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Have You Ever Been Blindsided by a Breakup?

If you've been following the saga of Jessica Simpson's love life, you may have heard that the singer was blindsided by her recent breakup with football star Tony Romo.

While there may be a fine line between normal relationship troubles and serious warning signs, I think most people get a feeling that something's up before one partner decides the relationship has run its course. Still, I have a few friends who have been completely caught off guard when their significant others decided it was time to become exes. Has this ever happened to you?

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Vsugar Vsugar 8 years
Mine was the "first love" thing as well - we dated for all 4 years of high school, and everything was, well, GREAT. I can say that even now as a 30-something year old, happily married to the man of my dreams. I'm glad me and the high-school boyfriend didn't end up together, because I made out much better in the end, but at the time, the relationship was a really wonderful, loving, happy and satisfying relationship. One night, we were in bed (we dated for 3 years before having sex), and we were getting ready to go to college, and I made some comment about going to visit him, and he looked at me with this stupid SMILE on his face, and said, "Why would you come to visit me?" And I was like,... "uh, what the f*ck do you mean?" And he says, (again with that STUPID smile), "Well, we're going to college - aren't we breaking up??" And I just stared at him, wondering WHAT I was supposed to say to this extraordinary statement. And in reality, we had never talked about it - I assumed we were staying together, and he assumed we were breaking up. And as I'm sure you all know, the person who wants to break up is usually the one who gets their way. The coda to my story is that about 7 years later, he found me and said he'd made a terrible mistake, and we got back together for a while. He asked me to marry him after about 9 months of dating, and I said yes, and then about a month later realized he was definitely not the one, and ended it with him. It was pretty bad (for him), and I have no idea what ever happened to him after that. And don't really care. Weird to feel that way about someone I shed a lot of tears over.
Briandiesel Briandiesel 8 years
I was all blissful and then he broke up with me. Then I found out once we had worked everything out and were back together that he had broken up with me to sleep with someone who was leaving the country the day after we broke up. I stayed with him for 3 years. Damn that was lame. lol
juicebox07 juicebox07 8 years
Yes. I'm sure there were signs, but I was completely in denial. I really thought that him and I fit well together and would never break up. After that, I came back to reality. The funny thing is, we've been back together for a little while now. I never saw that one coming. However, this time I'm not out in dreamland thinking that I'm absolutely, positively going to marry this guy. The reality of it is that I just don't know. I'm taking it a day at a time with him. We'll see what happens.
GlowingMoon GlowingMoon 8 years
Yes, and it broke my heart. It's a long, complicated story.
LittleMzFit LittleMzFit 8 years
I'm like Sarah..I have blindsided someone (high school); however, I have been blindsided 2 different times. That ought to call it even. :)
elizabethsosewn elizabethsosewn 8 years
sorry. the first time we saw each other *after i came back*
elizabethsosewn elizabethsosewn 8 years
i was 17 and dating a 20 year old. man I was convinced we were gonna date long term at least. and I went away for christmas break and the first time we saw each other, he broke up with me admitting he didn't have time because of school, and didn't like having to "mind his manners" at parties. We're still friends, and we stayed friends immediately afterwards. But i was completely caught off guard. I was such a bitch to him after wards. I'd be polite 99% of the time but i was snap such sarcastic or just vicious jokes at him with a smile on my face and looking him dead in the eyes, in front of our friends. (they were on my side.)
Talldiva45 Talldiva45 8 years
Never been broken up with - hope that it stays that way. Fingers crossed/knock on wood.
sarah100682 sarah100682 8 years
I have never been blindsided, however I have blindsided someone before.
dikke-kus dikke-kus 8 years
I've had a few. Men can really be assholes. I was dating someone I loved in college. After returning from his apartment ond day he called me out of the blue and told me he had a serious girlfriend and I was the "other". That he didn't want to lose her. Can you imagine? I cried so hard I couldn't even hardly speak. He siad she found a note I innocently wrote and left on his floor.
Symphonee Symphonee 8 years
There was always a sign so I never really blind sided
Daisy-Doe Daisy-Doe 8 years
The breakup after my first long term relationship hit me hard. My entire world fell apart because I was sure he was the guy I was going to marry, even though I was only 17 at that time. After a few weeks when I started to recover from the big shock and I could look back on it I realised that it was for the better because it had been a very abusive, not healthy relationship. I realised I should have broken up with him months earlier. I know now that the only reason I stayed with him was because I was so scared of being alone. He cheated on me several times and I still wanted him to stay with me. I felt like I was going to die and I spent a week in bed crying. And though I can say it was a horrible relationship it thought me everything NOT to do in a relationship. Which really helps in my current relationship.
simplyfab87 simplyfab87 8 years
I've never been broken up with. Hope it never happens
Chrstne Chrstne 8 years
Well, kind of. When I was younger, I was in the long-term relationship with a guy I loved and cared about. Two years in, I remembered thinking about not being together, and didn't really take it seriously. I still felt in love and I still felt compassion. Well, fast forward another two years, it was our 4 year anniversary. We were at his house after dinner, and it hit me like a ton of bricks that I really cared about this person, and I could still go as far as to say I loved him, but I was done. I broke up with him that night, and didn't even shed a damn tear. I really did not see that coming. I don't know how, but I didn't. Maybe subconsiously. Anyway, we're still friends. But it took us both by surprise.
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