Skip Nav
Romantic Comedies
101 Romantic Movies You Can Stream on Netflix Tonight
17 Steamy Movies to Stream on Netflix Now
Tune In to the Sexiest TV Shows on Netflix in August

Handle This: She Cancels on Your New Year's Eve Plans

Handle This: She Cancels on Your New Year's Eve Plans

If you were put in a situation like this, how would you handle it?

You and your best friend made New Year's Eve plans months ago, which was a huge relief to you since there's always so much hype around that night. You each bought tickets to an all-inclusive party, and since most of your friends are coupled up, she's essentially your date.

When your friend calls you asking if you have time to talk, you can tell in her voice that something's wrong. She tells you that her best guy friend from college was asked to attend an incentive trip for his company and was invited to bring a plus one — her. The vacation overlaps with your New Year's plans, but she said it was too good of an opportunity to pass up. She's very apologetic, but she's left you in the lurch; you're going to be the only single one in your group. You're angry, but you don't want to hold a grudge, so how would you handle this?


Join The Conversation
Lyv Lyv 8 years
I'd be pretty pissed, but I'm not one to hold a grudge. New Year's Eve is my favorite holiday! If no other single friends were available, I'd go anyway and let the booze find me company. :)
aimeeb aimeeb 8 years
I'm with Ms_Magnificent1.
katiekat95 katiekat95 8 years
Ummm I had a girlfriend do that to me at 6pm ON New Years Eve. Needless to say...we are no longer friends. Since you have time...see if you could spend it with another friend.
bastylefilegirl bastylefilegirl 8 years
Don't hold it against her, in some ways this is the one bad part of scheduleing something so far in advanced secondly New Years Eve is one night and you have all of 2009 to hang out with this particular friend. You have many options: Buck up and go to the party alone Like someone said sale the ticket to someone else and go with them Actually ask someone on a date and go with a guy Oh and by the way you and your friend where going to look odd anyway since you two aren't a couple so I don't see what the big deal is.
margokhal margokhal 8 years
Wait...where *exactly* was she going on this trip? If it was to some expensive exclusive place, then I can't be mad - hell I'd go too! But if she's going just because it's a free trip and it's not anywhere special, then I'd be quite upset. I mean, they made plans MONTHS ahead of time. What's the friend going to do about her expensive ticket to the party? Give it to a friend? Hope the friend is a hot male to kiss at midnight!!!!! :D
psterling psterling 8 years
I'd be bummed and a little hurt but I would understand if it really was an opportunity she couldn't pass up. Hopefully she paid for her own ticket. If so, I'd ask if I could use her ticket for someone else (if I thought I had someone in mind). I'd go either way though. Its not like you were going alone, your other friends will be there, even if they are coupled up. Oh, and I'd make her take me out another time to make up for it for sure.
Mamis03 Mamis03 8 years
I'd get over it. Find someone else to go with or go by myself. The friendship wouldn't suffer for something so small.
finzup finzup 8 years
I think that if you have others in your group that would be fine. Or just use the ticket for someone else? Who says you have to be "coupled up" on New years anyway?
bengalspice bengalspice 8 years
Find a new date ... maybe someone from work/school that I've been wanting to get to know better.
Deidre Deidre 8 years
Honestly, I don't think this friend is handling the situation badly at all. I'd be initially bummed, but you can't hold a free awesome trip against her! Plus, you're still going to spend NYE with a bunch of friends. Who cares if they're all couples? If they're actually your friends, it's not like you're going to be excluded all night. Besides, I'm sure you would meet plenty of fun single people at this party too. And couples make excellent wingmen!
krae85 krae85 8 years
I think it depends on what the plans were and how much I'd been looking forward to it, to decide how upset I would be, but in the end I'm sure I'd get over it.
MissJules5x MissJules5x 8 years
i would ask her for her ticket and invite someone else. don't sit at home and mope because youre going to be the only single one in your group blah blah... instead get out there and bring someone else you want to spend time with. it could be another friend or it could be a guy youre interested in. have a good time.
Myst Myst 8 years
about two*
Myst Myst 8 years
I've had this happen to me before. Well what do you know, it was the best thing that could've happened. About a years ago, my friend was suppose to fly to Tokyo with me, so that I could attend an old high friend's wedding and at the last minute she bailed out on me. Well what do you know, at the wedding, I met up with my old crush and we're together now, happier than ever. Even though it's long distance it's the best. So you never know what could happen. They could be a single person there for you and hey, it's the New Year. Enjoy yourself.
356UIK 356UIK 8 years
I wouldnt give a shit, as long as I had other people in the group who are going, could not care less about whether they are single or coupled up as I have a lot of fun friends who are also couples. And I dont think I could be mad at her at all, it sounds like she is being given a really cool opportunity and its her problem if she has to eat the money from the ticket that she already bought. In fact Id prob do the same thing if I was in her position. I never understood the whole prob with being the only single one in a group of couples but thats just me ;)
missyd missyd 8 years
I meant to say WOULDN'T hold a grudge about it :p
missyd missyd 8 years
Ummm I wouldn't be 'mad' per se, I mean in all reality, what would YOU do? Ok maybe you would bail out on the trip but I don't know; it is a cool opportunity. And it does say that she sounded like there was something wrong when she called you, so she is obviously feeling bad about it. I personally would tell her how I feel, and that I am disappointed and don;t really know if what she did was right, but I would hold a grudge about it. I'd still tell her to go and we'll chat when she returns. You don't need to be dependant on someone else, girl! YOU go and enjoy yourself!!!
ksindustryexec ksindustryexec 8 years
Hey! In every let down, theres a little blessing!! Heres your chance to invite that guy you've had your eye on! Mayybee you're in for a New Years kiss? It's her loss.
princess_eab princess_eab 8 years
I'd be pissed and I'd tell her so, but I'd also wish her a good time. Then I'd invite someone else, and try to meet some guy at the party if I were too broken up about being single (personally, I never cared about things like that).
Ms_Magnificent1 Ms_Magnificent1 8 years
Honestly, I would tell her exactly how I was feeling. Calmly tell her to put herself in your place and how her decision negatively effects you plus your outlook on your friendship with her...thats all you really can do. The way she handles the conversation says alot about her...and remember you didn't do anything wrong. If she dismisses how you feel then that says alot about her character NOT yours!!! Just know you deserve good friends...not people who could just blow you off easily. With friends like those you don't need enemies :-(....
jenwils jenwils 8 years
I'd get over it - hell, if I was invited on a free trip out of town I would want to go. As you age you learn you have to be flexible with people because at some point you will want them to be flexible with you.
TidalWave TidalWave 8 years
Well isn't her ticket available now, just invite someone else?
Gift Guide For 1-Year-Olds
Spanish Lime Shortbread Cookie Recipe
Casserole Recipes
Fall Cocktails
From Our Partners
Latest Love
All the Latest From Ryan Reynolds