! And I agree with kaylee143, you could definitely pick up some sexy tips watching the ladies dance that you could try at home with your man.
Red315 Red315 8 years
My guy friends like to go and invite me almost everytime, but have never taken the bait! I blush when people even mention stripping or sex so I can only imagine what it would be like for me to even be there! Maybe one of these days I'll see what all the hype is about! Until then... no thank you!
zombielove zombielove 8 years
good idea. i'd go if he was going, i'd prolly have more fun than him too :)
rabidmoon rabidmoon 8 years
Hehehe. :D
ilikeatea ilikeatea 8 years
Marni and I think we are dating the same men..I think my bf would get mor excited about going to a car show or a rock concert than a strip club
Marni7 Marni7 8 years
haha that u said that, i think my boy gets more excited about picking up the new madden at midnight then going to a strip club
rabidmoon rabidmoon 8 years
..besides, the faster way to get my boyfriend all up in a sweat is to take him to a video game convention. Or cook something involving noodles. :D
rabidmoon rabidmoon 8 years
I wouldn't be threatened but neither of us are the type, its just a bit tacky to me. I don't see it as anti-female though, quite the contrary, if women enjoy doing it and are not being exploited by owners or managers, and can maintain their identity, why not? Let me also say just because I do not find this sort of thing appealing, I do not hold it against people who choose to go. Its whatever works for you. I would think to be good at this, besides the obvious physical aspect, one would also need to be shrewd, savvy, and have firm boundaries about her career and her body. If a woman possesses all that, no man will ever take advantage of her, clothes or no.
Sun_Sun Sun_Sun 8 years
my husband and i both have too much class to ever be caught in such a place.
Marni7 Marni7 8 years
My boy is goign to his first strip club for his best friend's bachelor party lol my roomate and i are always the one telling our boys that we all need to go one day..i think it'll be fun!
RockAndRepublic RockAndRepublic 8 years
When I meet someone I really truly care about unless she is just all about them, I'd rather not go to them at all. I don't want my wife to have an interest in women, just in me.
That's a very interesting view to take. Wasn't expecting it.
Greentea1203 Greentea1203 8 years
i've been to several strip clubs with my boyfriend (now ex). usually the strippers pay more attention to the women it seems. one lifted up my shirt in front of my guy friends. (I didn't care). I never got jealous or anything if my boyfriend went to a strip club because all the strippers in my city are T-RASH anyway.
Clarby Clarby 8 years
I've frequented strip clubs in my day, dated a few and have brought many a girl with me. I do not think I could ever go with my wife or a really serious gf. The girls I've brought I knew got turned on or were into girls so it was a mutually beneficial trip and truth be told I was more into the dancers. When I meet someone I really truly care about unless she is just all about them, I'd rather not go to them at all. I don't want my wife to have an interest in women, just in me.
pugglelover pugglelover 8 years
I go to strip clubs w/ my husband. Don't really care if he looks @ the strippers cuz I know that I look better naked then almost every stripper I've ever seen!
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