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Good Questions to Ask on a First Date

What Questions Do You Ask When Getting to Know Someone?

Curiosity. That's the one thing scientists say we should look for in the person sitting across from us on a first date. As someone who's been out with plenty of guys who can't carry on a stimulating conversation, I think this makes perfect sense. If a guy has an inquisitive interest in the world and people around him, he's probably pretty emotionally mature. And a desire to know more about you, your likes and dislike, can easily translate to good companionship, inside and outside the bedroom.

The report explains that you can determine a date's level of curiosity not just by the questions they ask you, but by the questions you ask them. If you say, "How do you feel about your job," and he says, "I don't know" or gives you a vague answer, he's probably not very curious. I know someone who says she can tell a lot about a person by asking them: "What's the best thing that's happened to you this week?" By asking that question you can show off your curios nature while also finding out if your date is curious too.

When you first get to know a person, say on a first date, do you have certain questions you like to ask?

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joriss joriss 7 years
It really depends on your date.. If your very attracted to him/her, you will find your self asking any stupid question with out knowing the answer coz your busy imagining things that are`nt happened yet.
Expertdating Expertdating 7 years
A great way to get a woman interested in you is to ask provocative questions with will spark a great conversation. By doing this, you'll demonstrate that you're an interesting person to be around. For instance you could ask: "What would you do with your life if you never had to work?" Or you could try asking: "What's the craziest thing you've ever done?" On your first date, you can easily build rapport and attraction by talking about her aspirations and goals. When you do this, you'll start talking about the important things close to her heart. You'll create rapport by transferring her positive feelings to you. Women love talking about their passions. So during your initial conversation, you should ask about the things she enjoys during her free time. If you can discuss the things she loves to do, you'll focus the conversation on positive feelings. In essence you're making a connection to something which she loves.
Expertdating Expertdating 7 years
* Tell a story about someone else, indirectly telling the other person how to feel. The more involved the story, the more effective the simple suggestions will be. For example, "My friend, who I met backpacking my way through Egypt, once told me something that made a great impression on my mind. He told me that great adventures often lead to loneliness and loneliness is a dead-end. He said love is what makes people happy. Love fills your heart up with joy and you can't help but express that love to others that you care about. Then he said to me..."
Bettye-Wayne Bettye-Wayne 7 years
On a good date, the conversation just flows. On a bad date, I say fuck it and ask what his favorite flavor of ice-cream is.
dexaholic dexaholic 7 years
As someone really new to the dating scene, all your questions are a big help! While I haven't had an official 'first date' yet, I've been terrified I won't have anything to talk about, and these questions are sure to help get the conversation started. Thanks!
skigurl skigurl 7 years
it obviously depends on the crowds you roll with, because if a guy/girl/anyone asked me about a superhero i'd find a way to politely get out of that conversation, and i wouldn't have an answer either
postmodernsleaze postmodernsleaze 7 years
The "marry, fuck, or kill" game. I don't like boring, standard first dates. The more you laugh on a first date, the more likely a second date will happen. I don't laugh sitting through a boring ass dinner answering questions about my childhood pets and stuff.
bryseana bryseana 7 years
Great question spacekatgal. I remember asking my boyfriend about his family on our first date- their names, etc...Nothing too personal. We also talked about our favorite bands. Lightweight stuff. I don't think it's a great idea to ask questions that may make the other person uncomfortable. Some questions can come across as judgmental or interrogating.
xgreenfairyx xgreenfairyx 7 years
'When is the last time you got tested?' If he can't deal with that on a first date, then I'm not interested.
GlowingMoon GlowingMoon 7 years
Truthfully, there are no standard questions I ask. I just enjoy that person's company, and let the conversation happen naturally. For me, that's the best way to get to know somebody -- spend some time with them, and interact naturally.
AlexisSF AlexisSF 7 years
if i guy were to ask me why i was single on a date i'd get up and leave.
skigurl skigurl 7 years
where they grew up, where they went to school, what they do for a living...then i like to play the name game...who do we know in common from what school/city then i just build on that and ask more probing questions i am curious to see what people say, because sometimes i feel like people ask me weird questions, or that i don't have good questions to ask them...but i think the level of comfort versus awkwardness has everything to do with personality if a person gives you a ho-hum one-word answer, it wouldn't matter what question you ask - they are kinda dull and not that into chatting with you
lauraxtc lauraxtc 7 years
I like to ask where they grew up, when is their birthday, what is their favorite food, where are his roots from, I ask why they are single. lol. Silly questions but they are helpful to know.
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