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Handle This: His Ex Drops in on Your Date

In an attempt at romance, your date takes you out to his favorite, intimate restaurant. You’re flattered by the gesture, but things quickly deteriorate when another couple comes in about 15 minutes later. As it turns out, it’s your date’s ex-girlfriend and her new boyfriend.

She gives an awkward nod, and it only takes you a few seconds to realize that this was probably the place they came together. He tries to stay casual, but his eyes are darting to their table every two minutes, so how do you handle this?


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Muirnea Muirnea 9 years
I'm with sass317 and Jinx . Ok, why would he bring you to "their" restaurant in the first place...that and the fact that he couldn't quit looking over at her table would make me think he wasn't over the girl and we were there for a reason. I would leave and not be dating him again.
Indigo4320 Indigo4320 9 years
If he kept looking at her table it would get old fast for sure. I'd probably after the first few looks suggest going to a different restaurant. If he says he's fine but keeps looking over there, I'd politely leave. A first date is all about you and your date, not you, your date and his ex.
Jinx Jinx 9 years
I could handle it, but what a smuck for bringing you to their place, and ummm, she did the same thing the same night? Thats a little weird. Red Flags, lol.
sparklestar sparklestar 9 years
I'd get up and walk out if he was looking at the table behind me. That is WEIRD and he clearly has emotional issues.
lickety-split lickety-split 9 years
ugh. sounds like a waste of an evening. think i would ignore it and maybe ask questions about a project he had at work or try and direct his attention elsewhere. maybe ask to switch seats (the air is blowing on my contacts) so he wouldn't be looking at her or to see if they have any outdoor seating?
sass317 sass317 9 years
If he kept looking over at them the whole time I would have to wonder if he brought me there to try to show her how "over" her he is, when he actually isnt and is hoping to make her jealous and get her to come back to him.
emalove emalove 9 years
The fact that he kept looking over at her table would piss me off. It would definitely ruin my night.
aphill4 aphill4 9 years
It depends on how good the food is. Sike!- yeah, probably feel it out by the guy's body language even if he says the opposite. Not even the best prepared food would taste at all decent if the situation was awkward enough.
K-is-For-Kait K-is-For-Kait 9 years
I'd probably ask him if he wanted to go somewhere else, maybe suggest a nice place I know. If he insists he's fine, I'd be willing to stay, but I wouldn't be able to have a good time if he continued to be tense and uncomfortable.
JaimeLeah526 JaimeLeah526 9 years
I'd suggest that we leave if he feels uncomfortable. If he says he's not uncomfortable than he will make a better effort to keep his attention on you.
xoxoxx xoxoxx 9 years
I wouldn't fret with it. All the guys I know hate their exes, and would run faster than a Kenyan in the Olympics at the sight of them. If the guy really seemed to be bothered with their presence, I'd suggest a new place!
Sporky Sporky 9 years
If it bugged me enough that he kept looking over there, I'd probably suggest leaving and going someplace else.
legallyblonde legallyblonde 9 years
As long as they keep their distance then I wouldn't have a problem with it. If your date has never mentioned her and seems to be focused on his date with you, I think it's safe to assume that she's not a threat, especially since she's with another guy.
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