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Handle This: Your Boyfriend Gets Arrested

You’ve been with your current boyfriend for just over a year, and although you do love him, times have been rough recently. He’s been going through a difficult period after an unexpected loss in his family that’s really taken a toll on your relationship. You’re actually relieved to have some time to yourself when he heads to Vegas for a guys' weekend.

You're completely shocked when you get a phone call in the middle of the night from your boyfriend — he’s calling collect from jail. It turns out that he and his friends decided it would be fun to sneak into one of the nicer hotel pools after hours and steal drinks from the bar. You’re completely shocked at his immaturity, but he’s begging you to help bail him out. He sounds really upset, but then again, so are you. How would you handle this?


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JaimeLeah526 JaimeLeah526 9 years
I'd make him think I wasn't going to bail him out and make him think about what he did. Hopefully when he gets home he'll realize what a catch you are and try and make it up to you and if not I'd dump his ass.
brutalcupcake brutalcupcake 9 years
I would help him. For one thing, the crime wasn't as bad as they go, and another thing is that in order for me to be with him for a year, I'd probably be very much devoted and in love.
msgolitelee msgolitelee 9 years
I will never bail a man out of jail. If I got arrested, my man is not the person I would call. I would call my parents. I had a bf in college who was a huge pot smoker and I always told him don't call me from jail, I did nothing to get you there, I will do nothing to get you out. My money is not for that. Sorry.
Asia84 Asia84 9 years
Melizzle: "Been there... boys will be boys. Bail him out." yes. boys will be boys. but i don't deal with children. i date grown men. boys do stuff like that when they are in high school and on spring break. even in high school i didn't date the guy who ran with the crowd of ding-a-lins. my BF was trying to get scholarships, so he knew he couldn't f*ck around. so i just don't understand the concept of accepting a man who does stupid sh*t. (shakes head)
emmebeth emmebeth 9 years
I'd bail him out with HIS money.
vmruby vmruby 9 years
I'm not up for immature pranks whatever the reason........ id leave his a$$ there.
melizzle melizzle 9 years
Been there... boys will be boys. Bail him out.
Pistil Pistil 9 years
I agree with those who wouldn't bail him out. I'd tell him to call his parents or something. I don't think hitting a rough spot in your life is an excuse to act like an idiot.
PrincessTracy PrincessTracy 9 years
HA! Been there...bail him out and don't let him forget about it.
kiwitwist kiwitwist 9 years
I would bail him out after a few hours of time. Let him think about his dumb choices.
lady-T lady-T 9 years
i'd laugh and think it was a prank..then tell him to call his parents as well...if my boyf had an unexpected loss in the family he would probably get arrested but not for stealing drinks from a hotel bar!!!
jedimasterarmi jedimasterarmi 9 years
yay emalove! i so totally agree!
emalove emalove 9 years
I'd be totally annoyed by this and I certainly wouldn't be rushing to bail him out. Immaturity isn't a turn-on to me.
remedios remedios 9 years
I'd take the Jude C approach - bail him out, yell at him, then later, mock him, particularly as he served whatever community service or whatever he needed to do. Let's just hope this is a rare lapse in judgment. Obviously if not so rare, then that would have more serious ramifications on the relationship.
Sydney-C Sydney-C 9 years
First of all, I would die of shock if my oh-so straight and narrow boyfriend ever got arrested. Or went to Vegas. Of the two of us, it would WAY more likely be me making that phone call than him lol.
jedimasterarmi jedimasterarmi 9 years
i'd leave him in the jail-if my boyfriend did a 180 and did that, he probably needs to spend some time in there to figure things out. after he'd get out, i would then discuss a few things with him. no matter what the loss is, that's not an excuse for an adult to act like a complete f*cktard.
Asia84 Asia84 9 years
I live in L.A. so you want me get out of my bed and drive up the f*ckin' Cajon pass, not to mention fill my car with gas, go to an ATM at night and get money to get YOUR a*s?? AND drive all the way back to L.A with your sorry a*s talking about how sorry you are and how you're gonna pay me back?????? you MUST have life f*cked up!
Asia84 Asia84 9 years
what? i don't accept collect calls. . . his a*s would've been stranded. you think i'm gonna bail your stupid a*s out of jail when you did something like a f*ckin' high schooler???? you know you can't f*ck around in Vegas.
livilou livilou 9 years
If my boyfriend went to vegas I would be with him!! Not only would I want to be- but I think he would want me to go with him- I really do...but if he went alone and got arrested etc...I would bail him if I had the money.or I would probably USE HIS MONEY TO BAIL HIM OUT. And even then he would kinda always owe me big!! ;)
petite42 petite42 9 years
It's not like he got arrested for murder or rape. And, there are mitigating circumstances, considering he's still reeling from a death in the family. I *would* bail him out - but I'd first make him promise to commit to some therapy to find a more productive, mature way to deal with his grief.
7kimba7 7kimba7 9 years
If my late-20s years old boyfriend (crazy grammar, I know) broke into a hotel pool and stole alcohol and got arrested, I wouldn't bail him out. I would laugh and say I'm sorry my love, but you made your bed on this one. Just because I wouldn't bail him out doesn't mean I would scream at him or dump him... I just wouldn't bail him out!
Tullia Tullia 9 years
everybody makes mistakes..and I am no one to judge myself. So, I'd bail him out and laugh it off.
DearSugarLover DearSugarLover 9 years
i would tell that loser to to find his own effing way out and not to call you ever again...may sound harsh but TRUST me, if your boyfriend is stealing beers from a hotel and getting arrested in the act it won't work out anyways. besides if he's dumb enough to get caught he deserves to sit in jail.
j2e1n9 j2e1n9 9 years
Good friends stay with you through thick and thin. A good friend would be there for you no matter what, and wouldnt judge you for making a mistake.
Jude-C Jude-C 9 years
Bail him out and then give him hell, and, a few weeks later, turn it into a story I'd use to relentlessly mock him (lovingly, of course) every chance I get!
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