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Has a Tragedy Ever Brought You Closer?

As I'm sure you all heard, DJ AM and Travis Barker were critically injured in a plane crash over the weekend but thankfully, both are expected to make a full recovery. Although they are no longer together, I just learned that AM's ex-girlfriend Mandy Moore rushed to his bedside in South Carolina yesterday to support him on his road to recovery. Her presence clearly proves that she still cares a great deal for her ex, which got me thinking about how the worst scenarios have the ability to bring people together. Has a tragedy every brought you close to an old flame or to anyone you had an estranged relationship with?


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Airborne-Wife Airborne-Wife 8 years
When me and my now husband were 18 we had a bad breakup after dating for 2 years over his friends and the direction of his life. 3 months after our breakup, his mother called to tell me his brother had been killed by a drunk driver. I rushed to hospital to be by his family side, and we ended up rekindling our relationship. He joined the Army Airborne in order to set his life on track for us. And now 3 years later, we're happily married expecting our first child together.
ilanac13 ilanac13 8 years
i've been pretty fortunate (knock on wood) that i've never endured a tragedy or my fiance hasn't that has pulled us closer together. ok...maybe i can't say that - about 2 months after my fiance and i started dating, i was in NYC (i lived in FL at the time) for a client meeting and i fell and broke my knee - i had to have MAJOR knee surgery and i was in the hospital for 10 days. my boy(not even boyfriend) at the time go on a plane and flew up to NYC to see me, and he hadn't even met my family before yet they went to pick him up in the airport and they bonded on the ride over to the hospital. granted that's not a tragedy but it def brought us closer together.
JaimeLeah526 JaimeLeah526 8 years
I don't really think that it means she wants to be with him or anything she just cares about him and wanted to make sure he was okay. I certainly hope Nicole Richie at least called him but I bet she didn't, she seems like a bitch and Mandy seems like a sweetheart. It's the normal and right thing to do.
skigurl skigurl 8 years
no, marni, i think your post is relevant. it's really nice to have someone there for you
nickadams nickadams 8 years
My x girlfriends father passed away last year and for some reason she appeared at my door,in the middle of the night. She said I made her feel like home. Tragedy is inevitable in life it is important to have a support system to fall back on. If I recall correctly, Adam was one of the first people Mandy turned to after her last breakup. Loss and tragedy is a good test of friendship the truth often floats to the top. Its under these circumstances One knows in there heart who they feel safe with and who is just along for the fair weather. Be careful Mandy on what kind of plane you get on, with all the air miles you put on each year crashing is always a possibility. Please don’t let anything happen to you. Sorry about your friend. ):
Mesayme Mesayme 8 years
I have to add the truth to my answer.There is someone I'd be devastated to find out that he was seriously injured but I wouldn't even be able to visit him. Nor would I be welcome. He's moved on with his life (has a girlfriend) and it doesn't include me. I don't know which is worst. Having someone hurt you love or loving someone who could be hurt and you have to suffer alone with secondhand information. :OY:
lickety-split lickety-split 8 years
i have a friend who is an airline pilot, as is her ex husband. on 9/11 he was in the air (not as a pilot) and his plane was ordered (like all planes that day) to land immediately. some how the people on the flight found out what was going on and he called my friend to apologize for all the bs and say he still loved her. they briefly reunited and then the divorce got REALLY ugly. much worse than before. anyway, i think it can give you another chance to think about your feelings for the other person. but if you deal with tragedy differently it can tear you apart.
kia kia 8 years
The tragedy of 9/11 helped me realize that my ex was not for me. His lack of compassion was a huge wake up call for me.
bransugar79 bransugar79 8 years
This happened with my husband. We had an on and off relationship for quite some time but we always loved each other and tried to be friends. When my sister passed away he flew out to California for a week just to be with me and my family. It was really great to have him there and it made us realize that life is too short to keep going back and forth. Six months later I moved out here and we got married this April.
Pallas-Athena Pallas-Athena 8 years
Yes. When my cousin's husband died it brought all of my family together and we helped each other and loved each other more than we ever have and we'll probably never do it again. Even my aunt (her mom) who everyone was angry with for various (but good) reasons stopped being selfish and stepped up and acted like a mom.
vmruby vmruby 8 years
Yes ..... our mom passed away from cancer almost 5 months ago and it has brought me closer to my younger sister(I'm really close to my other 2 siblings).We were about as estranged as 2 people could get.She's matured alot and has become a different person with whom I can now feel respect for since all of that happened. Before that I couldn't stand the very air that she breathed.
talanted08 talanted08 8 years
like I was saying before I got disconnected.... the current b/f told her she had to choose. Well she decided that her ex was in need of her presence so she went to his side like most women but when it all was said and done they ended up being together and having a wonderful child. So I guess some good and bad can come out of it!
talanted08 talanted08 8 years
As I reacall I haven't really exsperince anything like that but I did have a friend that went through this exact thing! Her ex had a car accident and at this time she was with a man that really loved her for her and not for what she has! She went back to her ex and helped him recovery but the current b/f wasn't going to let it go that easy
Mesayme Mesayme 8 years
No, not personally. But I'm loving Travis more than ever. :cry:
redemiami redemiami 8 years
My freshman year if college one of my friends was killed in a off-campus fight. I had been casually seeing a guy who also happened to be friends with the guy who had passed away, although we had pretty much broken it off because summer break was fast approaching. I don't know why, but the tragedy brought us back together in a way we didn't expect and we spent the whole summer glued to one another. It ended eventually when school started again but I always thought it was our friend's death that brought us together, as morbid as that sounds.
Marni7 Marni7 8 years
hey i just realized this question was meant about an ex or someone i had an estranged relationship with..ooppsss! I shouldve read the whole thing before I posted!
Marni7 Marni7 8 years
Yes, my boy has always been there for me..including driving me to Boston from Philly in the middle of the night during a week night to see my dad in the hospital bcus he had to have an emergency procedure..then driving back the next day to work..if thats not love... ;) just reminds me of how lucky i am...Im going to go home n kiss my troll tonite lol :)
Shopaholichunny Shopaholichunny 8 years
Awwww! :) That's really sweet of her. Yes I have done this in the past. I was really close to my ex-boyfriend's family when we were together and when his mom was in the hospital I just HAD to go over there and visit her and of course he was there too. It was the right thing to do and it wasn't uncomfortable at all.
jessie jessie 8 years
i'm glad to hear he has someone at his side....he needs that.
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