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Handle This: He Wants to Try Anal Sex

On occasion, your boyfriend has mentioned that he’s really enjoyed anal sex in the past and would like to try it with you. You've always felt hesitant about the idea, and naturally brushed off his requests. Lately, however, you’ve started feeling as if he’s pressuring you into it. One night when you’re fooling around, he pulls away from you and says that he’s bored with your sex life. He thinks it’s unfair that you haven't tried anal sex with him; it would really mean a lot to him if you just tried it; just once. How would you handle this?


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tayrose tayrose 7 years
I'd say I would think about it. Then the next day say no.
Jen-Erate Jen-Erate 7 years
I have a couple of gay friends who have told that it is worth to experiment because it can be quite stimulating, but something they forget when they tell me that is that anal sex for a man stimulates his prostate gland (remember that movie Road Trip?) and so is nice in that way that it can actually lead to an orgasm for a man. For a woman though there really isnt a lot to make anything interesting out of it. Men just like to put their penises anywhere though like with foot sex and armpit sex, anything that will get them off is usually enough. On a less scientific note I guess I am really pretty traditional, I think that people should only sleep together if they love each other. Theoretically from any sexual intercourse a pregnancy could result and I think it is bad karma to have a child born in a loveless relationship.
freeborn freeborn 8 years
well...i felt good being here and reading all the comments. begin with i also felt a lil reluctant allowing my bf doin that. Maybe there are social, religious and pcychological reasons for that. Believe me once you try it without keeping any pre-concieved notions you'd enjoy it more than many things that ud probably try. I do. anal sex indeed is a wonderful thing. Dont deprive yourself of that!
kastarte2 kastarte2 8 years
"I have the impression that only little dicks like this type of action." All the guys I have been with that have asked for this have been teeny tiny.
kh61582 kh61582 8 years
I tried anal sex once and that's going to be the only time I ever try it. Not only was it painful but it was painful for days after. My boyfriend and I did not discuss it ahead of time. I had no idea he was even interested in it. it happened in the moment. I could sense it going in that direction and my mindset when it comes to sex is I'll try anything once so I let it happen. I'm not sorry i tried it because now I know. I talked with my boyfriend about it later. He didn't feel that it was so fabulous that he wanted to do it again and he said that my pleasure was so important to him that if I didn't want to try it again he had absolutely no problem with that. If you are with a man who says anything different from that then he's a tool.
rayeray rayeray 8 years
I wouldn't mind trying it for once.. but hey.. if he wants me to do it by saying that the sex has become boring.. boy!! is he barking up the wrong tree!!
candace87 candace87 8 years
Well what happens once that gets boring too? If I were with someone and they pulled away and basically said, you're boring and you do this or i'll get it elsewhere, I would probably just say bye. I suppose though if it was a longer, better established relationship then just tell him you're not ready, and if/when you feel like you are, surprise him:)!
sparklestar sparklestar 8 years
OK so... anal isn't actually that bad if you use PLENTY of lube, stretch your anus gradually (nobody can take a whole penis straight away! you start with one finger and work up to more and maybe a vibrator or something) and it can hurt if you don't do it properly. The problem with anal is not the depth (your anus is pretty long and accomodating), it's the width. If you don't stretch it slowly then it's GOING TO HURT A LOT. Since the anus doesn't produce lubrication you need to use plenty of synthetic lube. It isn't for everybody though and if you do it wrong then it really does feel like you are taking a terribly large and very difficult poop. :D Hope nobody was eating for this...
fadeastride fadeastride 8 years
Any guy who tries to pressure you into anything that you've already said you're not fond of probably doesn't need to be having sex with you, period. If he's not willing to respect the choice you've made concerning your own body, then he can leave. Seriously. If I were ever with a guy who was pressuring me to do something I'm not comfortable with, especially sexually, I would show him the door. That's not ok. I've never had anal sex. I find it a bit intriguing, but not enough to actually do it. My boyfriend has no desire to do it, though I trust him enough to be slow and careful if we were to do so. I dunno. Your anus just isn't meant to stretch quite like that, which makes me think that anal sex would feel like taking a really huge, hard crap. That doesn't sound fun.
tigr3bianca tigr3bianca 8 years
My ex did the same thing to me. He eventually got me to try it. It hurt so bad. There is no way I would ever do it again. I don't know how anyone can enjoy it, not only does it hurt but it makes you feel sick to your stomach like you have food poisoning or something. And to everyone who thinks that saying "lets stick something up your poop chute first" will make him not want it, you'd be surprised. My ex agreed and ended up liking it. One of the many reasons he is now my ex. lol.
bluesteyes bluesteyes 8 years
This topic still generates responses? WOW...I guess Anal is one popular area huh! :)
ilanac13 ilanac13 8 years
well the first thing that i'm going to say is that i don't think that he's ever had anal sex. there are TOO many girls out there that wouldn't ever go for it that i think he's probably just saying that to make you feel bad. knowing that - you can more easily say no to him. if you're not into it - then you shouldn't have to do something that you don't like. i know that my fiance has mentioned it to me, and there is NO WAY that i'd ever let that happen, and regardless of his sad look on his face when i say now - i still stand my ground.
cubadog cubadog 8 years
If you don't want to do it he has to respect your feelings and not pressure you into doing something you are uncomfortable with.
Muirnea Muirnea 8 years
fuzzles: It seemed appropriate. LMAO! :)
mlen mlen 8 years
o this was hysterical thanks! i agree that its more in his manner of asking then the actual question. i know some girls like it but i have no interest in trying it. a guy i dated always asked cause he had done it with other girls and i just said sorry dude if you want that you are going to have to go elsewhere. he still asked from time to time but my answer didn't change and he didn't go elsewhere. so i guess he dealt with his disappointment haha.
sparklestar sparklestar 8 years
You can't just go straight from 0 to penis anyway! You need to take it slowly with lots of lube otherwise it is going to hurt a lot. If it doesn't float your boat then there is no forcing it regardless.
Honeybunch2 Honeybunch2 8 years
Never again! I allowed my ex entrance in the back door and it hurt like hell!
heidi-girl heidi-girl 8 years
absolutely not, but he never listens to the word 'no' and attempts to stick it in anyway
RaCheer RaCheer 8 years
My boyfriend and I have tried this a few times. If done right it's not bad and can feel quite nice. Don't knock it 'til you've tried it! ;)
fuzzles fuzzles 8 years
Muirnea! "What an asshole!" :rotfl:
Muirnea Muirnea 8 years
LMFAO!!!!!!!!!!!!!! AAaaahahahahhaha!!!! These are some of the funniest posts ever!!!! LOL LOL! :D I agree that it's more about HOW he asked in the original question. If someone said it like that, I wouldn't even bother with him, I would shove something up his @ss and then as I was walking out, be like "you still bored!?" What a jerk. And if someone asked nicely, they would definitely have to try it first before I ever even thought about maybe, possibly trying it. I'm not a playtoy to entertain him whenever he gets bored, sex is about TWO people, not ONE. What a @sshole. He would totally be dumped after he got something shoved up his ass. Man, this post made me mad just imagining this situation, ha!
Briandiesel Briandiesel 8 years
While I clearly could shed a large amount of light on this subject, I for once, will stay silent.
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