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Greg Behrendt on Technology and Dating

It seems that most of you rely on text messaging when it comes to communicating with your love interest, but according to Greg Behrendt, author of He's Just Not That Into You, we can call the shots on how to communicate with our crushes. To see what he has to say about the role technology plays in the dating game,


How do you feel about the role technology plays in dating these days?

I think that in your life you have standards for what you will or will not tolerate, what works for you. If you're comfortable having an entire relationship on text, that's up to you, but you basically teach people how to treat you. If you want a phone call, ask for a phone call and accept nothing less. You want to see somebody in person? Let them know. The great thing is, it's expanded the way we communicate. You know, sometimes when I'm doing something like this, I can check in and shoot my wife an email or a text and say "Hey, I love you, just letting you know. Busy, can't really call right now." But if I did that all the time, it would be problematic.

To see more from my interview with Greg Behrendt, just click here.

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JaimeLeah526 JaimeLeah526 8 years
I just read his book and he's completely ridiculous. Basically no man is ever in to you. I agree that if a man texts you all the time and won't call when you ask him to then you have a problem.
princess_eab princess_eab 8 years
I agree that we teach people how we want to be treated. It's crucial to set up standards for yourself at the beginning of a relationship, because you won't get another chance.
lindssaurussss lindssaurussss 8 years
dead ont. i dont expect calls all the time. infact i think my voice is kinda bad. but a occasional call is great. shows they want put in a effort. im glad i have a boyfriend that does that and doesnt play tricks. before him i use to have to hint it. no more of that, next time i will just forget about them, too much frusteration.
Muirnea Muirnea 8 years
I agree with Greg Behrendt, and with SINgleGIRL that the most important thing is teaching people how we want to be treated. Technology plays to much a role in relationships for my liking, but I do agree that if you're busy, an "I love you, but busy now" text is nice to be able to do. But other than that, it should at least be over the phone if not talking for real, relationships (for me at least) just start dying out if there isn't any "real" contact. I can't have an imaginary text bf that might or might not really exist, LOL. :-P
Simone-Grant Simone-Grant 8 years
I think the "take away" here is that we teach people how to treat us. I've forgotten that many times and then I get pissed when I'm being taken for granted or being asked to be happy with just texts for days at a time. Eventually it hits me - oh yeah, I'm letting this happen. I'm promising myself that the next time I start a relationship I will "teach" the guy how to treat me right from day 1.
aimeeb aimeeb 8 years
He's so on point. I don't mind texting with my boyfried or IM/emails when he's bust work or traveling but I almost always require a phone call or two through out the day.
avantgardeology avantgardeology 8 years
I text my boyfriend sometimes when hes at work, but other than that, I love seeing his adorable face walk in the door when he comes home. Id definitely rather talk in person! He calls me and such, but we both love touching and kissing! :)
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