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Handle This: Someone Spread a Mean Rumor

You and your new guy agreed that you would wait a while to have sex for the first time, but your relationship continues to get stronger and stronger. Just when you think you guys are finally getting to the exclusive couple level, he starts acting strange; it seems like he's slightly less affectionate towards you. You try not to worry about it, but when a friend approaches you about something they heard through the grapevine, the pieces start to fall into place.

Your friend reveals to you that he heard from another individual — one that was in the same fraternity as your man — that you had an STI. You're completely shocked as you've never had an STI before, and have never confided in anyone about the possibility of having one.

You realize that your guy has "known" about this ugly rumor for the past couple weeks. You're not only embarrassed that he obviously believes it, but angry that he didn't talk to you about it. There's no way to set the story straight without a confrontation, so how would you handle this?


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Jeny Jeny 9 years
Take him with you and you BOTH get tested.. and then shove it in his face lol.. jk
Poster-of-a-Girl Poster-of-a-Girl 9 years
I'd ask him to get tested too!
RockAndRepublic RockAndRepublic 9 years
It's bad that he's take heed to rumors before talking to you. Bad.
snowbunny11 snowbunny11 9 years
I'd have low tolerance for this kind of thing. I don't know, this whole thing does seem like such high school drama. Fine, you guys can both get tested, but your boyfriend believed some rumor that you had an std from some frat guy, and he acted distant instead of asking you about it. Very strange. And I don't understand what the asker is embarrassed about? I just don't get this one I think.
lickety-split lickety-split 9 years
laugh it off. i would bring it up with him and say if he wants a docotrs test fine. in fact, it's a good idea that we both get one :)
mnp mnp 9 years
I agree with cgmaetc. Sounds like h.s. drama... I'd confront him. If he doesn't believe me, I'll happily get tested as long as he gets tested, too. If he decided not to, I'm going to tell him that he must have something to hide and then, dump his ass. If I decided to wait a while before having sex with him, it probably meant I wasn't sure about his intentions or he wasn't that special. Oh well...some rumors will probably pop up about him having a venereal disease now...
kellys kellys 9 years
if you can't have a frank conversation with the guy without risking the relationship, what are you doing with him in the first place?
iRose iRose 9 years
Just tell him the truth. If he doesn't believe you, let him go.
Asia84 Asia84 9 years
these Handle This are always silly.
cubadog cubadog 9 years
Conforting him sounds so harsh it is not like he started it maybe he's doing the adult thing and ignoring it. I would just tell him that you know about the rumor that you have an STI and you just want his honest take on the whole thing.
CoMMember13630786602261 CoMMember13630786602261 9 years
That girl on the left in the picture looks like Stacy London(from what not to wear) Anyway, I would just confront him. Not all confrontation is bad, infact sometimes its the only way to clear the air. I would just say "Look, I heard about this rumor that was going around about me and I just want you to know that its not true" if he still doesnt believe you, go get tested and show him the results.
sarahcateh sarahcateh 9 years
I would definitely confront him for not talking to me about it, then if he was really worried about it I would get tested and show him the results! It's not rocket science. He's an idiot for believing word of mouth.
cgmaetc cgmaetc 9 years
I'm sorry, is this Dear High School Sugar?
omilawd omilawd 9 years
*With my sig. other, not the world, by the way.
omilawd omilawd 9 years
Get tested, share the results and be done with it.
Lovely_1 Lovely_1 9 years
I would just tell him to come to the doctors with me if he didn't believe me haha! Then beat that person who spead that rumour...
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