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Have You Ever Faced Depression After a Breakup?

Not only can a breakup can be painful, but it might even trigger depression that can't be healed with a Sex and the City marathon, a weekend under the covers, or a couple of forced girls' nights out. When Alexa Ray Joel recently broke up with her boyfriend, she says she experienced real depression that led to an overdose on sleep medication. Now the celebrity daughter says she will dedicate her time to raising awareness about "heartbreak-related depression." She wrote on her Facebook page:

Although it does not get much attention in our society, it is a very serious and painful condition that often gets "swept under the carpet." I hope to bring this topic more to light.

Has a breakup ever triggered depression for you?

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bonchicbongenre bonchicbongenre 7 years
Yep. Twice. I'm one of those girls who put everything into a relationship, and when they fall apart I can barely function. Luckily, counseling and good friends got me out of it.
mix-tape mix-tape 7 years
Yes, but I also felt more depressed IN the relationship so after we broke up it took some time to get over him, but ultimately I was much happier without him.
redchick152 redchick152 7 years
i was going thru a break up my last semester of college and it was one of those unhealthy relationships where i cut out a lot of important people in my life. when things blew up i was devastated. i'd bartend all day, come home and sleep for a few hours, and then go out and get hammered and forget to eat all day. my insides were tied up in a knot and i felt like i couldn't breathe. then i graduated and moved away from most of the friends i did have left and just felt SO ALONE.
mrsmarkum09 mrsmarkum09 7 years
Totally. And it's miserable. I went through it several times with 2 long-term boyfriends who were NOT worth the trouble. It's crippling. And you don't want to feel that way, but you CAN'T help it. The loss of interest and appetite, social anxiety, insomnia and then constant sleeping spells....then when I met Mr. Wonderful, who dumped me two weeks before christmas because he was interested in someone else and didn't want to pursue both of us, I finally decided that if Mr. Wonderful couldn't even man-up, then f*ck 'em all. I was still upset, but it wasn't as bad. I started to enjoy not being attached! :D (and as it turns out, Mr. Wonderful really is, and now I'm Mrs. Wonderful. But results aren't typical!)
Veka Veka 7 years
No, however I was depressed the last month (of about 17 or 18 months) that we were together because I knew it was ending. After the breakup, I realized how much happier I was and I was able to get over him really quickly after all of the pain he caused me.
ckeller825 ckeller825 7 years
Only once, with my first true love. I've had boyfriends before him, but I was truly in love with him, and it happened AFTER we just got back from a week's vacation in Florida together (so it was out of the blue). I was depressed for about 3 months, literally couldn't eat for 3 weeks (15 lbs in the process), and all I did was lay in my bed and sleep. But my roommate at the time tried to help the best she could, and was a great support system when she realized how much of a depression I was going into.
Autumns_Elegy Autumns_Elegy 7 years
Yep. It was horrible, absolutely horrible. The only thing I did all day was stare at the computer screen and listen to Evanescence. Eventually I started to cut and then I just realised how far I was going and tried to put things back together bit by bit.
Yogaforlife Yogaforlife 7 years
Of course. After walking in on my boyfriend making out with two girls on valentine's day (we were at a party), I got seriously depressed. I was so depressed, I took my cat to my very tiny college apt. so I had something to cuddle. My normally controlled allergies went haywire in the apartment and I ended being hospitalized and had to get rid of my cat of 8 years! It was a double whammy - awful! I do think I cried more about the cat though than the guy.
Allytta Allytta 7 years
no, i try to keep myself sane
rayjoy rayjoy 7 years
Yes and it was the worst depression I've ever experienced! We broke up in 2002 and I was depressed until 2006. I thought I was going to marry him, I was excited about my future and filled with so many goals and when he left me, it felt like the world turn upside down. I think I was over him after a year or two but the depression stayed much longer. Just when I was starting to feel better, I met my current bf. Even after more than 3 years together, I have a hard time trusting him because I trusted my ex 100% and he left me and cheated on me.
sloane220 sloane220 7 years
yes when i broke it off with the first woman i was totally in love with. it took me about a year to return to any semblance of normality. all i wanted to do was listen to amy winehouse (wasn't the back to black album the perfect ode to breaking up?), keyshia cole, and mary and basically just anything depressing and be antisocial. thank god i had some friends to help support me and pull me out of it...and therapy.
marcied23 marcied23 7 years
i've never been in a long term relationship. i did however go through a depression when i lost my first real job (straight out of college) i had no clue what moves to make or where to go/what to do, it was a very sad stage.
juicebox07 juicebox07 7 years
Yes. Not a day went by that I didn't cry or feel upset. I did some stupid things like take too much cough medicine & sleeping pills, and I would cut myself.
nicklover nicklover 7 years
Nope. I figure that if a guy wastes my time and dumps me, I shouldn't be hurt because he wasn't worth it in the first plae.
Anne26 Anne26 7 years
Yep, last january. It was difficult and extremely hard to overcome. He was my best friend. Every time there was something fun, something sad he was there. I didn't even care how I looked in front of him because I knew he would still like me for me. He was the person I was thankful for when I woke up and when I went to sleep. Well, yeah it took about 8 months and therapy to help with that. I'm actually happy now maybe because I have adjusted to a new way of living. :-/
snarkypants snarkypants 7 years
*i should clarify. going out meant getting wasted and then crying hysterically in public. yeesh.
snarkypants snarkypants 7 years
oh yeah. it was BAD. really bad. luckily i had some awesome friends who stuck with me. i really didn't like myself, and was down to under 100 lbs (i'm 5'6), i went out all the time. eventually i got over it. but it was a long road to recovery.
bluestar bluestar 7 years
I did too. When I broke up with my ex, I lived alone and all of my friends were getting married so I felt more alone than ever. I remember picking myself up off my floor many nights. :( Ugh!! Good thing that was a long time ago and things DO get better. :)
totygoliguez totygoliguez 7 years
I think everybody has experience some kind of post-breakup-depression. Ending a relationship is never (especially when you are still in love with that person). You invested time, and yourself and is heart broken when thinks don't work out. (You usually feel like you just wasted valuable time). I think it is important to ask outside help when the depression is controlling your life.
reesiecup reesiecup 7 years
a breakup can serve as an emotional hit for many. it's helpful when you have family and friends to turn to, but i think i was totally down in the dumps following a breakup back in the day!
GlowingMoon GlowingMoon 7 years
filmgirl81 filmgirl81 7 years
No, but that's because I was depressed during the last leg of the relationship, so ending it made me happier
Monique-Marie427757 Monique-Marie427757 7 years
I was with the same man for almost 13 years, we are getting a divorce, I got depressed but I am trying to pull out of it.
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