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Have You Dated Someone With Opposing Political Views?

I'm sure most of you were glued to the TV last night watching the vice-presidential debate, and regardless of your political stance, I bet you had quite a bit to say throughout their heated discussion. Now as we all know, topics like politics, race, and religion are usually avoided in certain situations, but what happens when you don't see eye to eye with your significant other on important matters like war, the economy, women's rights, or where our country is headed? Can you agree to disagree? Does it change the way you see your partner? Or do politically heated debates at home keep you on your toes? I'm curious so tell me, have you ever dated someone with opposing political views?

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cjmara805 cjmara805 8 years
We have opposing political views so we usually just avoid talking about politics altogether. I (begrudgingly) respect his views, and he applauds my reasons behind my views. Although I hate how he says that I voted for "the winner."
DemiDaye DemiDaye 8 years
My first boyfriend was libertarian, which is essentially anarchist. I admired his beliefs and agreed on the whole. In a nutshell, he believed each person should be free to do what they like as long as they're not hurting anyone. That meant that he was all for gay marriage and freedom of choice and religion and so on and so forth-- all things I am passionate about, since I am a liberal. However, for reasons completely unbeknownst to me, libertarians support the republican ticket-- something about how the party had been formed had sided them with conservatives, and because liberals are closer to communists which are the antithesis of anarchists. It boggled me, though, because I felt that the social agenda of republicans went completely against his beliefs, and only the fiscal side co-incided with it. We had to agree to disagree many times, but given I am a kind of hard-headed and somewhat (sadly) close minded liberal, it was harder for me than him. We're still great friends though even though it didn't work out with us. My new beau comes from the city Sarah Palin is from-- so that says something about what he believes. x_x His family is super super conservative, not to mention racist-- his grandmother still bandies the n-word about. =( My boyfriend has always been the odd one out in his family though-- but nevertheless they have influenced him a lot. After meeting me he has changed a lot, because if you present things logically to him he tends to make an informed decision, and I think I make some good arguments against what his family believes. Sometimes I feel that maybe I'm just doing the same thing his family did to him-- (his family probably hates me) but I'm glad he mostly sees eye to eye with me. I couldn't live with someone who thinks gay marriage is wrong and so on and s forth. What do you say to someone who insists that Disney is putting sex in their films to brainwash children and that he saw a documentary *cough*propaganda*cough* on it, so it MUST be true!? (Biggest argument we ever had)! Thankfully, he's different now, but his family is the same, and that terrifies me, because they are exactly like Palin & Co-- except more honest about it.
kristints kristints 8 years
Ok, Mykie, seriously? Knowledge?! Joe, more than once had to point out that she had her facts wrong! If the electoral votes weren't leaning in my direction, I'd be really terrified!
bebehaul24 bebehaul24 8 years
ohh yes I dated a guy who was extremely liberal and I'm a moderate conservative. We would get into so many arguments about politics that it became a big problem in our relationship. Our arguments were frequent (it was a heated relationship) and they would turn into us actually being mad at each other. Honestly, I really enjoy arguing so it was stimulating for me but being that he was in the performing arts and all of his friends were as liberal as him it was sort of a novelty for him that he was dating someone conservative. That was annoying.
Antioxidant Antioxidant 8 years
My boyfriend of 1.5 years is the only guy I've dated and we share pretty much identical views. We're both liberal athiests. It's kinda creepy the way that happenend. I know it sounds bad, but I don't think I could be with someone romantically who didn't have the same political opinions as me. Not that I constantly want to surround myself with like-minds, that's never wise.
pippins_halfling pippins_halfling 8 years
Mykie7, what eloquence and knowledge? Palin hardly answered anything; in fact, I think she only directly answered one question. Biden actually knew what he was talking about. And no, I couldn't date someone with different political views. I think it would just frustrate me too much if we couldn't agree on issues I thought were really important.
ilanac13 ilanac13 8 years
i've typically dated people who have opposing views on things so that we can have better discussions about things. not to say that i'm wishy washy or anything, but i don't ALWAYS stick to one party or another, i'm more about being into individual issues..and that's where our discussions spurn from. my fiance right now has a lot of different thoughts and views on things, and i think that's part of what makes us happy together. we know that we're going to debate and 'fight' about what we think is right, but it's something that's fun to talk more about.
JaimeLeah526 JaimeLeah526 8 years
My husband and I have a lot of the same views so it's not an issue there. I wouldn't let it come between us since everyone is entitled to their own opinion anyway.
