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Have You Ever Dated Someone Your Friends and Family Disliked?

If you tuned in to see the season four premiere of The Hills last night, you saw that nothing has changed with these characters — their dramatic relationships are just as tumultuous as they were last season. Though Heidi and Spencer have reconciled their relationship, they don't seem to be the least bit happy or in love. Every scene with them was filled with tension and vicious stares, leaving me questioning why they are even together in the first place. Not only has Spencer been the root cause of Heidi's broken friendships, but from the looks of it, he's going to be the cause of some sisterly squabbles.

It's pretty clear that Heidi is blinded by love, but I would think that having everyone around you disliking your boyfriend would make you take a second look. I'm not sure if this is all for the camera or not, but I'm curious, have you ever dated someone that your friends and family greatly disliked?

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oceanluv oceanluv 8 years
Oh yes and they were so right!!! I can def see where they were coming from now but it took years for me to come to see where they were coming from.
Red315 Red315 8 years
It seems like I had what everyone else has. My family and friends loathed my ex because he was arrogant, cocky, and truly a pain to deal with. I stupidly looked past it, and now wish I had listened a lot sooner. Ugh it's true your family and friends know you best, so definetly take their opinions into consideration!
brutalcupcake brutalcupcake 8 years
Yes. and they were right.
frenchie77 frenchie77 8 years
Yes - my now husband. At first my parents didn't think he was right for me. But he is the kind of guy who is hard to get to know at first because he is shy and won't really talk to people unless he's known them for awhile, so at first they couldn't see what we even talked about and thought I'd get bored with him. After a year or so, they loved him, and by the time we got married they wouldn't have wanted me with anyone else. If you KNOW it's right, sometimes it's best to follow your heart. Listen to their concerns, examine if they are valid - usually they are - but if they aren't, do as you wish.
sparklestar sparklestar 8 years
Yes but only one of my friends was able to tell me they didn't like him. :)
Joelgasm Joelgasm 8 years
No, but my brother has been dating this girl for a little over 2 years I believe, and pretty much my entire family hates her and her family. But, he says he loves her so I guess there's nothing we can do that won't push him away. :[
Frank-y-Ava Frank-y-Ava 8 years
I used to be in love with this guy that my family and a really good friend of mine doesn't like. We were gf/bf for a while but now I'm just using him for sex.
Jude-C Jude-C 8 years
When I split with my ex a few years back, both my brother and mom were all, "But he was so GOOD-LOOKING!" And I was all, "Yeah, and also A MORON!"
CYL CYL 8 years
Story of my life.... My mom hates my bf..and always laments about how my ex was better... "But mom you never liked HIM!!!!." and my mom goes "Ya but actually I really did..he was a nice boy..I just didn't like he had a daughter..without his daughter he would have been perfect". Then my mom acutally went to a psyhic and asked her if my current bf is "the one" for me..and came back and gloated about how the physic agreed with her! Every nice thing or good thing my boyfriend does she has to find a reason to criticize. Example a) boyfriend sends me flowers to work (my fav kind) because he is away on business the week of my b-day. My mother "well he is quite the player (I have been dating my bf for ages now...) b) My boyfriend is thoughtful and thinks through gifts and buys me jewllery I actually want. My mother: "Well he didn't but you that necklas or earrings from a REAL jewllery store that sells diamonds...its ONLY Blue better make sure its actual Silver...and WHY didn't he buy you anything nicer?" (I don't like super flashy jewllery!!). Ok end of rant...I know and I am sure my mother has my best intentions at heart and is trying to protect me because I am her baby...even though I am in my mid 20s with a great career and is perfectly able to take care of myself. It is just hard when they are overly protective :P
LilyLyra LilyLyra 8 years
Yeah. And they were all right. And even in the middle of the relationship I realized they were right but I just had no idea how to go about ending it... Crazy. I'm glad I'm so happy with my fiance now though, forgotten all about it.
LoveSarah LoveSarah 8 years
Yeah, the relationship I'm in now is like that. None of my friends and family HATE him, they just think I could do better, I guess. But it's really all shallow things, like he is kinda nerdy, and they think I should be with a model who is a doctor also. Though, my mom always tells me to marry rich (glad she cares about happiness and love...) and my friends love my current boyfriend, they just think he isn't "hot" enough for me. Which, is lame because I find him very attractive, and I love him to death! So, in this case I could care less about what they think, because him and I have been together for 4 years and we are extremely happy together. :D
RustyAngel73 RustyAngel73 8 years
Kind of...they didn't hate him, but they didn't think he was good for me, because he had schizophrenia. It didn't work out in the end, but not because of other peoples opinions.
nv27 nv27 8 years
We had a rough start b/c my bf is 14 years older than me. My whole family had a huge problem with the age thing at first, but once they figured out that he is an amazing guy they got over it. It was worth it to defend him and our relationship.
kmh5424 kmh5424 8 years
Yeah, my family and friends pretty much couldn't stand my jerk of an ex but didn't say much since we had a child together. Of course, they were right all along and they love my dbf now but that is probably cause he is a million times better and treats me wonderfully.
Deidre Deidre 8 years
Oh, of course! My bad boyfriend was during that glorious age 18 period where I was convinced that no one has ever felt as strongly as I did (ah, youth). Of course, if you're close with your family and friends, they are almost always right about the people you date and how well they complement or treat you. This guy was a jerk and (surprise, surprise), it ended badly. I was lucky that those close to me didn't pull any I-told-you-sos, they just supported me. Years of some good guys and some bad later, I now have a fiance that everyone loves as much as I do. And boy, does that make things easy!
princess_eab princess_eab 8 years
Yeah, and my friends were right on - he WAS an arrogant jerkface who treated everyone like crap.
sugarbritches sugarbritches 8 years
Yep, it was horrible, but some of my family behaved very badly during the whole thing and instead of waiting for him to hurt me they took care of inflicting a lot of pain themselves. The stress eventually got to us and we broke up, but there are family members I still refuse to talk to over it. Caring about someone's well being and trying to control them are two different things. Sometimes people, family included, need to step back and let other people breathe a little. The benefit? I've learned to be very conciencious of judging others and I think I'm a better friend because of it.
chicobo chicobo 8 years
My mom hates that idea that my current boyfriend is divorced. Oh well. They have yet to meet him (yet == next month). My friends and family have been supportive of pretty all my relationships so it's all good.
g1amourpuss g1amourpuss 8 years
Yes. Eventually I left.
zabrow zabrow 8 years
i dated a guy that my friends didn't like & that my mom only pretended to like because she knew that i loved him. didn't work out. sometimes people on the outside of your relationship can see things that you can't. i think it's rare that family & friends would wrongly dislike someone that you're dating if they're REALLY treating you well.
Jude-C Jude-C 8 years
Yep. It didn't work.
Seka21 Seka21 8 years
No... I am too honest to make a bad choice of man. hahah
bluestar bluestar 8 years
Yep and I should have known what they knew all along...that he was a scumbag!!
jenwils jenwils 8 years
Sometimes the unhealthiest relationships are the hardest to get out of.
alliallialli alliallialli 8 years
Yes, and it turns out they were right all along!
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