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Dear Sugar
I am attracted to a guy in my class. He's really gorgeous and nice. I don't know him very well, but whenever we're close I can feel something very powerful happening to my body. I'm talking MAJOR tingles.

My friends say that the reason that I'm attracted to him is because he never gives me the time of the day. But I do know that he's really shy when it comes to girls. He's only dated one person; one of my best friends. But she doesn't mind, because she said that it was OK if I wanted to date him since she has a new boyfriend anyway.

I find him irresistible, but I don't know how to talk to him. Normally, I find it easy to hang out with guys. What's my problem? Timid Tracey

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Dear Timid Tracey,
You're feeling shy around him because the stakes are high. But don't let you anxiety about the situation psych you out. Remember that he's just another person like you and me, so don't put so much pressure on yourself to be grand or witty - just be yourself. Next time you bump into him, say something like this:

"We've got to stop meeting like this. Are you following me around or something?"

That'll get him to smile and laugh. And since you're kind of asking him a question, it'll be the start of a conversation too.

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e.b e.b 10 years
Give off the vibe that you are into him. That's easy enough right? You could sit by him in class, ask him if you could see his notes, stare at him a bit longer than you would anyone else, etc... Then after your initial vibe/contact say something like "hey you know my friend ______, right? I thought you looked familiar. I'm Tracy." Give him a smile and walk away. If he is into you he'll figure it out. Guys may be shy but they're not clueless. Good luck!
ethiopian_princess ethiopian_princess 10 years
if you can't make that sound like a joke, he may get freaked out and think you're serious
nicachica nicachica 10 years
that's definately a cute intro line Pop! i'd also add that since he dated one of your friends (AND you got the friend's approval, which is always important!), why don't you ask her to introduce you to him if you're too shy to make the first move? that is, if they are on good terms! good luck! i know that a lot of times, its the guys who don't give you the time of day who notice you the most. he might be feeling the same way! :)
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