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Handle This: He's Flirting Right in Front of Your Face!

Handle This: He's Flirting Right in Front of Your Face!

You and your boyfriend are at a mutual friend's house party. You know almost everyone, but there are a few unfamiliar faces. You're in the kitchen chatting with your girlfriends and out of the corner of your eye, you see this tall, blonde bombshell close talking with your boyfriend! You've never seen her before but they look to be quite chummy chummy. The girlfriends you're standing with are just as stunned as you are but you don't want to jump to any conclusions — for all you know she's his long-lost cousin, his best friend's new girlfriend, or his sister's roommate.

While I hope to think I would give him the benefit of the doubt, ladies, tell me, how would you handle this situation?


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sophronia sophronia 8 years
First, I wouldn't go off the deep end and accuse him of anything. If he were approached, that isn't his fault, afterall it is a party and this is what people do. After this, it's a matter of how "he" handles the situation. I would stand with my friends and watch for a bit to see what goes on between the two of them, if it continues to get "chummy" or "chummier", I would then walk up to him and ask him how it's going, probably with one of my friends, as to keep the other woman confused? I would do this to see how he reacts, and that reaction would be the determining factor of what I would do next.
k8-rckstr k8-rckstr 9 years
Meh... maybe I am the jealous type...however, I never want to be with someone who thinks its perfectly okay and innocent to flirt with girls and lead them on... seems like a ton of wasted energy to me... why waste time flirting with other girls/guys when you have a significant other you could be using that time to be with
diazy diazy 9 years
I really don't get jealous. If you have an trustworthy relationship there really should not be a problem. If he is just chatting and flirting a little no harm in that, we all do that. I am sure everyone out there has flirted a bit it's only natural and sometimes wont even notice that we are doing it. As long as it stays just that. And any case you don't want to freak out and end up embarrassing ourself and creating problems were there aren't any.
Jacinthe Jacinthe 9 years
My guy's very social so chances are it would be nothing, but if it wasn't nothing, he'd be in deep shit and he'd KNOW it. When I get mad, I get SCARY. Being a bitch when people wrong you sort of runs in the family.
red4bonez red4bonez 9 years
well, i would go over there and i would try to feel the atmosphere around them,, cuz if he feels guilty i would know it. i would simply ask him to introduce me and if it was someone that he knows for a long time then i would just say hi and that woiuld be it, but if it was someone that he just met i would stay there and jump into their convo. later on i would confront him about flirting with her (when shes not around) no matter if it was his cousin, friend, just met i would be pissed. Especially if we are at our friends party and hes flirting with some other girl? If i wasn't there then ok go ahead I can't see but if i heard about it I would be pissed. It is ok to flirt once in a while i think everyone does it, if it is innocent it is fine but if it is leading to different level then the hell will break lose!! ;-) Plus i don't think my boyfriend would like if i was flirting with some guy, i think it he would just either start a fight with that kid or he would just like "pee all around me and mark his territory" lol. ;-)
Estefania1987 Estefania1987 9 years
I'm a very discreet person, then I'll definitely wait til after the party to ask him what the hell he thought he was doing and that stuff, but of course....I'll be pissed about this issue.
mlen mlen 9 years
i'd leave it alone for a bit- i mean at a party most people won't talk to one person the whole time, so i'd wait a bit and if they moved on to other people then problem solved! though i'd prob ask the bf who she was later out of curiousity, but not accusingly. if i noticed they were talking for an extended period of time then i'd prob bring my bf a drink, introduce myself to the girl, chat for a few minutes and then excuse myself and move on. for all you know, he already told this chick he was at the party with his gf, you don't want to act like a jealous bitch! again, later on i'd ask him how he knew her or something like that- but never at the party!
omilawd omilawd 9 years
First, after they were done talking I'd say something like, "She looked nice. Who was that?" If it was someone who was already close to him like an old friend or family member, whatever, but if it was an acquaintance or someone he just met, uh oh.
