I've been with my fiance for 5 years now. He is 30 and I am going to be turning 29. We just got engaged 3 months ago and I find myself questioning our relationship. We are best friends, we have so much fun together and I know he loves me. However, we have no intimacy whatsoever. He likes to cuddle and kiss and hold hands but that is about it. This issue has been raised for the last 2 years of our relationship. I have a desire and he's too tired or too lazy to do anything with me. We have sex less than 1 time a month. We had sex once on our engagement trip and that was it. And since then it has been maybe 2 times in the last 3 months. In fact, this month we haven't had sex at all. It's really bothering me and I am second guessing getting married to him.
If I bring it up, he gets angry and I have been bringing it up for 2 years now. I'm tired. I see that he will go on the internet and look at porn for an hour, sometimes half an hour or fifteen minutes for a few days in a row. Those days he does I ask to have sex and he says he is too tired. I am beginning to get more and more resentful to him and turned off. I am afraid I may even be becoming unattracted to him, especially when he doesn't want to have sex with me, yet still goes on the computer. It is even starting to disgust me. Is there anything I can do to get him interested again? He says he is attracted to me, that he finds me very desireable but is just too tired to try. I have lingerie, toys, so what else can I try? I want to try everything before ultimately giving up. However, because this has been going on for 2 years, I don't know if I can live the rest of my life without sex or intimacy. I'm afraid I might stray later on if I don't get what I want from him and my marriage would be a sham. To stay and continue to try and live my life like this with a nice husband and no passion or leave and maybe give up the love of my life. What to do?