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Handle This: Your Ex Refuses to Acknowledge You

At a mutual friend’s going-away party, you encounter your ex and his new girlfriend, much to your surprise. Although you know the situation is invariably awkward, you decide to go out of your way to be friendly.

When standing with a group of friends, your ex comes up to introduce his girlfriend but conveniently skips over you — you can’t help but be offended. His refusal to acknowledge you has only served to make things more uncomfortable so how do you handle this?


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soybean589 soybean589 8 years
I don't understand what the new girl has to do with anything except that she's the new girl. This is a reflection of your ex's inability to behave appropriately in social situations. I hope you ended up introducing yourself anyway (with no mention that you are his ex) and leaving it at that - take the high road!
ilanac13 ilanac13 8 years
well that's kind of an expected reaction - for someone to deny that you're even there if they fear that it's going to cause an issue. i would just sweetly (not sugary sweet) but nicely introduce yourself if you guys continue to be in the same group chatting. you know that she's going to realize that there was something odd going on - women are good at reading situations and by his ignoring your existence for that second - it sent a red flag up and that's not good. if you make her feel more comfortable, then maybe he'll be 'normal' and not so awkward and you guys can be ok when you're in the same place.
CoMMember13630786602261 CoMMember13630786602261 8 years
Im sure everyone else can sense the big elephant in the room, so I wouldnt want to make everyone else even more uncomfortable by acknowledging what he did. Im sure everyone else would have noticed his immatureness, so I would be happy knowing that he just made an ass of himself.
thelorax thelorax 8 years
You can't really expect the new girl to be super receptive and friendly though, I mean if the guy is already acting weird she's going to sense that something is amiss and she'll feed off his's a nice idea to try to be cordial and friendly and certainly can't hurt, but it's probably not going to change however she feels one way or the other.
JaimeLeah526 JaimeLeah526 8 years
Depends on how the breakup went. I'd like to say I'd introduce myself and say "he skipped me because he still pictures me when the two of you are having sex." In reality I'd probably just walk away and talk to other people and ignore him. I would love it though if she pointed it out or if she introduced herself later.
callmehoney callmehoney 8 years
it happens to me all the time. they come and go...saying hi and bye to everyone except me. it was very hurtful at first...but i'm over it now. theres nothing you can do about someone's rudeness. i tried saying hi once..hoping it'll break the tension...but it was pointless. they continue to pretend i'm not even in the room. so i say...let it go and pretend they're not there.
bluestar bluestar 8 years
I would introduce myself and let it go.
seraphimm seraphimm 8 years
LOVE Cubadog's comment. I couldn't agree more. This situation actually happened to my friend once!! She tried to introduce herself to be nice and stuck her hand out (to the new girl), but the bitch refused to shake her hand and gave her a dirty look and walked away. WTF
omilawd omilawd 8 years
It's whatever. I'd get on with my life.
LoveSarah LoveSarah 8 years
Well, one of my exes would never be invited to one of my friends parties, but besides that, I would just say "Hi, I'm Sarah, whats your name?" after he was done introducing people. I'm sure the second they walked in she would know who I am, and lucky for my I would have my fiance by my side, so it would be an even playing field.
quitecontrary quitecontrary 8 years
Nasty situation! Hurtful to you and I can't help but wonder how the new girl feels, too! If he is as obvious as NOT introducing you in a group of friends, it really underlines his baggage from your old relationship. If I were her, it'd be a pretty good indication that he's a real jerk and to swiftly become another of his exes!
sundaygreen sundaygreen 8 years
Yeah I would just say hi to her, why do you need an immature idiot to introduce you? Be the bigger person and just hold your head up high. Everyone else at the party will think he's a big old sore loser.
sparklestar sparklestar 8 years
This would be pretty normal. He skips in and out of acknowledging me all the time. ;p
LadyLiLa83 LadyLiLa83 8 years
I would be kind of irked, but I would definitely jump in and say "Hi I'm *yournamehere*". You could also throw in a little "Since we weren't properly introduced before". But that's just something I'd do (because apparently I'm a bitch).
caryatid caryatid 8 years
knowing my friends, i'm sure one of them would be more than happy to jump in and acknowledge that i'm a person. =)
Mesayme Mesayme 8 years
That's so hurtful, knowing me I'd slip away and cry it out in private,stifle it and go back out there. It sounds easier than when it actually happens I'm sure.
lickety-split lickety-split 8 years
i would probably would say something like "what was your name? i'm mary, love your boots/bag/sweater" and be super sweet :kiss: and ignore him :raspberry:
candace87 candace87 8 years
Thats rude! I would just roll my eyes and walk away. No use causing a scene over some immature boy. Out of curiousity, though, I would probably have to ask him later why he skipped over me.
Melo-D Melo-D 8 years
I would just say hi to her. No need to introduce myself or feel the need to shake her hand or anything over the top. Just a simple hello. She knows who I am most likely and that would just be even more awkward. Now afterward, I'd have to get on him about being rude.
thelorax thelorax 8 years
I would just let it be. Consider the new girlfriend - it's awkward enough for her to be at the same party as you (especially if you're the type to expect to be "acknowledged" by your former, HER current guy), I'm SURE she already knows who you are...don't make it more difficult by adding your own immaturity to his.
CYL CYL 8 years
just leave it be? no point in making a big deal out of it...everone else knows..and believe me if my guy skips introducing a girl to me i would ask him what is up afterwards...we don't have women's intution for nothing...
cubadog cubadog 8 years
I would just add and I am insert name after he is done introducing everyone else. I am sure she already knew who you were the minute they walked in the door.
CAgirl25 CAgirl25 8 years
Just be glad. Another good reason why you aren't with him anymore. Immaturity! Be glad.
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