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Have You Ever Snooped Through His Personal Files?

The folks at Glamour asked more than 2,000 men in their latest issue, 25 nosy questions, ranging from porn to cheating to everything in between. One question that caught my eye was about snooping. Their results showed that 34 percent of men surveyed read through their significant other's email while 66 percent said they had not — pretty surprising results if you ask me!

I have heard many horror stories about boyfriends and girlfriends hacking into each other's computers only to find damaging information, but when so many people have smartphones, it's easier than ever to snoop to your heart's content. Since the men didn't seem to have a problem answering this question, let me ask all of you the same one. Have you ever read through your significant other's emails or text messages? If so, did you find anything you wish you hadn't seen?


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Hazel2 Hazel2 9 years
Yes I have, but it was to delete a bad email I had sent to him. Yeah that's still not right, but I won't ever do it again, because it made a whole mess involving our friends.
Harmonie1 Harmonie1 9 years
Look, here's the bottom line. Everyone deserves privacy. If you're suspicious just go right out and ask. It's extremely immature and hateful to break your boyfriend's privacy. I have never done it and I know that I never will. If I have a problem, I just ask him face to face.
Lovely_1 Lovely_1 9 years
Nope. Never. I'm tempted sometimes but honestly, my bf doesn't even have time to hide things from me haha. We are both crazy busy with our lives, plus we trust and respect each other enough to know better.
cmichel cmichel 9 years
I had restrained myself for the longest time from snooping in my then boyfriend's e-mails and files, but when I did, not only did I find crazy amounts of porn, I also found out that my boyfriend of that time was having a 10 month relationship behind my back. We had been together for 4 years. The only reason I did it was because of serious suspicion, but I dont regret in one bit.
ayanaphil ayanaphil 9 years
I snooped through his things because he snooped through mine. What I found comfirmed my suspicions, so I'm glad I did it. Under normal circumstances, I wouldn't do it unless something else that was suspicious caught my eye.
trixiefire trixiefire 9 years
@popgoestheworld Aw, thanks. Its still rough. I was goin' through PTSD at the time, and really needed someone who I could trust, and so the betrayal had especial value. Thats why I often advise women here to always trust their instincts...its really hard to think everything is fantastic, and then find out its not...adding insult to injury was the fact that I am considered attractive and work hard to stay in shape, but he exclusively sought out "BBW" just added bewilderment on top of my other chaotic emotions... The sad thing is I know we could have been happier than anything if I hadnt looked...and I'm still happier that I found out, rather than not...I had being that oblivious sad sack...
nery85 nery85 9 years
just last week i went through my boyfriends myspace and saw a message he had sent to a girl on his friends list, worst thing i could have ever done, turns out he told her back in December that he did have a girlfriend but he didnt think that would last very long becuase he didnt want to be seriously involved with anyone, but we have been dating for 2 years now. so that was bad, but my brother is telling me that its not a big deal. so i just let it go. he doesnt know, and im not gonna telk him
cubadog cubadog 9 years
I like my privacy so I give the same respect to my boyfriend when I am in a relationship.
lcterp lcterp 9 years
My boyfriend has access to my e-mail only because I needed him to get something for me one time when I was not near a computer and I haven't felt the need to change my password or anything b/c I'm not hiding anything. I've looked on his computer and cell b/c I've had some past issues with exes and trust but found nothing and haven't looked since.
michelleannette michelleannette 9 years
never. i have no doubt in my mind that i can trust my boyfriend and he can trust me. we don't need to give each other access to our personal email accounts. since we live together and know each other well, i would be able to spot signs of something wrong by his actions. if i suspected something, i would ask him. i would never go snooping to find the answers. i don't know if it's just me, but the idea of snooping just makes me feel yucky all over.
CaterpillarGirl CaterpillarGirl 9 years
The only thing i have done is look at his friends on Myspace, and when i saw girls i didnt know, i went into his account and deleted them. He never said anything.
MiyabiNa MiyabiNa 9 years
