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He Ended the Date with a Kiss on the Cheek, Now What?

Dear Sugar
I have been chatting with someone online for a little over a month, we decided to meet and spend the day together. I think we both had a great time, a lot of laughing and talking, things seemed to flow pretty smoothly and I think we were both very comfortable around each other.

So my question is, we ended the day with a hug and that we should definitely get together again, but what does that mean? Is it a good thing or a bad thing that we didn't kiss, or that we didn't set a specific time for our next date? How long should it be before I hear from him or should I be the one to call him? --Expecting More Elizabeth

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Dear Expecting More Elizabeth--

From what you have told me, it sounds like you had a great first date! Since that was the first time you have met face to face, I think getting along, laughing and maintaining a flowing conversation is the most important part of figuring out if you have a connection. Did you feel a spark? Were you attracted to each other physically?

Your date acted like a perfect gentleman by ending the night with a hug versus a kiss, so I wouldn't read too much into it-- remember, we all move at different paces! Give it a couple of days, if you don't hear from him and are up for making the first move, give him a call. Tell him how much fun you had with him the last time you hung out and suggest getting together this weekend, or next week for lunch or a drink.

Trust your instincts here-- if you felt a connection and think he feels the same way, take a chance and put yourself out there. What do you have to lose? Good luck!


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sexyeyes sexyeyes 10 years
I'm going to give you the most honest advice: Maybe he's not into you like that! I rather be truthful than go around the bushes... I have 3 brothers I should now... ___________________________________________________________ Behind every great man, there's a woman rolling her eyes :oy:
CatarinaBella521 CatarinaBella521 10 years
I agree, who knows if nothing else, it may turn into a wonderful friendship
missnomi missnomi 10 years
I would think the same thing as dear and almost famous above, but (and I hate to say this) I had the same thing happening to me recently, and although we had (have) great chemistry and physical attraction and great fun for 3 or so dates, he did seem to back out for some reason, and in hindsight I think that him not kissing me right away was indicative. So as for advice: Yes believe in it, give it another chance or so, but if it is not happening the next date or the one after that, let it go. (Sadly I had to, too).
kendalheart kendalheart 10 years
Me too bluejeanie! Rare to find a guy who does that..give it another try!
bluejeanie bluejeanie 10 years
i think a kiss on the cheek is very sweet. :kiss:
almost-famous almost-famous 10 years
Well, that [to me] means she might want to take things slowly. when men decide to do things slowly in a relationship, they genuinely feel like it's worth pursuing... dont worry take your time. I'm sure he had as much fun as you did. why when women get a good guy, they wanna go at a fast pace, but when the guy's not worth pursuing she'll go at a slower pace?
popgoestheworld popgoestheworld 10 years
Dear gave great advice and the only thing I can add is that I met my BF online and we definitely did not kiss on the first date (or second one, for that matter) and we've been together and happy for two years. So don't read too much into it :)
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