Asia84 Asia84 9 years
this is why you always have to look FAB. you never know when you gotta mark your territory. . . lol i'm not really the jealous type. any man of mines would know to restrain himself . . .because if he was doing something out of line (like damn near sucking face with the girl) he knows that i'm half crazy. but i've never had to go off on a boyfriend or the other girl. im usually confident in myself, so i think that helps. you gotta play cool in a situation like this, or else you'll just look like the crazy psycho girlfriend.
remedios remedios 9 years
I'd say hello.
Leanne1078 Leanne1078 9 years
My boyfriend is a huge flirt, and has lots of close friends that are girls. I can't say it doesn't bother me on some level, but I know he is just like that and if I want to be with him I have to deal with it :) Plus, if I want to be honest, I flirt all the time myself!!! Mostly I like to look at it like it's flattering that so many girls are attracted to my man but I'm the one who gets to go home with him every night (well, I would if we were currently living in the same state!).
onesong onesong 9 years
Jeez louise, just walk over and be nice. This happens a lot with my boyfriend, not because he doesn't try to get away, but because he's so handsome. I've had to learn to deal with it at pretty much every party, so what I do now is walk over and slide my arm around his waist, smile nicely at whomever he's speaking to, and say "Hi, I'm Cate!" I don't stick around and hound him, I just leave it at that. It always diffuses the situation--although I did have a girl (super drunk) at the last party we went to come up to me after and say "Ew, could you BE more possessive?!?!" I just about died laughing at her (granted she was like 20 and we're 24/26) and just walked away. It's not worth it!
K8 has the right idea! I'm with her!
emalove emalove 9 years
I'd walk over and introduce myself in a very friendly manner...if he appeared flustered that I came over or acted weird, THEN I would be suspicious.
sass317 sass317 9 years
Well in my situation, by now I have met all of his close friends- so I would have to assume this was some random girl. I would either leave it alone or go over and get in on the conversation to find out who she is, not bc Im jealous, just a little nosy lol.
Marci Marci 9 years
As long as it was just flirting or if it seemed like it was the girl moving in on my guy but my guy wasn't really going for it then it wouldn't bother me. But if it looked like they were both feeling it? I'd be bothered but would wait until after the party to discuss it.
starbright14 starbright14 9 years
I would probably just let it go. Would he seriously be overtly flirting with a bombshell in my presence if it were anything but kosher? I think not. Just my opinion - I guess I'm an up-front, trusting person, especially in this situation.
whatthew00t whatthew00t 9 years
I'd leave my boyfriend to talk to her: hey, maybe they're just friends. I act "chummy chummy" to some of my guy friends, and my boyfriend understands that I tend to be closer to my guy friends then to my girlfriends. I trust him to do whatever he wants as long as there is no cheating or doing anything to harm our relationship.
jennifer76 jennifer76 9 years
I completely agree with runnergeek and aistea311. I'm at a party and my boyfriend is talking to someone. What's the problem? :? Now, if I was at a party and my boyfriend was sitting in a corner being anti-social or trailing me around like a puppydog, then I'd have a "handle this" situation.
TASTEthiss TASTEthiss 9 years
i agree with k8 rockstar. i see we have the death glare in common lol. and theres nothing wrong with finding out who she is while politely letting her know hes off-limits.
MiyabiNa MiyabiNa 9 years
well if it's being overly friendly....or blantanly flirting in front of me..I'd make it a point to go over and introduce myself as his gf...politely of course...then proceed with smalltalk as a get my point across to both of them. He would KNOW he's in trouble for pretending I don't exist...but I won't make a scene at the party. That can wait for the car ride home ;)
minaminamina minaminamina 9 years
haha RockandRepublic, I've done exactly that before - with an ex of mine, after he was grinding with a darker-skinned girl on the dance floor at a friends house party. He always made me feel insecure about being light-skinned, and that drove me over the edge. It worked to my benefit in the end!
AujahAcorn AujahAcorn 9 years
i would ask him who it was later. he gets all cute when a girl flirts with him. harmless.
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