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Handle This: His Parents Won't Stop Mentioning His Ex

Handle This: His Parents Won't Stop Mentioning His Ex

When you first met your boyfriend’s parents and they mentioned his ex, you chalked it up to a random occurrence. But now, six months later, both his mom and dad still ask your boyfriend for updates on her. Worse still, they always seem to be coming up with a new story or memory about her to share with you.

Your boyfriend claims he doesn’t notice it, but at this point your insecurities are quickly turning to anger. You get that they liked her, but you wish they’d show some tact. If you were in these shoes, how would you handle this?


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my-2cents my-2cents 9 years
I would be a smart *** and the next time they said something about her, I would say: "Ohhh, too bad she isn't here to hear all these nice things anymore. Oh well!"
Muirnea Muirnea 9 years
If the parents are asking for updates on the ex from the bf, that means the bf is still in contact with the ex, and like some others have said...that would be my problem. I would prob. get the bf to ask the parents to stop if the above ^ wasn't the problem. Hahahhaha, tweet hotpants, I love your idea, its amazing! :-P
JaimeLeah526 JaimeLeah526 9 years
haha tweet I love that response. The only thing I could do in this case is tell my bf to talk to them and tell them not to mention it. I also don't think that I'd be able to deal with the fact that he always had stories to update them with. That means he's spending time with her or at least talking to other people about her constantly. That is the issue for me in this situation.
sunnyheart sunnyheart 9 years
Oh tweet hotpants best answer yet.
tweet-hotpants tweet-hotpants 9 years
i think that if my husband's parents talked about how wonderful his ex was, i'd turn to him and say, 'she sounds so great, why did you guys break up?' and i'd make him talk about all the things that were wrong with the relationship. nice and passive aggressive- just how i like it :)
snarkypants snarkypants 9 years
ok dear, it's time to get some new images. this one has been used like 20 times. and the one with the two women eating cake was used like two weeks ago!
sparklestar sparklestar 9 years
With my ex his parents would talk about his previous girlfriends and how HORRIBLE they all were. I'm guessing I have now been added to this list. ;p Whoever follows up me with my ex is going to be in a sticky situation anyway - I'm his only serious long term girlfriend and we lived together and had cats soooooo... they've got a tough act to follow whatever happens! I've kind of had this before because another ex was best friends with his ex for like eight years before I came along so the families were all intertwined and his grandparents would call her and invite her to family gatherings and stuff. I was only 17/18 at the time so I didn't really think TOO much about it but looking back it really did bother me. With my current boyfriend his one and only ex he was with for 3.5 years so his parents know her very well and she's been over at the house picking her crap up after he cleared it all out. His parents were polite though and it was fine, there was no preferential treatment going on or whatever and they certainly never mention her. My boyfriend has the problem whereby I had a (gay) friend come to stay before I got together with him like a couple of weeks before from America and my mother fell in love with him. Seriously. She sends him postcards and won't shut up about how great my friend is. ;p She likes my boyfriend though too (both my parents do) and they never discuss my ex's. So all my boyfriend has to do is be nicer than my gay friend... my gay friend who is in love with my boyfriend. ;p It's all good. Haha, long post. I must be bored.
sass317 sass317 9 years
Id like to say that I would take care of it myself, the next time they start another story about the ex I would speak up and ask them why they think I would want to hear anything about her. But I know Im way too chickensh*t for that, I would tell my bf "Regardless of whether you notice it or not, I DO- your parents talk about your ex all the time and I want you to tell them to knock it off" Fortunately for me, the one time my MIL brought up my husbands ex was to tell me that she never really was crazy about her and she had always secretly hoped that wouldnt make it bc she thought the girl was immature and was relieved when they broke up.
Kim27 Kim27 9 years
I think I would end the relationship. Constantly talking about an ex and always having a story to tell about her means he is still in contact and still thinks about her. I would definatly have reason to believe there are still serious feeling there and give him a chance to figure out what he truly wants. Its better for the both of you in the long run.
emalove emalove 9 years
Depends on how well I know them...I might say something myself and tell them that it makes me feel uncomfortable. Otherwise, I'd just ask my b/f to say something to them.
Blackwood Blackwood 9 years
I would tell them aaaalll about my wonderful ex's parents??? :P just kidding, although maybe that would get the point across. ¬¬ like glowingmoon said, they can think/talk all they want, but... at the end of the day I'm the one their son chose to be with, so no words or arguing necessary. Sorry! haha But the fact is, maybe they've always been like this to every girlfriend he's had, or to people in general, and they don't realize/ don't think there is anything wrong with any of it either.
divinedebris divinedebris 9 years
Back when my husband and I were dating we had a break, and he dated another girl and his family did the same thing. It got so bad that he had to explain to her who I was and what I was to the's funny to me. After we got back together they were very happy about having me back. :D I'd be upset a if I was on the receiving end though, depends on how serious the relationship is.
tomatoshirt tomatoshirt 9 years
they "WILL" see/hear less "from" me...
tomatoshirt tomatoshirt 9 years
I think I would just ask them why they always mention the ex right on the spot. If they respect me, they will stop. If not, I guess they see/hear less of me.
Sun_Sun Sun_Sun 9 years
yea id def tell him to tell his parents to stop....hell if they have such bad taste id expect him to tell them on his own.
joesbabygirl joesbabygirl 9 years
I would ask my boyfriend to talk to his parents. If he wouldn't that would be the deal breaker! Cause I've been through enough drama in my life to deal with that crap!
AnnaLove AnnaLove 9 years
I would tell my boyfriend to tell the parents to stop it. Sooo disrespectful.
Fallen85 Fallen85 9 years
I agree with everything Glowing Moon says except I would never use the word "courting"... make that my answer except change the word "courting" to "dating". Perfect.
GlowingMoon GlowingMoon 9 years
I would just listen to their stories, and smile politely. They could rhapsodize over that woman all they want -- it doesn't matter. I'm the woman their son is now courting.
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