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Have You Ever Dated a Mama's Boy?

Have You Ever Dated a Mama's Boy?

In a way, that's a trick question.

Although "mama's boy" has negative connotations (he was smothered or spoiled by mom), a man who was raised with love and affection by a mother with boundaries often grows up to be what the author of Raising Boys Without Men calls a "head and heart" person.

This positive version of a mama's boy, says Peggy Drexler, is in touch with his and others' emotions and knows how to communicate. (This is assuming the mother herself is connected to her emotions and is a good communicator — a big assumption.)

Have you ever dated a man who was close to his mother? Was he spoiled, expecting you to do everything dear ol' mom did? Was he smothered, one wig and a rocking chair away from being Norman Bates? Or did it help him to respect women and teach him to be connected to his feelings?

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Sherellj Sherellj 7 years
Im with a Momas boy
mix-tape mix-tape 7 years
My ex was a total mama's boy and I liked it. Having a good relationship with your family is a major plus in my book. Unfortunately his mother passed away while we were dating and his entire life did a 180. It was a really depressing time in his life and mine as well :( be thankful for your bf/husband's family, regardless of their annoying traits!
starbucks2 starbucks2 7 years
My boyfriend's definitely not a momma's boy but in same ways she's had a bad influence. Don't get me wrong, she's a wonderful person. She just taught him, that men are uncapable of doing things around the house and women are meant to cook three times a day...Yeah, thanks a lot ;)
danizzle danizzle 7 years
ugh. i dated a boy who told his mom EVERYTHING. literally. like how we started having problems...in the bedroom...then when i met her...she told me how to "fix our problems" then, i came home one day to find them sitting on the couch, and her wearing my shoes. still gives me nightmares.
KadBunny KadBunny 7 years
No actually, weird o: In fact they all had crappy relationships with their moms. I wonder if it's to do with the fact I have a bad relationship with mine as well? Hmm.
ayuninur ayuninur 7 years
no
jesssa jesssa 7 years
yes, omgiod, my ex boyfriend was SUCH a mama's boy it actually makes me nauseous to think about. they would fight constantly because they were so alike and yet he listened to every word she said and treat it as gospel even though he's a grown-ass man. after we broke up, i thought we should try to make a go of it as friends, so we made plans to hang out. he was supposed to call me before he came over [just to watch football on tv] but he never did. when he came online that night, i asked him why he didn't just call even to tell me he wasn't coming and he said it was because his mom said it wasn't a good idea! he was nearly 24 years old at the time. mmhmm. my current boyfriend loves his mother and it's true, they are very similar and sometimes bicker because of it. however, he has a mind of his own and thankfully she doesn't make decisions for him beyond what she's making us for Sunday dinner
Autumns_Elegy Autumns_Elegy 7 years
My partner still lives at home and his mum constantly calls him. If he doesn't pick up she'll call every. Five. Minutes. He's not a mummys boy but his mum certainly is protective.
hiptobesquare hiptobesquare 7 years
such a huge problem; his mom forbid him from dating me, and took away privileges (we were in college and he was home for the summer), to the point that we could only e-mail. Sometimes. It didn't last too long after that.
fribblesandyoko fribblesandyoko 7 years
Ugh most annoying relationship I've ever had. Couldn't go one day without his mom calling him after work to see how/where he was...even though he still lived at home (we were 19 and going to college, living at home to save money, etc etc)
totygoliguez totygoliguez 7 years
To me is very important that my future boyfriend has a relationship with his mother;however, I don't want someone that is in love with his mother. My uncle is so close to my grand mother that has been unable to have a healthy relationship with any woman. He use to compare his poor ex-wife with his mother all the time, when he had free time he went to see his mother instead of being with his wife. I definitely don't want someone that wants me to be like his mother, and that is so close to his mother that is unable to have a healthy relationship with women. But its also important for me that the person I'm with respects, love and care for his mother because I know the importance of having a close relationship with your family. As long as it does not goes to the extreme I'm fine.
dfserine dfserine 7 years
And I'm still with him, five years later. My first love, and my last. The right kind of momma's boy knows how to treat a lady ;)
Jen-Erate Jen-Erate 7 years
I dont think the definiition of mama's boy is accurate. Most of the mama's boys that I have known (even dated a couple) were just so used to a life of pampering and privilege. They just felt I should so everything for them. a man who is in touch with what us women need is not a mama's boy, to me that makes him a real man, no matter the relation with his parents. Because if he is looking out for me it means I am number one
bchicgrl bchicgrl 7 years
I have and it was the worse relationship I ever had.
xxstardust xxstardust 7 years
I wouldn't say that my boyfriend is a momma's boy (although they do have a very good/loving relationship that definitely helped teach him the right way to treat a lady!) but as the oldest son in an Italian family with both his mom and his nonna living at home he had a few of the spoiled tendencies when we first came to college. He picked up real quick though, and in the last few months he's decided to make learning to cook his big project/goal ... and he said it's because when we're married I shouldn't have to do all the cooking all the time. He's a good boy :]
merie33 merie33 7 years
My boyfriend kind of is. But definitely the good kind, not the bad. He has a really good/open relationship with her, and in turn is very respectful of me and women in general. He does have a few of the spoiled tendencies, for example, he didn't know how to use the washer when we first went away to college (Mom and Grandma live at home...you bet he never even saw the inside of a washer before that!!) and he's a little handicapped when it comes time to make his own dinner. But it's nothing detrimental, or anything worth being frustrated over.
filmgirl81 filmgirl81 7 years
well there's the good kind of Mama's boy, and the bad kind. The good kind praises his mom, gets along with her, is neat in appearance, and respects women. The bad kind can't do anything without his mom's help or approval.
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