Liz4aker Liz4aker 8 years
My BF works in politics and is conservative. I consider myself really moderate, so we disagree on most social issues and agree the majority of the time on economics. We both understand why the other believes what they believe (childhood/life experiences) so even if we don't agree with each other, we respect each other's opinions (normally). We have had some heated debates though. I think the hardest part for me is when we are around people from his firm. Basically I have to keep my mouth shut for his career. However I guess it is better than the really heated debates I have with my friends. They tend to be die hard liberals who can't tolerates anyone elses opinions and attack a person rather than the issue. My friends and I have agreed not to discuss politics anymore.
stumbler02 stumbler02 8 years
Depends on the issue in question and how passionate he is. My boyfriend is a Republican but he's fairly apathetic, so I'm comfortable with it. I actually appreciate his conservative lifestyle and values, because he sticks to them, unlike most Republican politicians.
cjmara805 cjmara805 8 years
He's a strict republican and I'm pretty mixed on my political views and he knows to never ever bring up politics. It's just unspoken between us.
cravinsugar cravinsugar 8 years
This wouldn't work for me. My fiance is conservative and so am i, althoug he likes to make me argue....he says it is fun to get me all riled up lmao
juicebox07 juicebox07 8 years
My boyfriend and I are like opposites when it comes to big issues. He's Christian. I'm atheist. He's conservative. I'm liberal. I do feel it hurts our relationship to a certain degree. At this point we try to agree to disagree, but sometimes we end up in arguments over these issues.
lickety-split lickety-split 8 years
i did, but not for long, lol.
Smilesp Smilesp 8 years
My ex boyfriend and I have very different and strong political views. I'm very liberal and he's pretty conservative and in the army. We didn't have any deep political discussions in order to avoid arguments...but we would make jokes about our differing views and pick on each other about it in a fun way. However, after we broke up his friend told me that it "really bothered" my ex that I wasn't a republican. I never felt that way but I guess it was a big thing to him.
RPeace RPeace 8 years
eloquence and knowledge? yikes
letsgetloud21 letsgetloud21 8 years
Go Mykie and her husband :WOOHOO:
Mykie7 Mykie7 8 years
I'm married to someone with radically different political views. Makes for some verrrrrrrrrrry interesting political conversations and keeps things "spicy". HOWEVER, last night after hearing Ms. Palin speak, you all lost an Obama supporter, sorry about that! LOL He was so impressed with her eloquence and knowledge (Yes, I said it and I know that the Obama folks disagree, but there you have it) that he said "That's it, I don't want a joker like Biden in office, she's got MY best interests at heart. I'm voting McCain Palin".
Mesayme Mesayme 8 years
Oh...I forgot. I don't mind a good debate but I refuse to spend my life arguing. And it's not my job to change anyone's mind... We need to agree on at least the fundamentals.
kristints kristints 8 years
I'm really into politics, so I could never (!) date a republican, there are so many issues like gay rights, women's right to have an abortion, etc. that I couldn't just "get past" with someone. But, as a vegetarian, I also wouldn't date someone who ate meat, you can't just ignore fundamental moral differences like that.
Mesayme Mesayme 8 years
I didn't find out about my ex-husband until we were splitting up and he let it (all that ugliness) hang out. First of all he's a democrat who doesn't know he's a republican. And he had me befriend his Arabic friend only to tell me later that he hates middle eastern people. Oh, and poor people in Haiti are just like lazy black people in the south. Gee, wonder why I divorced that WINNER? :SICK:
cherrypop cherrypop 8 years
My BF is a conservative and I'm a liberal. I found out he was a conservative when I brought up politics one day and it made me realize that he's not as liberal as he seemed to be. I'm pretty shocked but it turned out to be a good learning experience because it taught me about tolerance and embracing his beliefs. What he said sank in, "We have to disagree in order to agree," or something along that line.
Eaving Eaving 8 years
Yes, but the main problem was that he hated talking about politics and I loved it. In the end we had to put a virtual moratorium (hah) on such discussions, only every so often, etc. It wasn't a deal breaker but I do suggest that it doesn't matter what their views are, the crucial factor is do they like to discuss them and listen. Either way, tread lightly! <3
geebers geebers 8 years
My BF is fiscally conservative but otherwise he is liberal socially. I can handle someone who is fiscally conservative because I am too to a certain degree but I could not- absolutely not- be with someone who was socially conservative. That would be a nightmare. I also follow politics very closely so it does matter for me if someone totally disagree with my views. I also feel it boils down to values.
CoMMember13630786602261 CoMMember13630786602261 8 years
"Wow, allourregrets, that's... really judgmental of your boyfriend. " Im being judgemental? Obviously not, because Im with the guy and I care very much about him. I was answering the question.He was raised by a super conservative , super strict pastor. Hes told me stories about how his dad would not allow him to experience anything outside of the faith that HE believed. IE: When he was like 17 he had gotten a book on Buddism, because he seemed interesting to him...his dad found it and threw it away. He talks about how his parents beat their faith into him and his brothers heads. I dont think Im being judgemental at all, Im going from what he has told me and from what I have heard it is very hard for him to go against what his parents believe.
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