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Have You Ever Ended a Relationship Because of Your Family?

If you've been watching the Real Housewives of New Jersey, you might feel bad for housewife Jacqueline. Her sister-in-law Dina is no fan of Jacqueline's friend Danielle, a seemingly harmless but lost single mom with younger boyfriends and a sordid, perhaps criminal, past. And Danielle is no fan of Dina's.

I can tell Jacqueline doesn't want to abandon her friend, who has few people she can trust, but she also doesn't want to be on her sister-in-law's bad side. On last night's episode, Jacqueline revealed her temporary solution: she's imposing a no trash-talking-my-family rule while she's in Danielle's company. Still, I think it won't be long before Jacqueline has to give up her friendship with Danielle if she doesn't want to risk a riff in the family.

Have you ever had to implement the blood-is-thicker-than-water rule and end a relationship — romantic or platonic — because of your family's objections?

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dikke-kus dikke-kus 7 years
Actually I did once. But not how you think. I ended a close friendship with another artist I worked with in college. She and I really got along and we started being best friends. Then I found out she was dating my sisters boyfriend. It was unbelievable. Out of 20,000 single male students on campus she picked my sisters boyfriend. He looked a little bit like Kurt Russel. I quickly made my alliances known to her. I turned my back on her in class and hoped it would end, but she got him. Anyway I sided with my sister. My sister cried about it and I just remained by her side. I made my choice.
LittleMzFit LittleMzFit 8 years
Found out after divorce that my family didn't like my ex. Like others mentioned here, family wouldn't have stepped in but told me "after the fact." In a different situation, they liked a guy that I almost married but I noticed some red flags & did not marry him. My family still informs me periodically that I should have married him. Go figure! I think respect needs to work both ways, but also feel that ultimately it's my decision. I'm a grown girl.
lickety-split lickety-split 8 years
well i could give a crap if one of my sil's approved of my friendships. so i guess this doesn't apply to me. i don't even think of them as family, just my husband's, brother's wives. my mom tried to get me to end a relationship or 2 when i was in my 20's. ,it didn't go her way. my position is that adults select their own relationships.
marcied23 marcied23 8 years
talldiva, you should follow your heart, your family's probably not used to u having a significant other and they don't know how to handle it. best wishes with that. i've never had that problem with my close friends (the only people who meet my family) b/c they're all pretty cool. i have disliked a few of my sister's friends but only b/c i could tell they were using her, i kept my feelings to myself (but my sister could pick up on it) fortuneatly she opened her eyes and saw them for what they were and it wasn't a big deal with our relationship
Talldiva45 Talldiva45 8 years
I haven't - even though my family has said unfavorable things about my first about my first boyfriend (at the age of 24) No less. Families are critical all the same I guess but I believe and know that I have good judgement, which is why I waited to date until I was out of h.s. and a competitive college environment until I went the dating route. My college was expensive and I wanted to focus since I knew I would mostly be paying for it in loand w. my single mother's help....which I fully will always appreciate. So once I was out and deciding on grad school and relxing somewhat is when I happened to meet someone. Frustrating bc. my fam at times disapproves but I am going to follow my heart.
Ac2366 Ac2366 8 years
I would end a relationship with anyone who disrespected my parents, my brothers, or even my pets. Blood first. My ex encouraged me to distance myself from my family. Huge red flag. He couldn't stand the fact that they influenced me. He wanted to have supreme control over me. No dice. I require a man that gets along with his own family and has respect for my relationship with my family. Period.
sloane220 sloane220 8 years
no, but if someone i was with ever seriously disrespected a family member of mine i'd wouldn't be able to continue a relationship with them. as for friends, my family doesn't really know any of my friends, nor do they really want to.
sourcherry sourcherry 8 years
No. Not that my family would ever ask me to end a relationship with anybody, but if they didn't like somebody I'd still judge for myself.
genesisrocks genesisrocks 8 years
No but my family's not really finicky. If they don't like somebody, it's for a good reason and otherwise they know enough to keep their opinions to themselves. I choose friends who are the same way.
jenintx jenintx 8 years
My story's similar to Kia's. His mom hated me; my mom grew to hate him (she had more reason to than his it was OK that his mom hated me, but it was ultimatum time when my mom hated him). It should go without saying that the ultimatum did not bode well for him.
kty kty 8 years
my family never asked me to choose between them and my friends even though i knew they didn't approve of some of my friends
Chrstne Chrstne 8 years
I would have never considered ending a relationship because my parents did not like someone. Even if I was being abused, I'd end the relationship because I wanted to, and not because my parents told me so. This never happened to me, thankfully...and my parents didn't mind anyone I dated.
GlowingMoon GlowingMoon 8 years
Yes. I ended the friendships myself (my family never asked me to). Basically, my so-called friends were prejudiced against some of my family members. I found that unacceptable, so I ended the friendships.
kia kia 8 years
I once had a boyfriend who gave me an ultimatum about my family. He couldn't stand them and wanted me to cut them off or forgo my relationship with him. My family is not a group of saints, but this guy's request was over the top. He was doing this to try to protect me in his mind, but he is out of the picture now.
bransugar79 bransugar79 8 years
I think it's unnecessary to have to break up with someone just because your family doesn't like them. Like mamasita I have had friends that my family didn't think really valuable to me but, they wouldn't interfere unless there was something harmful about them. I've seen episodes of this show and it's all just drama drama drama. It isn't about family it's about control.
Smacks83 Smacks83 8 years
Not my family, but my bf's family (esp. the women) hate me. Let me tell you, it's not easy loving someone when their mom tells you to your face she would never tell me if her son cheated on me. *sigh*
mamasitamalita mamasitamalita 8 years
my mom especially disapproved of friends and boyfriends (mostly in high school), but she would just caution me and say "be their friend with your eyes wide open" meaning as long as i knew what i was getting into, then i could do what i wanted. i had a fairly rough "friend breakup" about 2 years ago, a friend from middle school through college, and my mom and sister both expressed their feelings after the fact that this girl did not always treat me kindly but wouldn't have stepped in while she and i were very very close.
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