on another note...I have nothing to hide either, so I have no problem with him checking my email/myspace/etc...unless I him a gift online and I don't want him to see it, then it may be a problem. But I know he doesn't check my email often...he has my pw but it's not memorized so he still has to ask me for it sometimes when he wants to look....I don't care...
MiyabiNa MiyabiNa 9 years
aeschere- SAME with me! I don't do it often, but sometimes I get this INTUITION or GUT FEELING something is up..and so far, I've been right every time. It's weird...I just get this feeling..EVEN WHEN I'M NO WHERE NEAR HIM.....kinda like a random thought that enters my mind (so random that I notice it and wonder why I think about it) and sometimes I even feel my heart "pang".... it almost always means my bf's ex is talking to him or he is talking to her (email, myspace, phone, etc...)...sure enough when i check his phone or his mail, there's a logged conversation or a message! so weird but so far every time I randomly feel that pang...I've been right. It's like a radar sensor I guess! LOL but other than that weird feeling every once in a while (and even less now since we've been together so long), I don't like to snoop...I don't need to...
emmebeth emmebeth 9 years
Yes, and yes.
1QTPIE 1QTPIE 9 years
Yes, by accident. We were fresh into our relationship and I was using his phone to text message my friend. (I lost my phone) Well I sent out my text message to my friend and when I went to check for a response I accidentally opened the wrong one. Well it was saying "Sorry for the way things ended" and it was dated after him and I got together. The only horrible thing was it went out on Thanksgiving when he was trying to be all lovey with me. I forgot about my text that I was waiting for and I took his phone to him and questioned it. Well we got past that. Now we both have e-mails. I had to change my account just to be safe. I didn't want old guy friends stirring things up. He has my password. I created his account for him for work and I know his password. We don't check each others unless we ask. There was another time that after a year and a half of being together she called. I had his phone because he left it sitting with me while he went outside. I recognized the number and answered it. She waited a while and then she hung up. He seems to have the trust issues though because he used to check my phone, like scroll my incoming and outgoing calls. He's eased up but I let him cause I have nothing to hide and if he has to go through my stuff to feel better then by all means also he bought and pays my phone bill... So I just tell him it's his phone when he wants to mess with it.
bbkf bbkf 9 years
My husband and I have each other's passwords; what's mine is his. The only time we're secretive is around the holidays and birthdays so we don't spoil any surprises.
pixelsugar pixelsugar 9 years
Once my boyfriend saved his gmail password on my computer and I didn't notice I was logged into his account until I saw a Craigslist ad he responded to. I never use that site and I figured it was a mistake, but when I opened it, he had responded to a personal ad for some chick. I called him immediately and he told me it was "just a joke." Yeah, we weren't together much longer after that.
lady-T lady-T 9 years
i look through my boyf text messages for just curious to see who he's texting that's all
brdwaystarlett brdwaystarlett 9 years
Absolutely not. Privacy is as big of a deal to me in a relationship as honesty. Besides, Facebook is enough stalking for this gal.
Jacinthe Jacinthe 9 years
Nope. Never felt the need to.
SpicyMe SpicyMe 9 years
I'm married and I'm huge on privacy! I would never give my husband my e-mail password. I know it sounds weird..but even thou we're married I still have to feel like I have some privacy. I've always been that way..ever since I was dating. :?
chakra_healer chakra_healer 9 years
No. Due to his career it would be illegal and highly unethical for me to hack into his personal files. If he had another profession, it would still be illegal and highly unethical for me to hack into his personal files. However, if he gave permission, I still have no interest.
KimBurnett KimBurnett 9 years
With my husband, I have never found anything I didn't want to see, so far. With one particular ex, yes, and I wanted to stab him in his "particulars" but I did not.
KimBurnett KimBurnett 9 years
Random2 Random2 9 years
I've given my boyfriend that password to my e-mail account when I couldn't get to a computer and I was waiting for an important e-mail, and the password to access my student account when he needed to print something. But I've never seen any of his. He's really private about his e-mails/ texts, and won't even leave me alone in the room with his computer or phone without locking them. And I don't really have the inclination to snoop and have told him so!
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