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Have You Ever Had a Friend Sabotage You?

Monday night's episode of Gossip Girl was filled with the usual hijinks as best friends Serena and Blair found themselves competing for an opportunity to make it into Yale. But their particular method of competition involved consciously humiliating the other and trying to make each other look bad — not exactly friendly, to say the least.

Admittedly, their drama was over the top in true Gossip Girl fashion, but still, the idea of sacrificing a friendship for a personal opportunity lingered with me. In fact, I have had friends make me look bad so they could look better, and though it showed me their true colors, it still felt awful. Have you ever been in a situation like this? Are there any circumstances for which you'd potentially sacrifice a friend?

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ilanac13 ilanac13 8 years
well - i didn't realize it at the time, but yes, i think that i HAVE had a friend sabotage me. at my last job, i was really close to a girl that i worked with who was just below me in ranks, and well...when i asked for a raise and a promotion, i didn't get it because they said that if they did it for me then they knew that she would ask for the i decided that i was going to leave since i didn't need that, and then supposedly not even 6 months after i left, they gave her a promotion and all that. i know for a fact that she's not qualified so i don't know if she was just blowing smoke or what have you - but i know that she put a little buzz in my bosses ear to say that she was more qualified to be in the position than i.
K-is-For-Kait K-is-For-Kait 8 years
I've had it happened to me. An old friend wanted to be part of my ex-boyfriend's "in crowd" because she had a crush on a friend of his. She somehow felt the best way to do that would be to trash me on the internet and tell everyone how much she loved my ex's new gf.
kia kia 8 years
I have had someone attempt to sabotage me. Someone very close to me. I want to forgive them because their intentions failed, however they still don't want to acknowledge what happened and are just an angry person in general.
Poster-of-a-Girl Poster-of-a-Girl 8 years
This has never happened to me, I would never do this to my besties and they would never do it to me. Maybe this is why I have no problems getting along with girls - I've never really bothered to be friends with the truly backstabby
princess_eab princess_eab 8 years
There is a way to be competitive without being a b*tch. I'm a Ph.D. student in a competitive field and this is pretty obvious to me. If someone does this, they're not a friend, nor are they a friendly colleague.
geebers geebers 8 years
I used to have two good friends who were great separated but they kiss each other's a$$ constantly about something or the other when together. They almost always make fun of something I liked or did (while I swear if the other one liked it she would totally jump on that). Keep in mind they are in their late 20s like me. Yeah - talk about HS. Luckily I don't hang out with them often and limit myself from doing so.
rc4480 rc4480 8 years
a "best friend" of mine in jr. high absolutely loved 3-waying calls to "test friendship," as she put it. she would call person 1 and sow seeds of doubt about person 2. she would then 3 way call person 2, and with person 1 on the line (but silent, person 2 didn't know they were on), proceed to bash person 1 as a test to see if person 2 would go along or defend them! how terrible.
awkwardturtle awkwardturtle 8 years
4 me it was a group of girls that were all my neighbors and there were six of us and before i moved i was to young to understand how messed up that whole dynamic was and that friends aren't supposed to be the ones pulling you down they are supposed to be the ones helping you get back up. Now I am only in contact with one of them.
sugarbritches sugarbritches 8 years
Had it done and it was an awful feeling. My situation involved my immediate family so I can never get completely away from them but I try to maintain as much distance as I can. Have never done this to anyone else...thank goodness for that!
psterling psterling 8 years
sadly, my "best friend" from high school and I both used to do this type of thing to each other all the time (we had the same taste in boys, go figure). I'm not proud of it and we're not friends anymore so nobody won. I am a wiser and better friend for it now though.
Not-Princess22 Not-Princess22 8 years
My ex "best friend" started dating my exboyfriend behind mi back and told him everything I said about him, everything I did and everything about my new relationship. I wasnt mad because she was dating him (he is a total jerk and she was going to pay for it)but the fact that she sacrifice our friendship to look good for a guy that made me suffer the way he did was too much for me. Obviously I never talked to her again. The funny thing is that she went mad because I stopped talking to her :S and went to my house and broke one of my car´s lights :S I had to sued her and it was all messed up. They broke up a few months later, they still live in our boring small town and I moved with my boyfriend to a big city, got a scholarship, im getting my master degree and being the happiest that I ever been :D PS sorry for my english, im in Mexico :)
GinaSnyder GinaSnyder 8 years
I had the worst experience with this in college -- I completely wrote both girls out of my life. The one was my very best friend since 7th grade. She's been trying to make up for it and contact me by various means for the last 3 years. I've met with her a couple times since then, but I'll never be able to be real friends with her again because I just can't trust her. (Plus, she's still BFFs with the girl who helped her stab me in the back, so I REALLY can't trust her.)
Mesayme Mesayme 8 years
Good deal Hiding55! I couldn't imagine being bullied in 'real life' much less high school...had to be awful. The 'best' friends are the ones who treat you the best.
Ac2366 Ac2366 8 years
My 2 best friends in high school would gang up on me constantly in a feeble attempt to make themselves look better. Now I am 10 years wiser and needless to say no longer keep them as friends.
Mesayme Mesayme 8 years
I wouldn't do it...but it's been done to me, and I've never even met the b*tches. They just didn't like another female (nobody) getting any attention. It's in their bratty, entitled nature though. I've dealt with worst. But when you've got ties to the entertainment biz it's easier to take advantage of someone you got (so-called) information on...illegally I might add. I'd love to see all those brats take that mess to a prison. :ROTFL: There's enough karma for everyone!! Better watch how ya treat people you think are easy to maneuver.
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