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Guys and Cursing

I like a man who's not afraid to use the occasional expletive (at appropriate times, of course), but I think it's a major turn off if he's constantly dropping the F-bomb.

I once met a guy at a bar that I found attractive, but when we went on our first date, he was cursing left and right. I think he thought it was cool or proved his manliness, but truthfully it made him seem unintelligent and left me feeling totally uncomfortable. I mean, come on, there are many more ways to describe a movie then to constantly say "That was f***ng awesome."

I've asked you about swearing at work, but now I want to know what you think about guys you date that curse. Do they seem more attractive to you? Less attractive to you? Does a cursing guy even bother you at all or are you indifferent?


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Martini-Rossi Martini-Rossi 9 years
I hate when people curse TOO much. "How the *uck are you?" - not cool! I think it shows how uneducated the person really is, their vocabulary isn’t that deepand its really annoying! My Fiancé was like that when we first started talking but I had him cut that out immediately!
grrlyrebel grrlyrebel 9 years
I don't mind cursing at all unless it's overly gratuitous. I'll throw down the F bomb myself if I slam my hand in the door or if I overdraw my bank account, etc. If overused, cursing just sounds like you're either trying to show off or you're just too unintelligent/unoriginal.
millarci millarci 9 years
I tend to curse a little more than I'd like to. However, when you're cursing left and right, that can be a complete turn off. Cursing every now and then is okay.
PrincessTracy PrincessTracy 9 years
I curse alot...I can't help it so I can't fault anyone else...
aimeeb aimeeb 9 years
My boyfriend never swears, its so odd. Ha. I don't mind others who swear, I do-just not a lot of the f word over and over and over...
OliveBlack OliveBlack 9 years
I swear like a sailor myself, so I can't say I mind it in other people. I suppose it depends on the choice of swear word and the way it's delivered- if it does seem like the person is trying to seem hard and manly by swearing I suppose it would be annoying.
nikodarling nikodarling 9 years
Def not attractive. I agree that it makes a person seem less intelligent. It also seems disrespectful, but I guess I'm old fashioned. I curse occassionally, but I save it for occassions when it is warranted.
Greggie Greggie 9 years
Less attractive in a major way.
chipjimi chipjimi 9 years
A curse word now and then is ok. I don't think it should be used all of the time.
Lovely_1 Lovely_1 9 years
My boyfriend does swear a lot, but when we are in a public place where he shouldn't or with my family he doesn't and I guess that's all that matters... So swear away hahaha ;)
Jinx Jinx 9 years
I guess it depends how hot they are to begin with! :rotfl:
Karma87 Karma87 9 years
My hubby and I both swear, not while working or around the family, but every other time, it seems...we're intelligent, good-background types, and we make fun of ourselves all the time, like when we start sentences with "F*ck!..." Just words as far as I'm concerned, and we're not around anyone else. Some people say it's about power, some say it intones ignorance. I say screw it! Freedom of speech! GO RED SOX!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! (Although my husband's team is already wintering in the Bronx, lol)
Jacq_gofish Jacq_gofish 9 years
It's a huge turnoff. I'd relegate him to friendship status, and even then, he'd be walking a fine line on it.
RockAndRepublic RockAndRepublic 9 years
It can definitely become a turn off. I mean would you do it upon meeting someone? I wouldn't.
allien86 allien86 9 years
I totally agree with random. I will occassionally swear, however I hate it when people (not just guys) do it all the time and for no ascertainable reason. I mean each to their own... but my guy knows I hate swearing and so rarely does it.
Random2 Random2 9 years
Constant swearing or swearing 'just because' for no real reason is a turn off for me. I'll let one slip when I'm upset, but using swears in a normal conversation makes me think the person has little social skills, or isn't very educated, or a combination of the two. In a group discussion, I had a guy turn on myself and the other guy who was siding with me and say, "Up yours" while giving us the finger.
demeter demeter 9 years
It's definitely a turn off if they do it all the time.
Muirnea Muirnea 9 years
Swearing every once in a while is fine, but all the time and you just seem like you are trying to hard to show off, you are not comfortable being yourself, and you and not very educated because you have no other vocabulary to describe the situation. So its ok if it is in a sophisticated way, if that makes any sense, lol lol! :)
emalove emalove 9 years
As long as it's not every other word, swearing doesn't bother me much at all. My husband hardly ever swears...I'm the potty-mouth in the relationship. Haha :)
mrskrismendoza mrskrismendoza 9 years
I agree with you BrandyNicole. They are all just WORDS> Who decided that they were bad in the first place?
hotstuff hotstuff 9 years
Turn off if it's done excessively. He doesn't even have enough respect not to do it on a first date! I'd be like buh bye.
frizzybeargirl frizzybeargirl 9 years
I really don't care one way or the other
mabess mabess 9 years
I used to never use curse words. I just didn't grow up hearing them, so they weren't a part of my speech. But then I met my husband, and he cursed all the time! At first, it was a turn off. But then, I realized it was just the way he talked. All of the men in his family swear constantly, so I couldn't judge him for something he picked up. He knows he's got to tone it down before we have kids, though.
lorenashley lorenashley 9 years
i do it all the time.
indielove indielove 9 years
Dear: you wrote 'then' instead of 'than'. Sorry for being a grammar nazi but you know...
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