I am married to a great man who I love very much . I know that women have a higher risk of getting a urinary tract infection than men, so about a year ago I started making my husband wash his hands before we make love.
He has been really understanding about my concern, but I am at the point now where I would like him to take a shower beforehand and I am pressuring him to do so. Is that completely unnecessary? How good is my body at warding off germs and infections? Overly Conscious Catlin
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Dear Overly Conscious Catlin
Does your husband work with his hands? Does he work in construction or a job where he gets dirty? If so, I can understand why you would want him to shower and be fresh before you have sex but if he works at a desk job, showering is a little excessive and unnecessary.
You are correct that women run a higher risk of getting a UTI, mainly because we have a smaller urethra than men which makes it easier for germs to travel up to the bladder. These germs are usually found in your large intestine and in your stool. Once the germs are inside your urethra, they can travel up into your bladder and cause an infection.
The main culprit to getting a UTI is not drinking enough fluids, so keep yourself hydrated. Making sure to use the restroom both before and after sex will lower your chances of getting a UTI and try your hardest not to hold it when you have to go throughout the day.
There is also a pill out now called Microdantin which although it is an antibiotic, it's a low enough dosage to act as a preventative and precautionary treatment for those prone to getting UTIs. It is recommended to take this pill after intercourse but it is prescription, so I recommend seeing a Urologist if you do think you have a UTI.
Drinking cranberry juice is another trick to protect your body and flush out your system. The acids in it are known to help fight off bacteria in your bladder. While it is nice to have a clean husband get in your bed, the chances of getting a UTI from a dirty body are slim in my opinion.